504: The Moment You’re in Matters More Than the One You Remember
Feeling Good Podcast | TEAM-CBT - The New Mood Therapy
Release Date: 06/01/2026
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info_outlineThe Moment You’re in Matters More Than the One You Remember
You Can Recover from Trauma by Focusing on the Present
Hosts:
Kevin Cornelius, LMFT
Dr. David Burns
Episode Overview
In this powerful episode, Dr. David Burns shares transformative insights from decades of clinical experience treating depression and trauma. Through compelling real-life stories, he challenges the traditional belief that healing requires deep exploration of the past. Instead, he reveals that you do not need to deal with the past to overcome the impact of trauma or recover from depression. Real change can happen rapidly by focusing on thoughts in the present moment.
Key Takeaways
- You don’t need to explore the past—even for trauma
- Dr. Burns challenges the idea that recovery requires revisiting painful memories.
- You do not need to deal with the past to overcome the impact of trauma.
- Instead, healing comes from addressing the thoughts and beliefs you’re having right now.
- Thoughts—not events—create emotional suffering
- Depression and trauma-related distress are driven by distorted thinking.
- When those thoughts are exposed as untrue, emotional relief can be immediate.
- Rapid recovery is possible—even in severe cases
- Patients can experience dramatic improvement in just a few sessions—or even minutes.
- Trauma patients, often considered “hard to treat,” can respond quickly using present-focused methods.
“You do not need to deal with the past to overcome the impact of trauma or recover from depression. All of your suffering is contained in how you're thinking in this moment—and when you change those thoughts, you can change how you feel immediately.”
Resources Mentioned
- Feeling Great App – Free tool for improving mood and applying CBT techniques
- Dr. Burns’ Website – Free resources, tools, and exercises
- Psychology Today Articles – Scroll the page for many articles by David
Final Thought
If you’re struggling right now, there is hope—and possibly faster relief than you’ve been led to believe. You don’t have to spend years digging into your past. By examining your thoughts in the present moment, you may already have everything you need to start feeling better today.
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Contact Information
Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me.
You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com.
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