277: Three Steps to Ask for What You Want and Get It
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
Release Date: 01/31/2024
323: When What You Want Seems Impossible
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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322: Why AI Makes Women More Powerful Than Ever
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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321: Delight Over Anger
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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320: Your Jury and a BIG Announcement
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
Who is your jury? You have one. Your jury is anyone you want to influence and persuade. Your jury is the person/people who give you your wins. And a jury’s job is not to judge. A jury’s job is to listen and to choose what to believe. Your job is to know your jury and give them something to believe. In this episode, you will learn: -How to recognize that you have a jury and to start identifying them -The most important jury you will ever face -The story of the name “The Elegant Warrior” -Heather’s big announcement about what’s next for her and for you! ...
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319: Navigating the Angel Investment Landscape: Strategies, Statistics, and Success Stories with Marcia Dawood
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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318: Effective Mentoring with Ruth Gotian
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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317: What Bees Can Teach Us About Ourselves and Our Group Intelligence with Siobhan McHale
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
In today’s episode, Heather chats with Siobhan McHale, author of “”. Siobhan shares how her childhood interest in bees led her to see the similarities and differences between group dynamics at work and how bees work together. She shares how she’s used this new way of looking at group intelligence to turn the ANZ Bank in Australia from the worst-performing bank in the country to the number-one-performing bank. Her nine laws of group dynamics are an important way to understand groups and how they work, and her LENS approach to making changes in teams....
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316: Henna Pryor and her book "Good Awkward"
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
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315: Willie Pietersen’s “Leadership: The Inside Story
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
Heather talks to Willie Pietersen about his book "Leadership: The Inside Story" They discuss the transformative power of asking the right questions and how storytelling can elevate leadership practices. Willie Pietersen is a seasoned consultant for CEOs and teaches at Columbia University. In this insightful episode, you'll learn: How Evolution, Philosophy, and Astrophysics Influence Leadership Willie shares how his interest in evolution, philosophy, and astrophysics has influenced his leadership, thinking and approach. Willie explains how these fields have...
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314: Jodi Wellman's "You Only Die Once: How To Make it to the End With No Regrets"
The Elegant Warrior with Heather Hansen
This week Heather and Jodi are in a heartfelt conversation about Jodi’s book “You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets”, and the importance of living with intention and urgency in light of mortality. They explored themes such as Memento Mori, personal specialness, and the impact of habits on zest for life. Jodi Wellman has a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She’s a professor at the University of Pennsylvania, a certified coach, and the author of the “You Only Die Once: How to make it to the end with no...
info_outlineAdvocating is overcoming doubts and building beliefs. Ultimately, it’s the ability to ask for what you want and get it, over and over again. After 25 years of studying the art of advocacy, Heather Hansen has identified three simple steps to ask for what you want and get it.
1-Know what you want.
2-Ask for it, out loud and with delight.
3-Master the art of the ask.
In this episode, you’ll learn the specifics of all three steps. And you’ll walk away with the ability to ask for what you want–and get it.
If you want help with these 3 steps, you can get free access to the exercises that will help you to see other perspectives. The ability to do so will help you with all 3 steps. You can access those exercises here.
And if you want to own the magic of these three steps, you could join The Self Advocacy School. The opportunity to be a Founding Member will be over at the end of February, so this is your chance to get what you want, over and over again. Find out more here.
And now, in this episode you’ll learn more about:
- Advocacy and knowing what you want. (0:02)
- the definitions of advocacy
- Advocating is about asking for what you want and getting it, whether in personal or professional settings.
- How being unsure of what you want leads to paralysis and a lack of clarity in career or personal goals.
- Heather’s personal growth and career development. (4:30)
- Heather’s experience of transitioning from trial attorney to coach, highlighting the importance of practicing and being willing to make mistakes in discovering one's true desires.
- Finding and asking for what you want in life. (7:49)
- The difference between “leaping” and “creeping” to what you want.
- How Heather crept into her new career by experimenting with different roles while still maintaining her full-time job as an attorney.
- The importance of asking for what you want directly and with delight, rather than relying on manifesting or giving what you want to receive.
- Recognize the common mistake of trying to prove oneself by doing extra work, rather than simply asking for what you want.
- The importance of asking with delight. (12:27)
- Ask with delight to increase the likelihood of getting what you want.
- Advocacy skills for personal and professional growth. (15:58)
- Understand the importance of mastering the art of the ask, which involves understanding and addressing the needs and perspectives of one's jury.
- Reception skills are key to advocacy, as they involve listening and figuring out what the “jury” wants and needs, and then speaking to that perspective in a way that changes their beliefs.
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