3944 Love Them More Than It Hurts
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Why do our children challenge us so much that it strangles our hearts? Raising kids is tough on parents; who cares about how the kids feel? Yet we deeply care about them. However, it's during those difficult times that we learn to love them more than it hurts. Raising kids is brutal sometimes. On the surface, it might seem like parents should just lay down the rules, set boundaries, and move on. But if it were that simple, parenting wouldn’t tear us up so deeply. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . So why do our kids challenge us in ways that...
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3943 Give Up What Doesn't Work
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Imagine this for a moment: You’re gearing up for the Super Bowl of your life. Every move calculated, every drill intentional, every moment optimized. Would you spend time doing things that don’t work—things that have brought you zero results? Of course not. You’d double down on what delivers every single time. So why not give up what doesn't work? So why, in the everyday game of life and business, do we cling so stubbornly to habits, strategies, or mindsets that have proven ineffective? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . The...
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3942 Do More Than Dream
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
Are you one of the millions who want to live a healthier lifestyle than where you are now? Every new year brings a wave of resolutions promising weight loss, better habits, and a healthier life. It’s no surprise that “live healthier” is one of the most common resolutions out there. But resolutions are just ideas floating in your head. They don’t carry weight—no pun intended—until you turn them into action; do more than dream. Why does this happen year after year? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Because wanting something isn’t...
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3941 Organize Your Space to Make Room for Action
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Nothing fuels ambition quite like setting out on a bold adventure toward your goals and dreams. You’ve got big plans, and the vision of where you want to go is crystal clear. But here’s the truth: dreaming alone won’t get you there. To climb that peak, you need a launching pad — and that starts when you organize your space to make room for action. Think about it. If all you ever did was sit back, waiting for success or opportunity to arrive without effort, how far would you get? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . Spoiler Alert: Not...
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3940 Toss Out the Thoughts and Doubts that Hold You Back
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Just because it’s a new year doesn’t mean a reset happens automatically. In reality, most of our attempts to start fresh are clouded by lingering fears about what we didn’t finish, didn’t accomplish, or simply gave up on. If you want to move ahead and actually reach your goals and dreams this year, you have to toss out the thoughts and doubts that hold you back. I don’t know about you, but over time, repeated failures do more than just sting — they infect our mindset and sabotage our ambition. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
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3939 Man Shall Not Live on Bread Alone
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In one of the most powerful moments of Jesus’ life, when He was tested in the wilderness (Matthew 4:1-4), He faced raw human hunger. The devil tempted Him with a straightforward challenge: “Turn these stones into bread.” After all, Jesus is hungry after fasting for forty days and forty nights. The need was real, the desire immediate. Yet Jesus' response cuts deeper than physical need: “It is written: ‘Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” That reply is not just about hunger or sustenance. It’s a declaration about the source of...
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3938 Don't Root Against Your Spouse
Create Your Now with Kristianne Wargo
It’s easy to get super focused on other things in life, from the home to the family to the career to even the pets. Amid all this noise, the one person you vowed to stand beside can sometimes fade into the background. But if you want a marriage that lasts, one that can withstand the relentless pressures of life, there’s a simple but powerful rule: don’t root against your spouse. The truth is, it’s dadgum hard to keep your spouse front and center when every other part of your life is screaming louder. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . ...
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3937 Put the "Parent" Back in Parenting
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Too many parents today are caught chasing the mirage of “being friends” with their kids — seeking approval and camaraderie instead of stepping fully into their role as parents. Let’s be blunt: parenting isn’t about winning a popularity contest. It’s about showing up as the adults who love fiercely, set firm boundaries, and deliver discipline that actually sticks. If you want your children to thrive and leave a lasting impact on the world, you must put the “parent” back in parenting. Why Parents Must Parent, Not “Friend” Friendship with your kids can seem like an easy,...
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3936 Live Fully Alive
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Oftentimes, we push ourselves at breakneck speed—racing to check boxes, chasing the next big win, believing that if we just move faster, work harder, and try more, success will finally land in our lap. But as John De Paola said, “Slow down, and everything you are chasing will come around and catch you.” In a world obsessed with hustle, this is not a call for complacency. It’s an invitation to step off the relentless carousel and rediscover the power of intentional living; live fully alive! Too many of us tie ourselves to the chains of past failures, letting every missed shot dictate...
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3935 Winning the Wrong Race
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Every New Year, millions write down the same resolution: lose weight, get healthy, finally take control of their lives. Yet, by spring, those goals often wilt like forgotten gym memberships. Why? Because too often, we’re winning the wrong race. Bad habits are the easy path. They require no thought, no discomfort, no extra effort. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . You don’t have to wrestle with tough choices or push through resistance. You just do what you’ve always done — reach for convenience, skip the workout, indulge the craving....
info_outlineWhy do our children challenge us so much that it strangles our hearts? Raising kids is tough on parents; who cares about how the kids feel? Yet we deeply care about them. However, it's during those difficult times that we learn to love them more than it hurts.
Raising kids is brutal sometimes. On the surface, it might seem like parents should just lay down the rules, set boundaries, and move on. But if it were that simple, parenting wouldn’t tear us up so deeply.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the Kairos FREE Online Community. https://createyournow.com
So why do our kids challenge us in ways that strangle our hearts?
We care fiercely! We want the best for our children, but they don’t always see it—or want to see it—in the moment. They might respond with a shrug, an eye roll, or that glazed-over stare that screams, “You don’t get me.”
And when what we’re trying to communicate is critical to their well-being and growth, that rejection crashes into us hard. It stops us in our tracks. We feel that gut punch, the sinking ache, an almost physical pain like our heart is breaking.
But that's the paradox: we love so deeply that it hurts. And it’s within this pain that real love reveals itself.
We don’t just want to get through the day with minimal drama. We want our kids to become strong, resilient people who thrive in life. But that often means standing firm through storms of frustration and rebellion. When our kids wrestle with their own battles—identity, independence, making mistakes—we’re right there, heart exposed, fearing and hoping all at once.
Though the breakthrough is when we learn to love them more than it hurts, what we’re doing isn’t just enduring the pain — we’re transforming it. Instead of reacting in fear or anxiety, we hold steady. We listen. We choose patience. We remind ourselves that those eye rolls are part of their growth, not a rejection of our love.
Who knew parenthood could break your heart over and over? Somewhere along the way, society paints parents as unbreakable, invincible, the ones who must always have it all together. But real parents know the truth—we are vulnerable, we feel deeply, and yes, our hearts bleed. That's why we must love them more than it hurts.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Love them more than it hurts!
So, how do you actually love your kids more than it hurts?
Here are three hard-hitting moves every parent can lean on:
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Face the Hurt Without Running from It. The emotional pain is real, and it’s okay. Don’t let yourself bury or ignore those feelings. Acknowledge the ache of watching your child struggle or push away. It’s a sign you’re deeply invested, and that investment is the soil in which love grows.
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Anchor Yourself to What Matters Long-Term. When your child’s behavior triggers your heart, remind yourself of the bigger picture. This moment is not the whole story—it’s a single thread in the tapestry of their growth. Keep your eyes on their potential, not just their defiance.
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Choose Action Over Reaction. Loving more than it hurts means moving beyond your immediate feelings to intentional, grounded choices. Listen more. Speak with clarity and calm. Set boundaries that protect both your child and yourself, even when it’s hard. Your steady leadership is the space where trust grows.
Letting your heart bleed for your children might feel like pain now, but it is one of the purest forms of love. The hurt sharpens your empathy, fuels your courage, and slows you down enough to really hear what your child needs. The sting of their resistance—though painful—is the crucible where your love is tested and strengthened.
As you know, parenting is not easy. It’s brutal, messy, heartbreaking, and beautiful all at once. But when you learn to love your children more than it hurts, you gift them something far beyond discipline or advice.
You gift them unwavering love that withstands the storms—love that will carry them, and you, through every challenge life throws your way.
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