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ERP 424: How to Stand Firm in Your Boundaries — An Interview with Dr. Abby Medcalf

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Release Date: 05/14/2024

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In this episode, the discussion centers on the transformative power of consistently upholding boundaries despite potential pushback. Through insightful anecdotes and practical advice, listeners will gain valuable insights into identifying their core needs, overcoming fear, and building trust within relationships. Whether grappling with familial, professional, or personal boundaries, this episode offers actionable strategies for asserting oneself and cultivating fulfilling connections.

Abby Medcalf is a Relationship Maven, psychologist, author, podcast host, and TEDx speaker who helps people think differently so they can create connection, ease, and joy in their relationships. She brings a fresh perspective to life’s struggles using humor, research, and her direct, no-nonsense style. She's the author of “Boundaries Made Easy”, bestseller “Be Happily Married, Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing”, and hosts the top-rated Relationships Made Easy Podcast, reaching 170+ countries.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

4:59 From addiction to authority: Abby Medcalf’s journey to boundary mastery.

9:43 Understanding boundaries as not just a component, but a fundamental structure in relationships and business dynamics.

12:23 The impact of congruence between conscious and subconscious signals on how others perceive and respond to us.

20:07 Understanding the spectrum of boundaries and the impact of disregarding them.

27:06 Establishing clear standards and responses for personal empowerment.

39:22 Defining personal standards and boundaries for empowered relationships.

47:49 Making your way from complaints to core needs.

Mentioned

Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Feelings Chart (*Hoffman Institute link) (pdf)

Relationship Map To Happy, Lasting Love

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

Connect with Dr. Abby Medcalf

Websites: abbymedcalf.com

Facebook: facebook.com/abbymedcalf

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Instagram: instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/abby-medcalf-phd-718969b8

TikTok: tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd

Podcast: Relationships Made Easy

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