267 - Why You Lose Your Shit and How to Stop

Many of us have been taught to push through stress, wear busyness as a badge of honor, and keep up appearances no matter what, but join Jill this week as she discusses the possibility of true resilience not really being about handling more but about feeling more. Jill reflects on how she changed her relationship with stress, shifting from overwhelm to a place of calmness and being present.

Using a personal story of a particularly demanding day (a day that would have once caused her to spiral), Jill explains the power of expanding what she calls the "window of tolerance." This isn’t about endurance or being productive but is about making room for joy, peace, and trusting yourself. Through somatic practices, breathwork, and sensory techniques, she offers some practical ways to reconnect with the body rather than just trying to outthink it.

Jill, in addition, challenges our cultural obsession with busyness, suggesting that our inability to slow down isn’t a sign of strength but is rather a silent distress signal. She invites us to step inside our inner world and to stop running and start listening. By working on a more compassionate connection with ourselves, we don’t just cope better; we actually experience life more fully.

If you’ve ever felt trapped in a cycle of stress and self-doubt and feeling like you need to constantly be busy, then this episode of Be YOU offers another way forward, so listen in as Jill touches upon all of this and more!

Show Notes:

[01:31] - Jill reflects on her coaching success, stressing aligned action, trust, and embracing imperfection.
[04:45] - Jill's program’s quick enrollment is because of alignment, intuition, and trusting opportunities.
[07:29] - Jill realizes that she is personally experiencing a plot twist while guiding others through their own.
[10:14] - Hear about the window of tolerance, a flexible nervous system state that allows both presence amid stress.
[13:26] - Activation is helpful but can result in fight, flight, or freeze, requiring a widened tolerance window.
[15:14] - Jill explains how expanding the window of tolerance increases emotional resilience.
[17:50] - Despite challenges, Jill calmly managed responsibilities, prioritizing self-care and realizing her personal growth.
[20:41] - Jill reflects on having realized that true resilience isn't about overburdening yourself.
[23:59] - True healing comes from connecting with your body, not just affirmations.
[26:28] - Expanding your window of tolerance requires gently reconnecting with your body and allowing emotions without judgment.
[29:34] - Jill discusses how grounding techniques such as breathwork, humming, and sensory awareness help regulate the nervous system.
[31:34] - Everyone struggles sometimes, but you’re doing better than you think and can rewrite your story!

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