Nesting with Cherie Morris

EPISODE 11 - NESTING: An innovative way to keep your children from having to go back and forth with visitation.

It’s not for everyone, but I believe it’s a concept that we need to explore more and try to figure out ways to make it work. I understand that parents don’t always get along hence they divorce, but that’s not the children's fault. Why do they have to pack up every other weekend to go visit mom or dad? Why do they have to have their life disrupted because their parents couldn’t figure things out.

Could this be one of the reasons why we have so many issues with millennials today? Parents are over compensating for the divorce. It’s complicated and there isn’t one right or wrong answer, but the parenting issue needs to be at the top of the divorce discussion.

My guest is Cheri Morris who is a divorce coach with Dear Divorce Coach. She’s an attorney who pivoted her career into coaching, based on her own divorce. I love what she is doing and the approach she is taking. I’ll link to her contact information in the shownotes.

The first time you get divorced, there’s a lot of questions, a lot of overwhelm. How you handle it is somewhat influenced by who is initiating the divorce. If it’s you, the emotions might be very different than if it is your spouse who wants the marriage to end. It’s a process, with phases that many of us go through. We can’t see them when we are in the middle of it, but others on the outside that work with divorcing people will tell you that they see many of the same patterns.

A coach can help you through this and keep things in check. At the end of the conversation we talk about the difference between a therapist and a divorce coach. I have to admit, before this conversation I didn’t think you’d need both, but now I believe you might.

Hiring a divorce coach is an added expense to the divorce process, but it can be one that brings a lot of value to the end results as well. It could also save you a lot of money by staying out of court through some practical negotiating strategies.

If you are going through a divorce and have children, get them into therapy right away. You might be ok with the divorce, but they need help processing what is going on! Please don’t ignore this important piece, no matter what their age. It’s particularly important for teens and early twenty somethings. .

That should be something you do before you start processing the paperwork with an attorney!

If you like what you hear in this podcast, please share it with a friend or family member. The divorce rate is over 50% in the US and a lot of people are thinking about divorce long before they actually take the first step. Knowledge is power and hopefully each episode provides some value for helping those who are married or contemplating divorce.

You can listen to this podcast on the website at DivorceExposed.com or  iTunes if you have an iphone, Spotify if you have an account and if you are a droid user,  go to your app store, you can download any number of podcast player apps where you will also find the podcast such as Stitcher and Google Play. If you ever can’t find the podcast on a particular player, please let me know.

DISCLAIMER

The most important thing to remember is that I am not an attorney, financial advisor or a therapist. If you are going through difficult times and feel you need help, please reach out to someone, either a friend, family member or a professional and get support. I’ve listed some resources on the resources page of the website and encourage you to check there or reach out to your friends and family for referrals. Your life matters and getting help is the best thing you can do for yourself.

POST DIVORCE GROUP

One of the other things I am hoping to do is put together a virtual support group that will

focus on helping you move forward, put everything into perspective and help you get your life back. It won’t be a complaining session but an opportunity to create a plan and move forward with confidence. If this is something you are interested in, send me an email to  [email protected]

ABOUT OUR GUEST – CHERIE MORRIS

Cherie Morris is a divorce coach working with individuals and couples. She practices as a parent coordinator and using her legal training to approach issues with logic and reason. Learn more about Cheri here or connect with her:

 

• Website

• Facebook

• Twitter

 

RESOURCES

Check out our resource page

ABOUT THE HOST

This episode of Divorce Exposed is hosted by Debbie DeChambeau, CIC, AAI, CPIA. Debbie is an insurance agent with an extensive business and marketing background. Her focus is helping insurance professionals be more successful. She is the co-author of Renewable Referrals and hosts two other podcasts The Business of Insurance, Business in Real LIfe and coming soon, Seniors We Love, Single and over Sixty. Connect with Debbie on LinkedIn, Twitter or Instagram.

REMEMBER YOUR INSURANCE

Debbie is an insurance agent. While she can’t talk to you about specific financial investments, she can provide you with information or introduce you to someone that can answer your questions that you can trust. Part of going through a divorce is reviewing your insurance coverages. From life, health and disability, your personal items are often overlooked because you are focused on so many other issues like alimony, child custody or where you will live.

Sometimes there are issues in the policy that are impacted when there are new residences that get overlooked. You want to make sure you have everything issued properly, before, during and after the divorce process. If you would like some assistance in this area, either just to brainstorm an idea or have your policies reviewed. Reach out to Debbie as she has been in the insurance industry for over 25 years. If she can’t help you, she will put you in touch with someone that you can trust.