How High Achievers Stop Overfunctioning and Rebuild Emotional Intimacy in Marriage

In this episode of Love Life Lessons, Sophie Orozco sits down with health and wellness coach Chloe Rashe for a real conversation about what happens when high achievers bring perfectionism, control, and constant self pressure into marriage.

They talk about the hidden cost of living in “prove it” energy and why so many successful women feel disconnected at home, resentful, or emotionally shut down. Chloe shares her personal journey of suppressing emotion, trying to be the “cool girl,” and how that pattern impacted her health, friendships, and intimacy in her marriage.

Sophie and Chloe also unpack what high achieving men often miss. Providing and being responsible is not the same as emotional leadership, safety, and connection. If you feel confused at home, rejected, or like nothing you do is enough, this episode offers a clear perspective without therapy speak or emotional overwhelm.

You will learn:

• Why perfectionism is a survival strategy, not a personality trait

• How suppressed emotions can show up as burnout, disconnection, and even autoimmune symptoms

• How masculine and feminine energy dynamics shift after motherhood and career growth

• What it actually looks like to soften without losing yourself

• Why emotional presence changes marriage more than more talking or more fixing

• The role of acceptance, radical honesty, and integrity in restoring intimacy and trust

• Why stress and people pleasing can impact weight, hormones, and nervous system regulation
  
  

If your marriage feels like roommates, intimacy feels inconsistent, or you feel like you are carrying the emotional load alone, this episode will help you understand the pattern and take your next step with clarity.

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Welcome to Love Life Lessons
01:05 Introducing guest Chloe Rashe and what season of life she is in
03:10 Spiritual healing and why growth is messy
05:10 The biggest healing lesson: responsibility plus self acceptance
08:30 Why being hard on yourself spills into how you judge others
10:40 Spotting perfectionism in real time and learning to soften
13:10 What perfectionism is protecting: fear, punishment, disappointment
16:20 Survival patterns and how childhood wiring follows you into adulthood
18:30 The “cool girl” pattern and suppressing emotion to be loved
22:00 How masculine energy attracted the opposite dynamic in her marriage
24:40 What emotional suppression did to her body and friendships
27:10 Practical shifts: expressing feelings, crying, leading with the heart
30:10 Letting her husband lead and why it was terrifying at first
34:10 Identity shifts, career, motherhood, and balancing masculine and feminine energy
38:10 Emotional presence and why kids respond to it instantly
41:00 Love as acceptance, unconditional love, and freedom
45:10 Integrity, honesty, and why small secrets create big tension
49:30 Women’s wellness: stress, people pleasing, and why the body holds weight
54:10 Healing the relationship with food and stepping out of fear
58:10 Lifestyle pressure, dieting culture, and learning to listen to your body
1:03:30 Biggest lesson to pass on: trust yourself and accept yourself
1:07:30 Where to find Chloe and what she is creating next
1:09:20 Closing message from Sophie