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ERP 419: How to Identify and Break Negative Cycles (Especially High Conflict Cycles) in Relationship — An Interview with Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Release Date: 04/09/2024

ERP 429: How To Reprogram Core Wounds For Better Living & Loving — An Interview With Thais Gibson

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

At the core of many relationship struggles lie deeply ingrained wounds from our past, shaping how we perceive ourselves and interact with others. These wounds, often formed in childhood, can manifest as insecurities, fears, and maladaptive coping mechanisms in adult relationships. As an example, individuals with deep-seated abandonment wounds struggle to trust or embrace intimacy, resulting in clinginess or avoidance behaviors. Similarly, those with worthiness wounds may constantly seek validation or struggle to assert their needs confidently. These patterns sow seeds of conflict,...

ERP 428: The Dynamic That 80% Of Distressed Couples Face — An Interview With Jennifer Nurick

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Ever wondered why your relationship feels like a never-ending cycle of conflict and distance? In this episode, we delve into the common dynamics experienced by 80% of distressed couples, with a particular focus on the anxious and avoidant attachment styles. This episode provides actionable guidance to regulate emotions, establish safety, and overcome attachment injuries. Discover a five-stage process for fostering intimacy, promoting personal and relational development. Learn practical strategies to address core emotions, halt escalating conflicts, and pave the way for secure, fulfilling...

ERP 427: How to Construct Questions That Cultivate Deeper Connection — An Interview with Topaz Adizes

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Fostering genuine connections can feel daunting in a world filled with distractions and surface-level interactions. Many individuals struggle to find the right way to communicate, leading to misunderstandings and emotional distance in relationships. In this episode, we explore the art of refining communication through strategic question construction. While you can’t control the answers you receive, you can shape them by framing your questions thoughtfully. Discover practical insights and strategies to cultivate meaningful dialogue and forge authentic bonds with others. Join us on a journey...

ERP 426: How To Consider & Discuss End Of Life Care In Relationship — An Interview With Dr. Bob and Elizabeth Uslander

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Navigating end-of-life conversations can be emotionally challenging and riddled with uncertainties. Many individuals and families struggle to broach topics surrounding preferences for care, leaving them ill-prepared for crucial decisions during times of crisis. In this episode, we embark on a journey to explore practical strategies and insights aimed at facilitating these delicate discussions with compassion and clarity. By providing actionable guidance and fostering a deeper understanding of end-of-life care, this episode equips listeners with the tools needed to approach these conversations...

ERP 425: How To Find The Growth Opportunity In An Argument — An Interview With Linda Bloom

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Ever wondered how happy couples navigate irreconcilable differences and still thrive? Arguments in relationships are both inevitable and impactful. While they often stir up feelings of frustration, anger, and sadness, they also hold the potential for profound growth and understanding between partners. When managed with care and intention, conflicts can uncover deep-seated issues, foster better communication, and ultimately strengthen the bond. In this episode, we explore how conflicts can become opportunities for growth and deeper connection. By focusing on emotional regulation, curiosity, and...

ERP 424: How to Stand Firm in Your Boundaries — An Interview with Dr. Abby Medcalf

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

The absence of clear personal boundaries can lead to numerous challenges in relationships. Without defined boundaries, individuals may find themselves constantly overwhelmed by the demands and expectations of others, leading to feelings of resentment, frustration, and even powerlessness. Moreover, conflicts can escalate, communication can break down, and genuine connection becomes increasingly elusive without firm boundaries in place. Essentially, the problem of not having boundaries manifests as a pervasive struggle to maintain authenticity, self-respect, and healthy interpersonal dynamics....

ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in certain situations or why certain relationships feel so challenging? In many cases, individuals may not realize how past trauma is influencing their present relationships and personal well-being. In this episode, we talk about trauma, its various forms, and its profound impact on individuals and their connections with others. Featuring expert insights from a leader in the field of trauma therapy, the conversation sheds light on how trauma from our formative years can shape our adult behaviors and interactions. Through an in-depth...

ERP 422: How To Work Through Jealousy & Insecure Tendencies In Relationship — Shanenn Bryant

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Jealousy is a complex emotional response often triggered by feelings of insecurity and fear of loss, and can profoundly impact personal relationships. It typically arises when an individual perceives a threat to a valued relationship, whether the threat is real or imagined. This emotion can lead to behaviors aimed at preventing loss, such as excessive monitoring or controlling tendencies, yet these actions often exacerbate the fears driving the jealousy. In this episode, we delve into pervasive issues surrounding jealousy, uncovering their origins rooted in individual past experiences and...

ERP 421: How To Keep The Fun & Positivity Alive In Relationship — An Interview With Arlene Pellicane

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Keeping the flame of passion alive in a relationship can be a challenging endeavor, especially amidst the demands and stresses of everyday life. From managing work responsibilities to navigating household chores and family commitments, couples often find themselves caught up in a whirlwind of obligations, leaving little room for fun and positive connections. In this episode, we explore actionable strategies and valuable insights aimed at addressing the challenge of maintaining fun and positivity in a relationship. From practical tips to infuse joy into everyday moments to revitalizing the bond...

ERP 420: The Importance Of "Turning Towards" In Relationship — An Interview With Laura Heck

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Loneliness and disconnection in relationships can often stem from unmet needs for emotional connection. When one partner reaches out for support, validation, or understanding, and their bids go unnoticed or ignored, it can lead to feelings of isolation and alienation. This lack of responsiveness can create a sense of being unheard or unseen, deepening the emotional distance between partners. Over time, repeated instances of unmet bids can erode trust and intimacy, leaving individuals feeling unfulfilled and disconnected in their relationship. In this episode, Laura Heck and Dr. Jessica Higgins...

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How can we cultivate a culture of emotional safety within our relationships, where vulnerability is embraced and recurring negative patterns are met with empathy and understanding, rather than defensiveness or blame?

Traumas, whether subtle or overt, can fuel recurring negative patterns that gradually erode the foundation of a relationship. These unseen wounds, left unattended, can manifest as distress and conflict, undermining the very fabric of our closest bonds.

In this episode, we delve into the depths of these dynamics, exploring how awareness, vulnerability, and proactive communication can pave the way for healing and transformation. Join us as we navigate the complexities of attachment styles, emotional safety, and the power of corrective emotional experiences in forging healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Jennine Estes Powell & Jacqueline Wielick, are distinguished Therapists and co-authors of "Help For High-Conflict Couples." Jacqueline Wielick is the owner of her practice, Therapy by Jackie, and is known for the empowering, empathetic, and engaging style she brings to her work. Jennine Estes Powell is a dedicated therapist for her clients, and is the driving force behind Estes Therapy, a thriving group practice in San Diego, the go-to hub for couples counseling. She also trains therapists globally.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

07:52 Jennine and Jacqueline‘s personal journeys into emotionally focused therapy.

13:03 Distinguishing high conflict from regular conflict.

20:13 The subtleties of trauma, challenging stereotypical perceptions of traumatic experiences.

23:18 How differing attachment styles can create communication barriers within relationships.

28:15 The evolution of relationships: Understanding the shift from early romance to bonded attachment.

34:53 Individual and couple strategies for recognizing and addressing attachment insecurities.

40:54 Repairing relationship patterns through vulnerability and repetition.

55:59 Accessible support and resources.

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