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When They Want My Spouse but Not Me: Handling Rejection in Ethical Non-Monogamy

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Release Date: 09/24/2025

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💬 About This Episode

In today’s QUICKIE, Adam & Pris dive into one of those ouch moments almost every couple in the lifestyle has faced:
👉 What do you do when someone makes it crystal clear they’re into your spouse… but not into you?

This episode is raw, funny, and a little sting-filled as we unpack:

  • Real stories from our own encounters when attraction wasn’t mutual.

  • How being “the partner left out” can stir up jealousy, frustration, or even self-doubt.

  • Why delivery matters — the difference between respectful honesty and underhanded sneaking.

  • The role communication plays in softening the sting (and why sugarcoating sometimes happens).

  • How to handle being iced out, ignored, or overlooked without letting it kill your confidence.

  • Tips for reframing rejection so it doesn’t ruin your night — or your relationship.

We don’t just talk theory; we get vulnerable about the awkward moments that made us sour, laugh, and learn. And like always, we keep it playful while shining a light on the deeper emotional side of ethical non-monogamy.

🎧 Why Listen?

If you’ve ever thought “Wait, why don’t they want me too?” or if you’ve had to sit with the sting of rejection in the lifestyle, this episode is for you. We share practical ways to deal with it, plus a few laughs that prove you’re not alone.

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