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Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

Release Date: 05/27/2025

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About this Episode

Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you’re not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families.

In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You’ll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention.

Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics.

Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.

Episode Highlights 

03:58 Becky’s story and why she cares about marriage crisis.

10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided.

15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters.

20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble.

23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage.

25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner.

30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems.

32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult.

36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis.

39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person.

42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family.

46:58 Lessons learned from divorce.

51:01 Where to find help and resources.

Mentioned

I (Think) I Want Out (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Uncoupling (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

Facing Codependence (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book)

ERP 373: How To Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview With Rachel Zamore

Evolve in Love (program)

Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call

Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link)

Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link)

Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link)

Connect with Dr. Becky Whetstone

Websites: MarriageCrisisManager.com

Facebook: facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager

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