4177 Notice God's Goodness
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There is a rhythm to our days that we rarely stop long enough to notice. We wake, we push, we strive, and we do it all over again. We wrap ourselves around careers, achievements, milestones, and ambitions so tightly that we forget whose we are and who we belong to. But what if this weekend, during this beautiful pause, it became the moment you chose to notice God's goodness? God did not create us to chase all the earthly things. He did not breathe life into us so we could spend every waking moment climbing ladders and collecting accolades. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other...
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4176 When Holding It All Together
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There is a quiet kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep. It's the exhaustion that settles into your bones when you've poured out every ounce of who you are for the people you love and you look around and wonder, "Who's pouring into me?" If you've ever felt that heaviness, if you've ever smiled through the day while silently breaking underneath, then you already understand what it means when holding it all together is pulling you apart. You are not alone in this. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow...
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4175 Nerves Mean You Care
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Have you ever laid awake at night replaying a moment from your day — a sharp word, a missed cue, a decision you second-guessed the moment it left your mouth? If that knot in your stomach feels all too familiar, then you need to know that those nerves mean you care. And caring is not a weakness. It's the heartbeat of a mother who loves deeply and wants to show up well for her family. We live in a world that hands us an impossible checklist. The parenting books say one thing. The experts say another. Your family and in-laws have their opinions, your best friend has hers, the school sends home...
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4174 Break Back
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Have you ever felt like life just keeps piling on? One thing after another, weight upon weight, until you're not sure how much more you can carry. Maybe it's a season at work that won't let up, a relationship that drains more than it gives, or a quiet accumulation of worries that nobody else can see. You bend. You bow. You accommodate. And somewhere in the middle of all that bending, you start to wonder if you'll ever stand tall again. It's not time to break down or break apart, but to break back into the wholeness God designed for you. There's a difference between being flexible and being...
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4173 What's Holding You in Place?
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Nobody photographs the underground. We frame the flowers. We celebrate the blossoms. We hold our phones up to the blooming tree and post it for the world to see. But the roots? The tangled, soil-dark, unglamorous system beneath it all? No one even thinks to look down. And yet when the wind comes, when the ground shakes, when life throws something at you that you didn't see coming — it's worth asking one honest question: What's Holding You in Place? Every woman who has ever weathered a storm and stayed standing knows this truth deep in her bones: it wasn't the bloom that held her. It wasn't...
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4172 Breathe Again
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There comes a moment when you realize you've been holding your breath — not literally, maybe, but somewhere deep inside, you've been clenching. Holding it all together so tightly that you forgot what it felt like to simply exhale. If that's where you are today, I want you to hear two words that might change everything: Breathe Again. Not tomorrow. Not when the to-do list is done. Right now. Because you were never meant to run on empty and call it faithfulness. We get tangled up in what doesn't work. We keep pulling at the same stubborn knots — the relationships that drain us, the routines...
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4171 Does the Wait Feel Long and Hard?
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Have you ever found yourself standing in a season where everything feels paused, and no matter how hard you try to push forward, the next step just isn't clear? If you've been asking yourself, "Does the wait feel long and hard?" — you are not alone. We are all waiting for something. Whether it's direction for your next steps, something to shift in your marriage, your health to get well, or your heart to finally heal, you will find yourself wondering just how much longer this stretch is going to last. And in the middle of it, the silence can feel deafening. Waiting is one of those...
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4170 Turn Prayer into a Daily Habit
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Let's be real for a second. When was the last time you prayed and it wasn't because something was falling apart? Most of us have that 911 prayer life down to an art. The doctor calls with unexpected results — we pray. The marriage hits a rough patch — we pray. A child makes a choice that sends our stomach to the floor — oh, we pray then. But what about Tuesday afternoon when the laundry is folded, dinner is in the oven, and life is just… fine? What about the season when nothing is broken, and nothing is burning? If we're honest, those are the moments when our prayer life quietly fades...
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4169 Love Doesn't Clock Out
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Have you ever had one of those days where you've given everything you have — to your job, to the kids, to the house, to the never-ending list — and by the time you finally sit down next to your spouse, you've got nothing left? Maybe not even words. Just a sigh and a sinking into the couch cushion. In those moments, it can feel like love is something you just don't have the energy for. But here's what you must know: love doesn't clock out. It doesn't punch a time card and call it a day just because you're running on fumes. Love stays. Love chooses. And love finds a way, even when you're not...
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4168 Your Child's Mountaintop in the Valley
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We tell our kids something all the time without realizing it. We say, "You'll get there— one day," painting the picture of a summit: gleaming, golden, way up high, as if that's the only place where victory lives. But what if we've been pointing our children in the wrong direction? What if the moment we've been telling them to wait for is already happening right where they are? Your child's mountaintop in the valley doesn't happen at the top; it happens in the climb. School is back in session. Backpacks are loaded. Schedules are pinned to refrigerators. And your child is walking into a season...
info_outlineThere's a moment in every marriage where you have to make a choice. You can stand there replaying every missed pass — every time your spouse came up short, every promise that got fumbled, every "we'll get to it" that never got to anything. Or you can do what the good ones do when the clock is running out. You can look for something to work with.
Think about what you do now. Are you one who focuses on what doesn't work? Or are you willing to see what's possible?
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I was watching the Pro Football Hall of Fame Game between the Panthers and Cardinals a couple of nights ago. It came down to the final 23 seconds. Two plays run, then two seconds left on the clock. The Panthers' quarterback, King, called the play — throw it to the right corner of the end zone, easy touchdown. But the defense read it. They shut the door on what should have worked.
And here's what got me: King didn't stand there and give up on the play. He didn't throw his hands up and say "well, that's over." He took off running — six, seven steps — extended the ball across the goal line, and won the game.
No hesitation. He looked for something to work with.
That's marriage. That's every relationship worth having, honestly. The play you drew up in your head — the way you thought your spouse would show up, the way you pictured this season of your life going — sometimes the defense reads it. Sometimes it doesn't work the way you planned. And you have two choices: stand there mourning the broken play, or extend what you've got and cross the line anyway.
Ecclesiastes puts it plainly: "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).
That's the whole point of two people. You're not there to keep score of the other person's incompletions. You're there to help each other up when the play breaks down.
If you only train your eyes on what's missing, you will miss every single yard your spouse has already given you.
1 Corinthians 13 doesn't say love keeps a stat sheet. It says love "keeps no record of wrongs" (1 Corinthians 13:5).
That's not weakness — that's strategy. A coach who only reviews the interceptions never builds a winning team. He looks at what worked, and he calls the next play from there.
You are allowed to be honest about what isn't working in your marriage. But honesty without a search for possibility just leaves you standing in the end zone with the clock at zero, wondering what happened.
So the question becomes: what does it actually look like, in the day-to-day of your marriage, to look for something to work with?
The K.I.S.S. ~ Stop scanning and start extending!
Stop scanning for what's missing, and start extending what's still there.
That's the whole shift. Not pretending problems don't exist. Not ignoring what genuinely needs to change. Just refusing to let the incompletions be the only thing you see — and choosing, instead, to run the extra few steps before you give up on the play.
Here's where you start.
1. Name one thing that worked. Before you list what your spouse got wrong today, find one thing — however small — that they got right, and say it out loud to them. Your spouse may not communicate the way you wish they did, but maybe they show love by fixing what's broken before you even ask. Maybe they're not romantic with words, but they're steady. They stay.
Philippians 4:8 tells us to think about such things: "whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely" — this is a discipline.
What you look for, you'll find more of.
2. Extend instead of retreat. The next time a conversation with your spouse breaks down the way you feared it would, don't shut the door. Take the extra step — ask one more question, offer one more ounce of patience — before you walk away from the play. This is what King did with the ball in his hands. He didn't have the play he wanted, so he found the one still available to him.
Proverbs 15:1 reminds us "a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."
One more gentle step, instead of one more retreat, is often the difference between a broken play and a win.
3. Pray for eyes that see possibility. Ask God, specifically today, to open your eyes to what's still working in your marriage instead of only what's still broken. This isn't wishful thinking — it's a scriptural pattern.
Elisha prayed for his servant's eyes to be opened so he could see what was already there but invisible to him (2 Kings 6:17).
Sometimes the possibility isn't missing. It's just unseen. Ask God to open your eyes to it.
Know this: it takes one to start, and two to finish. You don't need your spouse to go first. You need to be the one willing to extend the ball when the play breaks down — to look for the opening nobody else sees yet.
Be the one the Coach (your Heavenly Father) can use. Not because your marriage is easy, but because you decided it was worth fighting the last two seconds for.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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