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Fear of Abandonment in Dating: Why You Push Love Away ~ Coaching With Kimmy

Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Release Date: 04/09/2025

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Are your past experiences getting in your way when it comes to dating? Specifically you may have a fear of abandonment that stems from childhood which is the reason you push people away subconsciously. Most people don’t realize that they hold onto their past traumas which impacts relationships. Fears that are created from this dynamic makes dating feel frustrating and anxiety-provoking. In Episode 393 of The Charisma Quotient, “Fear of Abandonment in Dating: Why You Push Love Away ~ Coaching With Kimmy” Kimmy coaches a woman live on this episode whose personal history and experiences echo the struggles many face in the realm of intimacy and self-perception. 

In this coaching session, Kimmy and Evelyn delve into the intricacies of how past abandonment issues can manifest in adult relationships, influencing the patterns we fall into and the people we attract. From forming quick, intense attachments to pushing partners away through self-sabotage, the discussion covers a spectrum of behaviors that many listeners will find familiar. Evelyn shares poignant anecdotes, such as the emotionally charged and rapid-moving relationship that led her to relocate across the country, only to find herself ensnared in familiar emotional pitfalls. Her story is a testament to the power of self-awareness and the challenges of translating that awareness into action.

 You’ll hear:

  • The top 5 ways a fear of abandonment may show up in a person’s romantic relationships and actionable steps for tackling these deep-seated fears. 

  • The concept of "shape-shifting" in relationships and why it causes you to lose touch with your authentic self.

  • Actionable steps from Kimmy for rewriting personal stories and reinforcing self-worth.

  • How seeking excessive reassurance from partners can lead to emotional exhaustion and breakdowns in relationships.

  • The duality of either erecting emotional walls or forming overly rapid attachments as a result of abandonment fears.

  • An unsuspected breakthrough Evelyn had on the call that caught her by surprise on why dating has been so hard.

If you want help overcoming your fears around dating book a FREE private breakthrough call with Kimmy:  https://meetme.so/kimbreakthrough⁣

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Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣

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