4149 Overflow with Hope
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When you feel like all you're doing is running away from or toward all the things, it's hard to find joy and peace in life. You can get down and out about your circumstances, and all hope feels lost. But as Paul says in Romans 15:13, "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Have you ever had one of those seasons where it feels like you're just running? Running toward the next thing on your list. Running away from the thing you don't want to face. Running in circles because you're not even sure...
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4148 Look For Something To Work With
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There's a moment in every marriage where you have to make a choice. You can stand there replaying every missed pass — every time your spouse came up short, every promise that got fumbled, every "we'll get to it" that never got to anything. Or you can do what the good ones do when the clock is running out. You can look for something to work with. Think about what you do now. Are you one who focuses on what doesn't work? Or are you willing to see what's possible? Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #RelationshipBuilders #CreateYourNow...
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4147 Never Miss A Beat
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Parenting is a never-ending, rhythmic song that plays over and over again. Some of the melodies are soothing to the heart — a sleepy child curled into your shoulder, a shared laugh over something silly at the dinner table, a "thank you, Mom" that comes out of nowhere and undoes you a little. But many more of the notes disrupt the nervous system. The 2 a.m. cries. The slammed doors of the teenage years. The days when you've given everything and it still doesn't feel like enough. However you hear it, you can't run from the most important responsibility in your life. Never miss a beat. Parents,...
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4146 The Circle Isn't Wasted
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There is a particular kind of tired that comes from walking in circles. You look up and realize you have passed this same tree, this same doubt, this same conversation with yourself, more times than you can count. You are moving; your legs ache to prove it, but the scenery refuses to change. And somewhere in that repetition, you hope that the circle isn't wasted. Because the real question, the one that keeps you up at night, is "does any of this matter if I don't even know where I am?" Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at the . #Inspiration...
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4145 Just Because Life Takes An Unexpected Turn
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Life doesn't always unfold the way we planned. One day the road looks clear, and the next, it curves somewhere we never saw coming. Unexpected turns can leave us feeling disappointed, confused, or uncertain about what is happening in our world and what God is doing in the middle of it. But here is what remains true even when everything else feels shaky: God is never surprised by the path ahead. Just because life takes an unexpected turn, God was not caught off guard, and He is not scrambling to figure out what to do next. "For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord in...
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4144 Keep Walking When the Miles Feel Long
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There is a particular kind of tired that has nothing to do with sleep. It's the tired that comes from carrying a dream for longer than you expected to carry it, from praying the same prayer for the hundredth time, from showing up to the same unfinished work day after day and wondering if today is any different from yesterday. If you're in that kind of tired right now, know that you are not stalled. You are in the middle. And the middle is where most of life actually happens. So keep walking when the miles feel long. We tend to picture progress as a straight, visible line — one clear step...
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4143 You Didn't Come This Far to Come This Far
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A journey lasts a lifetime. It requires a chosen mindset, intentional thoughts, and actions that put an exclamation point to movement. Not a comma. Not a question mark. An exclamation point—a declaration that you meant to keep going. As you travel the various paths set before you, let this settle into your spirit: you didn't come this far to come this far. You kept what was valuable in front of you. You pivoted where necessary. You became consistent as time moved on, even when consistency cost you something. Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at...
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4142 Satisfy Us in the Morning
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There's a moment right before your feet hit the floor. The alarm has gone off, the day is waiting, and for just a second you get to choose what you reach for first. Most of us reach for the phone. We reach for the to-do list already running in our heads. We reach for yesterday's leftover worry and let it become this morning's starting point. But there's another way to open your eyes. Psalm 90:14 says, "Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days." Moses wrote those words — the same Moses who spent forty years watching a...
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4141 Keep Your Clothes On
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Marriage was designed for intimacy. God built it that way on purpose — physical closeness is part of the gift. So why in the world would I tell you to keep your clothes on? Because there's a kind of intimacy that has to come first. And if you don't have it, the physical stuff becomes a bandage on a wound that keeps reopening. If you don't have the heart of your spouse, maybe you should keep your clothes on. Cordial Isn't the Same as Connected Think about how you actually interact with your spouse right now — not how you wish you did, not how you did on your wedding day. Right...
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4140 The GIft that Keeps on Giving
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Parents have it rough sometimes. The struggle is real. We want to give our kids everything. The newest shoes. The latest gadget. The experience everyone else is posting about. We work extra shifts, stretch the budget, and say yes to one more thing—all because we want them to have what matters. But here's what we don't say out loud enough: the one thing only you can give them, you already have. It's you. Your presence. The gift that keeps on giving. A lot of times, we convince ourselves that if we just buy this or get that, our kids will know they're loved. And materially, maybe they'll have...
info_outlineMarriage was designed for intimacy. God built it that way on purpose — physical closeness is part of the gift. So why in the world would I tell you to keep your clothes on? Because there's a kind of intimacy that has to come first. And if you don't have it, the physical stuff becomes a bandage on a wound that keeps reopening. If you don't have the heart of your spouse, maybe you should keep your clothes on.
Cordial Isn't the Same as Connected
Think about how you actually interact with your spouse right now — not how you wish you did, not how you did on your wedding day. Right now, today.
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Are you cordial with each other? Or are you putting up with each other?
There's a real difference. Cordial can look like connection from the outside — you're polite, you say good morning, you don't fight in front of the kids. But underneath, you might just be tolerating a season. Waiting it out. Coexisting instead of building.
And I want to push you even further than that question, because "cordial" isn't the finish line either.
Does your cordiality go all the way to serving your spouse unconditionally, the way God calls you to? Or are you serving from a lens of convenience — doing the loving thing only when it costs you nothing, and rewarding yourself with what you want the rest of the time?
That's a hard question. Sit with it before you answer it.
Marriage Is a Two-Way Street
If you're the spouse who requires the other person to go down only your one-way road, you will hit struggles. You will hit trouble. It's not a matter of if — it's a matter of when.
Ephesians 5:21 says believers are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. One another. Not one to the other. Marriage was never meant to be a one-way street with your spouse doing all the yielding.
It takes communication. It takes compromise. It takes compassion. And all three of those are wrapped up in one bigger thing: unconditional love. The kind that doesn't keep score. The kind that shows up on the hard days, not just the easy ones.
Yes, it takes one person to start that shift. But it takes two to finish it. One spouse can plant the seed of change, but a marriage doesn't get rebuilt by one person carrying the whole thing alone forever.
And to get there, you have to be honest — really honest — about where you are, what you're actually contributing, and where you want this marriage to go. Not where you assume it's headed. Where you want it to go.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Keep your clothes on!
Three Ways to Keep Your Clothes On
So what does it actually look like to pump the brakes on the physical and pursue the heart first? Here are three places to start.
1. Ask before you assume. Stop guessing what your spouse needs and start asking. "How are you really doing?" "What's been hard for you this week?" "What do you need from me right now?" Assumption is where distance quietly grows. Curiosity is where it starts to close.
2. Serve without a scoreboard. Notice if you're keeping a mental tally — I did this, so they owe me that. Unconditional love, the kind Scripture calls us to, doesn't run on a ledger. Try serving your spouse one time this week with zero expectation of anything back. Just watch what it does to your own heart, let alone theirs.
3. Get honest out loud. Say the true thing. Not the version that makes you look good, and not the version that only blames them. Tell your spouse where you actually are — your frustrations, your fears, your part in the disconnect. Honesty spoken in love is the doorway to real intimacy. Everything else is just proximity.
The Heart Comes First
Marriage is a beautiful gift. But gifts don't stay beautiful on their own — they have to be tended to, on purpose, day after day.
So before you rush to close the physical distance, ask yourself if you've closed the heart distance first. Because you can share a bed and still be strangers. And you can keep your clothes on and still be closer than you've been in years.
One step at a time leads to miles of greatness — and sometimes the first step is simply choosing to know your spouse's heart before anything else.
"Be present. Be incredible. Be YOU!!!"
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