4150 Stop Going Back
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Have you ever made a decision, felt good about it for a moment, and then spent the next three days replaying it in your mind like a movie you can't turn off? You made the call. You weighed your options. You moved. And then — almost out of nowhere — the doubt crept in. Did I really think that through? What if I'm wrong? Maybe I should have waited. Stop going back! When we make a decision and clarity stalls, something uncomfortable starts to bubble up. It's the fear of being stuck. Not stuck because the decision was wrong, but stuck because we won't let go of it long enough to see where...
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4149 Overflow with Hope
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When you feel like all you're doing is running away from or toward all the things, it's hard to find joy and peace in life. You can get down and out about your circumstances, and all hope feels lost. But as Paul says in Romans 15:13, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Have you ever had one of those seasons where it feels like you're just running? Running toward the next thing on your list. Running away from the thing you don't want to face. Running in circles because you're not even sure...
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4148 Look For Something To Work With
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There's a moment in every marriage where you have to make a choice. You can stand there replaying every missed pass — every time your spouse came up short, every promise that got fumbled, every "we'll get to it" that never got to anything. Or you can do what the good ones do when the clock is running out. You can look for something to work with. Think about what you do now. Are you one who focuses on what doesn't work? Or are you willing to see what's possible? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow...
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4147 Never Miss A Beat
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Parenting is a never-ending, rhythmic song that plays over and over again. Some of the melodies are soothing to the heart — a sleepy child curled into your shoulder, a shared laugh over something silly at the dinner table, a "thank you, Mom" that comes out of nowhere and undoes you a little. But many more of the notes disrupt the nervous system. The 2 a.m. cries. The slammed doors of the teenage years. The days when you've given everything and it still doesn't feel like enough. However you hear it, you can't run from the most important responsibility in your life. Never miss a beat. Parents,...
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4146 The Circle Isn't Wasted
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There is a particular kind of tired that comes from walking in circles. You look up and realize you have passed this same tree, this same doubt, this same conversation with yourself, more times than you can count. You are moving; your legs ache to prove it, but the scenery refuses to change. And somewhere in that repetition, you hope that the circle isn't wasted. Because the real question, the one that keeps you up at night, is "does any of this matter if I don't even know where I am?" Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #Inspiration...
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4145 Just Because Life Takes An Unexpected Turn
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Life doesn't always unfold the way we planned. One day the road looks clear, and the next, it curves somewhere we never saw coming. Unexpected turns can leave us feeling disappointed, confused, or uncertain about what is happening in our world and what God is doing in the middle of it. But here is what remains true even when everything else feels shaky: God is never surprised by the path ahead. Just because life takes an unexpected turn, God was not caught off guard, and He is not scrambling to figure out what to do next. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord in...
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4144 Keep Walking When the Miles Feel Long
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There is a particular kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep. It's the tired that comes from carrying a dream for longer than you expected to carry it, from praying the same prayer for the hundredth time, from showing up to the same unfinished work day after day and wondering if today is any different from yesterday. If you're in that kind of tired right now, know that you are not stalled. You are in the middle. And the middle is where most of life actually happens. So keep walking when the miles feel long. We tend to picture progress as a straight, visible line — one clear step...
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4143 You Didn't Come This Far to Come This Far
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A journey lasts a lifetime. It requires a chosen mindset, intentional thoughts, and actions that put an exclamation point to movement. Not a comma. Not a question mark. An exclamation point—a declaration that you meant to keep going. As you travel the various paths set before you, let this settle into your spirit: you didn't come this far to come this far. You kept what was valuable in front of you. You pivoted where necessary. You became consistent as time moved on, even when consistency cost you something. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at...
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4142 Satisfy Us in the Morning
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There's a moment right before your feet hit the floor. The alarm has gone off, the day is waiting, and for just a second you get to choose what you reach for first. Most of us reach for the phone. We reach for the to-do list already running in our heads. We reach for yesterday's leftover worry and let it become this morning's starting point. But there's another way to open your eyes. Psalm 90:14 says, "Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days." Moses wrote those words — the same Moses who spent forty years watching a...
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4141 Keep Your Clothes On
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Marriage was designed for intimacy. God built it that way on purpose — physical closeness is part of the gift. So why in the world would I tell you to keep your clothes on? Because there's a kind of intimacy that has to come first. And if you don't have it, the physical stuff becomes a bandage on a wound that keeps reopening. If you don't have the heart of your spouse, maybe you should keep your clothes on. Cordial Isn't the Same as Connected Think about how you actually interact with your spouse right now — not how you wish you did, not how you did on your wedding day. Right...
info_outlineLife has a way of cycling through seasons — some radiant with joy, others heavy with struggle. Marriage is no different. There will be mornings when everything feels effortless and evenings when nothing seems to work. Couples can find themselves wondering if they are doing anything right, questioning whether the effort is worth it, or quietly waiting for the other to make the first move. But your marriage is worth it. And you don't have to fall into the norm of giving up when things get hard. Keep holding on.
Marriage was never designed to be easy. It was designed to be meaningful.
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It calls two imperfect people into a covenant that demands more than feelings — it demands commitment, sacrifice, and a willingness to show up even when you don't feel like it. The Apostle Paul captured this beautifully:
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." — 1 Corinthians 13:4–5
That kind of love isn't passive. It's a daily, deliberate choice.
You can sit back and wait for your spouse to do all the heavy lifting — and perhaps, for a season, they will. But a marriage in which only one person works isn't a partnership; it's a performance.
True love, sacrificial love, opens hearts to love deeper and to love well. It creates the kind of closeness that no argument, no season, and no storm can permanently unravel.
So when things get tense — when the argument lingers a little too long, when the distance feels a little too wide, when the season feels more like labor than laughter — what can you do?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Keep holding on!
Here are three things that will help you do exactly that.
1. Choose Humility Over Being Right
Arguments in marriage rarely end when one person "wins." They end when both people choose to value the relationship more than their need to be right. Pride is one of the most destructive forces in a marriage, because it turns a partner into an opponent.
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves." — Philippians 2:3
When tension rises, pause before you respond. Ask yourself: Am I fighting for my marriage, or am I fighting against my spouse? There is a significant difference. A humble heart doesn't mean you never express hurt or frustration — it means you approach those conversations as teammates looking for a solution, not adversaries looking for a verdict.
The writer C.S. Lewis once observed, "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less." In marriage, this translates to choosing your spouse's peace alongside your own, and letting go of the scoreboard.
2. Communicate with Intention, Not Just Emotion
When we are hurt, our instinct is to react — to say the first sharp thing that comes to mind, to go silent, or to replay grievances. But reactive communication rarely builds anything; it usually tears down what took time to construct.
"Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone." — Colossians 4:6
Speaking with grace in marriage means choosing your words carefully, especially when emotions are running high. It means saying "I felt hurt when…" instead of "You always…" It means listening to understand, not simply waiting for your turn to respond.
Marriage counselor and researcher Dr. John Gottman spent decades studying couples and found that it takes five positive interactions to counteract the damage of a single negative one. That's a sobering reminder that the words we speak to our spouses carry immense weight — in both directions. Choose words that build. Choose words that heal. Choose words that remind your spouse that they are chosen.
3. Recommit — Again and Again
One of the most powerful things you can do when your marriage feels hard is to quietly, intentionally recommit. Not with a grand gesture (though those are welcome too), but with a daily decision: I am in this. We are worth fighting for.
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." — Ecclesiastes 4:9–10
Recommitment isn't a sign of weakness — it's a sign of covenant. It's what separates a lasting marriage from one that only survives the easy seasons. Every morning you wake up and choose your spouse again, you are laying another brick in the foundation of something that can weather any storm.
Author and pastor Gary Thomas writes in Sacred Marriage, "What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?" That reframe is revolutionary. When you stop expecting marriage to only feel good and start allowing it to make you better, holding on stops feeling like a burden and starts feeling like a purpose.
Your Marriage Is Worth It
Marriage is about unconditional love. It is about sacrificial love — the kind that gives when it doesn't feel like giving, that stays when leaving seems easier, that softens when hardening feels safer. But that love requires willingness. It requires both hands on deck, both hearts open, both people showing up.
Your marriage will face storms. Every marriage does. But a marriage built on humility, intentional communication, and daily recommitment has a foundation strong enough to hold.
So when the weight feels heavy, when the season feels long, when the work seems to outpace the joy — don't let go.
Keep holding on.
"And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." — Galatians 6:9
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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