002 Vulnerability & Imposter Syndrome explored
ALLI SPARGO Explores Human Behaviours at Work
Release Date: 06/07/2022
ALLI SPARGO Explores Human Behaviours at Work
KEY TAKEAWAYS “…you had to come to the table knowing that while you had a lot of experience, you may have some suggestions but you had no solutions in your kickback. This was unprecedented work… you didn't know that you were doing the right thing. You didn't know whether you were doing the wrong thing. You just were making some decisions based on the amount on the limited amount of evidence” “There were times when you had to take on some commands and control…that were directives coming from the top…you've got to stop doing that and now you've got to do this. And...
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The modest humility, genuine kindness, and quiet strength of this now retired police officer and Scottish gentleman, warmly greets the arrival of visitors to one of the top Asset Management Companies in the UK, and is always a highlight of my many visits to Edinburgh. His great love for his family and particularly his grandchildren encouraged John to capture his experiences in the police force in his self-published book, “Not long til Morning”. Once invited to train members of the FBI in USA, working the harrowing scenes of Lockerbie at the age of 26, and genuinely...
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Having taken a very non-traditional journey pushing himself continually out of his comfort zone, Nick Leitch made his way very successfully to Managing Director of corporate lending at Shawbrook Bank. (1000 people strong organisation offering highly personalised, practical, lending and savings products to individuals, businesses and real estate investors.) With humility, accepting you can't be successful on your own and with an attitude of “it's okay to make mistakes and learn” Nick is real, open, and honest about his journey to becoming managing director and what it takes to lead a...
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Susan Brodie, Director of Talent and Development at the Global Investment Managers, Baillie Gifford shares the milestones and insights of her career journey. Susan shares her very personal story of dealing with the grief of the death of a close family member just before lockdown, at the same time journeying with the impact of significant news her daughter shares. The transformational impact of a mentor and the value of focusing on "Being not Doing". "Embrace everything about yourself ... the good and the bad". This is an episode of vulnerability and honesty, of truly being...
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This is a slightly different episode, but nonetheless important when thinking about exploring human behaviours at work. “These days when we’re not only spending all our time in our ‘heads’ but are lost in our phones!” In this episode my guest and Master Sophrologist, Annette Ebbinghaus explores this methodology called Sophrology which is a dynamic practice, more so than the likes of yoga or pilates, to support well being and good mental health. Some people coined sophrology as “Happiness Training” - encouraging the production of more dopamine and happy hormones which...
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Leadership tips and the gifts of dyslexia are shared openly by Chris Bannister in this refreshing interview. Having worked across many financial market roles over the years, Chris talks about being the authentic you. The unique you. Whether it’s leading a team or delivering bad news, being the same person you are in every situation in and out of work, conversations are easier and people can respond better. Mastering the art of managing dyslexia, Chris uses this to his advantage – a great interview. Be encouraged. KEY TAKEAWAYS “Treating people equally” “I treat everyone...
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Born in Delhi, in a traditional patriarchal Indian family, Kanchan broke the mould early on. Rare still today to find a 35 year old, single Indian female who has balked the “traditional system” by remaining unmarried and choosing a career in STEM. The only female in her class of male counterparts at Delhi College of Engineering, Kanchan’s journey has felt lonely (and often still does). She is determined to be a role model for other females to stand in their power and achieve their ambitions, breaking traditional norms and boundaries, even when it feels difficult. ...
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Arriving in the UK from Zimbabwe in 2004 with her then boyfriend, now husband, Charity Bare was only initially here to do her masters degree in the UK. She stayed and broke boundaries within the insurance world through her resilience, determination, and hard work. Championed by some key stakeholders, Charity has risen courageously through the ranks to become a female board director in the still predominantly male world of insurance. Overcoming Imposter syndrome, moments of low confidence, three maternity leaves, and a chatty personality, Charity has learned to let down the...
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info_outlineCourageously moving to UK from Australia with his young family and not really knowing what he was going to do to provide an income for his family. Farm boy - come IT guy – now executive leadership coach and inspirational speaker, Peter Milligan shares his journey through imposter syndrome, vulnerability and shame to set up his own business, focussing on developing leaders of the future. “If I'd woken up that morning to run that workshop and said, ‘I'm gonna piss off everyone I can in that event’, it would have been mission accomplished, ….. great result!”
KEY TAKEAWAY
“…every time we step out of our comfort zone into something different, something new, it's natural to be afraid and our natural innate thing is to protect ourselves. To be humans at work is to start to get the balance right ….., there is a spectrum, at one end you don't reveal anything about yourself, you say nothing, you just do your job, and you don't let people know anything about you. That's one extreme. And the other extreme is you tell everybody, everything, you overshare. And I think we would agree that neither of those is healthy. Because if you say nothing, and you've got that wall around you people can't connect with you.”
“But the truth is, I was clueless, I realised I was quite out of my depth. And I was the youngest member of the management team, the least experienced person. And I definitely had, you know, what's referred to as the imposter syndrome, but I didn't know it was a thing.”
“…….. the fundamental thing that human beings need is a sense of connection, they need connection to others, and they need connection to meaning.”
”…… when you're vulnerable, you're invulnerable, because when you really reveal who you are, then people adjust, there's no more pretending, there's no mask that you have to keep up all the time. This is who I am……. and it's quite paradoxical. I love this phrase, perfection breaks connection. …….. and you and I are both perfectionist, we both like to look good. We don't like to fail and all of that, which pretty much makes us human. But the irony is that when we're imperfect, we actually connect more as people”.
“I think success in life comes from high levels of awareness. And there are three levels to that, (firstly) there is awareness of ourselves…..Secondly, we need to have awareness of other people …. and then thirdly, we need to have awareness of context, the context in which we're operating, whether it's a meeting, whether it's the organisation as a whole, or even more broadly than that.”
ABOUT PETER MILLIGAN
Peter is an inspirational speaker and business psychologist with 30 years’ experience. He helps business leaders and teams to have less stress, more joy and greater productivity.
Originally an IT professional, Peter retrained in psychology and joined the management team of a leading Australian HR consulting firm. After moving to the UK in 2000, he became a director of Europe's largest executive coaching firm before establishing his own business in 2005.
Peter’s clients have ranged from professional services firms, SMEs and family businesses to larger organisations including Australia Post, BP, Credit Suisse, Kerry Foods, Novartis, Oxford University, Rolls-Royce, and Vodafone.
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