048: Attachment theory and spirituality with Dr. Bill Senyard
The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships
Release Date: 03/04/2024
063: Understanding and Overcoming the Freeze Response in Relationships with Lauren Dry
The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships
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062: How to deal with different parenting styles with Adam Angel
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060: How to make your relationship STRONG with Kristal Desantis
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058: Coping with PCS Stress with Michelle Farmer
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057: Navigating living overseas and OCONUS military life with Brianna Mendoza
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The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships
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054: How to Deal with Separation Anxiety in Relationships with Megan McCullough
The Communicate & Connect Podcast for Military Relationships
Welcome back to The Communicate & Connect Podcast, where we explore the intricate dynamics of relationships and mental well-being, especially within military families. I'm your host, Dr. Elizabeth Polinsky, and today we delve into Episode 54: "How to Deal with Separation Anxiety in Relationships." Joining us is Megan McCullough, a licensed clinical social worker and military spouse with 19 years of experience navigating the unique challenges of military life. In this episode, we'll uncover the often unspoken struggles faced by military spouses, who are expected to "suck it up" and push...
info_outlineWelcome back to The Communicate & Connect Podcast with your host, Elizabeth Polinsky. Today, we continue our special series on attachment in relationships with a highly anticipated guest, Dr. Bill Senyard, who brings 25 years of pastoral counseling experience and a deep understanding of attachment theory principles. Before we dive in, remember to take our ARE quiz based on the brief accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement scale to assess the attachment dynamics in your own relationships.
In this episode, we'll explore the profound questions of "can I count on you" and "am I worthy of love," as we discuss how our earliest experiences shape our capacity for forming secure emotional connections. Dr. Senyard will guide us through the four quadrants of attachment theory—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—shedding light on how these styles influence our behaviors and relationships.
We also delve into the intersection of attachment theory and spirituality, examining how a relationship with God can provide a sense of security and value, aiding in emotional self-regulation. Dr. Senyard shares insights into how spiritual attachment impacts interactions in our relationships, with a special focus on the unique challenges that military families may face.
Through this journey, we'll confront the fear cycle, understand how to express hurt constructively, and learn the role of pastoral and EFT marriage counseling in fostering secure connections. Dr. Senyard will also introduce his "good enough parent online" program, offering faith-based, scientific parenting tips catered to improving parent-teen interactions, a resource that's especially relevant to our military families listening in.
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- Access the ARE: Are You There for Me? Relationship Quiz to help you understand the quality and security of your relationship
- Read the show notes for this episode here.