502: Ask David: Is High-Speed Change a “Quick Fix”?
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Release Date: 05/18/2026
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
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The Man Who Was Fired Five Times How Letting Go of Blame Can Transform Your Life Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns What if the biggest obstacle to your happiness isn't your depression, your anxiety, or even the difficult people around you? What if it's the belief that everyone else needs to change first? In this powerful episode of the Feeling Good Podcast, Dr. David Burns and host Kevin Cornelius, LMFT, discuss one of David's favorite therapy stories from his recent Psychology Today article, "The Man Who Was Fired Five Times." What begins as the story of a brilliant computer...
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Episode 515: Ask David Parenting Meltdowns, Real-Time TEAM-CBT, and When Negative Thoughts Won't Stop What do you do when your child has a public meltdown—and you feel your own frustration rising just as quickly? And what if your mind feels so overwhelmed with anxious or depressive thoughts that completing a Daily Mood Log seems impossible? In this Ask David episode, Dr. David Burns is joined by host Kevin Cornelius, LMFT, and Psychiatrist/TEAM-CBT therapist Dr. Matt May to answer two thoughtful listener questions that many parents and therapy enthusiasts will recognize. Together, they...
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514: Ask David w/ Dr. Matt May Schizophrenia, Resistance, TEAM's Future, and What Makes a Great Therapist In this thought-provoking Ask David episode, Dr. David Burns is joined by Kevin Cornelius, LMFT, and special guest Dr. Matt May, psychiatrist, TEAM-CBT therapist, and longtime colleague of Dr. Burns. Together, they tackle challenging listener questions about schizophrenia, emotional suffering, resistance to change, therapist training, and the future of psychotherapy. Along the way, the conversation becomes deeply personal as David reflects on the qualities that shaped the development of...
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Grandma's Snake Phobia The Real Cause of Her Anxiety Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns What if anxiety isn't the problem? What if anxiety is actually a message? In this fascinating episode, Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius explore one of the most intriguing concepts in TEAM-CBT: the Hidden Emotion Technique. Using the memorable case of "Grandma's Snake Phobia," David explains why some forms of anxiety persist despite cognitive techniques, exposure exercises, and logical reassurance—and how uncovering an unrecognized emotional truth can sometimes lead to astonishingly rapid...
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The Myth of Slow Healing Why Rapid Recovery Is Possible Featuring Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Many people believe emotional healing takes months—or even years. Therapists are often trained to expect gradual progress, and patients may assume lasting change requires prolonged struggle. But what if that assumption is wrong? In this episode, Dr. David Burns challenges one of the most deeply entrenched beliefs in mental health: the idea that meaningful psychological recovery must happen slowly. Drawing from his recent Psychology Today article, The Myth of Slow Healing, Dr. Burns...
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Shame Attacking: A Surprising Cure for Social Anxiety Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns Episode Summary Many people believe social anxiety is caused by low self-esteem, poor social skills, or awkwardness. But what if the real culprit is shame? In this episode, Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius explore one of the most powerful—and unconventional—tools for overcoming social anxiety: Shame Attacking Exercises. Drawing from Dr. Burns' recent Psychology Today article, Shame Attacking: Overcoming a Lifetime of Social Anxiety, they tell the remarkable story of Martin, a handsome...
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Conquering Social Anxiety: The Courage to Reach Out Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns In this deeply moving episode, Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius explore one of the most painful and misunderstood forms of anxiety: social anxiety. David shares a remarkable true story about a wealthy and highly successful businessman whose severe social anxiety left him feeling isolated, ashamed, and unable to connect even with his own family. Despite his power, wealth, and accomplishments, he secretly believed there was something deeply wrong with him because he felt anxious around people....
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Trauma, Anxiety, and What Really Works
Hosts:
Kevin Cornelius, LMFT
Dr. David Burns
Guest: Dr. Rhonda Barovsky
Episode Summary
In this powerful Ask David episode, Dr. David Burns, Kevin Cornelius, and Dr. Rhonda Barovsky tackle two deeply important listener questions:
- Is rapid emotional recovery just a “quick fix,” especially for people with severe trauma?
- How can someone manage intense anxiety and “what if” thoughts in the moment—when they keep coming back?
Through vivid clinical stories, real examples from the Feeling Great app, and live demonstrations of TEAM-CBT techniques, the panel explores why working in the present moment can lead to profound and lasting emotional change—even for people with severe trauma histories.
Question 1: Is Fast Change Just a “Quick Fix”?
Dr. Burns responds to a question inspired by the story of Elise, a Holocaust survivor who recovered from severe depression after challenging a single, devastating belief:
“I’ve never accomplished anything meaningful in my life.”
When that belief was overturned, Elise’s depression disappeared—immediately.
Listeners often wonder:
- Was something deeper left unresolved?
- Doesn’t trauma require long-term exploration of the past?
Dr. Burns shares:
- 50 years of clinical experience producing rapid, measurable symptom elimination
- Research from the Feeling Great app showing that current thoughts—not past suffering—predict change
- Why working in the present moment automatically transforms the past
- Why many therapy schools rely on belief systems rather than data
He also discusses new findings (recently published in Psychology Today) showing that prior depression over the last two years adds zero predictive value once current mood and thoughts are addressed. “The moment you’re in is vastly more important than the one you remember.”
Question 2: What If My Anxious Thoughts Keep Coming Back?
The second question comes from Dina, a college student overwhelmed by social anxiety and catastrophic “what if” thoughts about meeting with her professor.
Despite successfully completing a Daily Mood Log and reducing her anxiety to near zero, Dina finds that the thoughts keep returning in real-life situations.
The team explains why this happens—and what to do next.
Key strategies discussed:
- Why cognitive work alone isn’t enough for anxiety
- The importance of exposure and testing fears in real situations
- Using self-disclosure to dissolve shame
- Turning anxiety into connection rather than avoidance
- Role-playing feared scenarios (“Professor from Hell”)
- Externalization of voices
- Feared fantasy and “what-if” techniques
- Shame-attacking exercises
- Asking for real feedback instead of guessing what others think
- Identifying hidden emotions (such as unexpressed anger)
- Understanding interpersonal roles and rules that fuel anxiety
Multiple techniques are demonstrated live, showing how anxiety collapses when fears are brought into the open with warmth, humor, and honesty.
Key Takeaways
- Rapid emotional change is not a gimmick—it can be measured, replicated, and sustained
- Trauma is embedded in the present moment, not trapped in the past
- Anxiety persists when we hide, not when we feel
- Exposure + self-disclosure = freedom
- You don’t need to eliminate negative thoughts—just stop believing them
- The Feeling Great app offers free, evidence-based tools anyone can use
Tools & Resources Mentioned
- Feeling Great App (free): https://feelinggreat.com
- Daily Mood Log
- TEAM-CBT tools:
- Motivational Methods
- Cognitive Techniques
- Exposure
- Hidden Emotion Work
- Five Secrets of Effective Communication
- Psychology Today article: “The Moment You’re In Is Vastly More Important Than the One You Remember”
Memorable Quotes
- “When we change the present, we change the past.” — Dr. David Burns
- “Shame is like a vampire—it can’t survive the light of day.”
- “Stop doing one thing and expecting it to work for everyone.”
- “You don’t need to be perfect to feel better.”
Listener Invitation
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Submit it through the Feeling Great app or the Feeling Good Podcast website.
Kevin, Rhonda, and I thank you for listening today!
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Contact Information
Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me.
Dr. Rhonda Barovsky is a Level 5 Certified TEAM-CBT Master Therapist and Trainer and specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, and relationship problems. Check out her website: www.feelinggreattherapycenter.com.
You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com.
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