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ERP 438: How To Develop More Resilience In Relationship — An Interview With Charisse Cooke

Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Release Date: 08/20/2024

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Navigating the complex terrain of romantic relationships can often feel like walking through a maze with no clear exit in sight. Fear, disguised as stress or anger, can become an invisible barrier that hampers our ability to foster intimate connections and develop relational skills. But what if we understood our deepest fears, attachment styles, and the ways we can reclaim our emotional maturity and personal empowerment within our relationships? Imagine transforming stress and conflict into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding.

In this episode, we delve deeply into the complexities of attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Discover how different attachment styles manifest fear and the importance of recognizing these patterns in both yourself and your partner. We discuss practical strategies for managing negative thoughts, the role of nonverbal communication, and the power of physical touch in creating a secure bond. Furthermore, understand how emotional regulation, personal empowerment, and vulnerability can transform relationship dynamics.

Charisse Cooke, an attachment-based psychotherapist and author, brings over twenty years of experience in relationship dynamics. With 7000+ clinical hours, including roles in three clinical facilities and private practice in London, she specializes in understanding relationship patterns. Rooted in adult attachment theory, her compassionate approach aims to transform relational dynamics. Through online courses and social media, Charisse educates on fostering secure, authentic connections, empowering individuals to mend relationships, and building emotional resilience.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

In this episode

6:00 From fascination to practice: Charisse Cooke’s journey in understanding relationships.

8:55 The power of embracing acceptance and curiosity in relationships rather than immediately viewing unexpected situations as problems.

11:55 Balancing active participation and surrender in relationships.

16:08 Navigating fear and control in committed relationships.

22:03 Strategies for avoidant attachments and building secure bonds.

35:48 Cultivating emotional resilience: Balancing immediate and long-term regulation strategies.

Mentioned

10 New Behaviours That Will Transform Your Relationship in Under 10 Weeks (course link)

ERP 410: What Are the Signs of Emotional Immaturity in Relationship?

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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Websites: charissecooke.com

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