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How To Stop Shoulding Yourself - Lisa Keefauver & Grief Is A Sneaky Bitch

Grief Out Loud

Release Date: 06/07/2024

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Lisa Keefauver is a lot of things - she's a writer, speaker, educator, social worker, podcast host, mother, widow, and grief activist. She came to the last two titles when her personal experience of grieving for her husband Eric, who died of a brain tumor in 2011, intersected with her professional life as a clinician. At this intersection, Lisa realized just how grief illiterate the world is and how that illiteracy creates unnecessary suffering for those who are grieving. Lisa hosts the acclaimed podcast, Grief is a Sneaky Bitch and recently published her book, Grief is a Sneaky Bitch: An Uncensored Guide to Navigating Loss.   

We discuss:

  • The gift of love from her husband Eric
  • Living in the both/and of grief and life
  • Being a mental health professional while grieving
  • Navigating a breast cancer diagnosis in a medical system that failed her husband
  • How we bring our full history into each new loss
  • The "shoulds" that hassled Lisa
  • The grief time warp
  • Grief thieves - including the one in the mirror
  • Lisa's go-to skill in her own grief
  • The power of observation & being with grief as it is

Lisa Keefauver is a grief activist, speaker and author. She began her career as a social worker and narrative therapist in 2004. She expanded her activism in a variety of roles: clinical director, non-profit co-founder, clinical supervisor, facilitator of personal and professional growth and healing, and mentor. Lisa's wisdom and insights on grief are also embodied from her personal losses, including the death of her husband Eric in 2011.