263. How Your Nervous System Shapes Your Money Habits with Stephanie Crochet

Have you ever had a phone call with your mother and the next thing you know, you're in the pantry eating a ding dong? Yeah. How about those moments where you know you're about to look at your checking accounts, but instead you get up and decide to go for a run?

What just happened? In those moments, what's actually happening is your nervous system has taken over to keep you safe and secure when you feel scared or uneasy.

Stephanie Crochet is a nervous system regulation coach, and I've been working with her personally. I have her working with the women inside the Abundance Academy, and the results are already pretty astounding. 

When you regulate your nervous system, you really start to understand what you need to be at your best. We're talking about how we react. Just that simple conversation alone is going to probably shift your entire day.

Stephanie says she loves creating a safe space for women to be authentically themselves. Her passion began in teaching yoga; it’s where she found herself.

“So much of our habits and our beliefs and our patterns as women is shaped for us by society, cultures, environments we grew up in. And yoga gave me the permission to be myself,” she says. “I have a seven year old daughter. It's really important that I'm an example of a woman who is aligned in her body, aligned with what she values, knows how to make herself feel safe from the inside so that she can step into the world, be safe to be who she is.”

A regulated person is someone who is in harmony with themselves; they feel in balance. It doesn’t mean they’re avoiding bad or sad feelings or triggers, but they can be balanced in that state. For example, Stephanie says you could be an exhausted person, but still be present. You wouldn’t try to numb, fight or resist the exhaustion.

Because our nervous system is shaped based on past life experiences and beliefs, everyone will react and respond differently when they are triggered.

“How we react a lot of the times is done on autopilot. So we might not even be aware of our reaction, and we might not even be aware of the response we're going to give to that reaction,” says Stephanie. “That actually is a dysregulated nervous system.”

When women start dealing with money, making money, and managing money, we can get triggered. And our nervous system can shape our money habits.

Someone who grew up in facing scarcity might be an over achiever who can’t relax. They might hit a financial goal and won’t celebrate it because they feel it’s not enough. And someone who grew up in abundance, might avoid a relationship with money because it was always there. They might not know how to handle it.

“We can't go after the big goals and do all the things and help all the people we want to help. If we're not first pouring into our own cup, that's also like safety right there,” she says.

The nervous system’s role is to feel. So, if you want to reshape your money habits, ask what is a practice that will fill you up and bring you joy and safety. Your nervous system needs a felt experience, a felt practice, for it to integrate. 

Look at the practices that are going to help you reshape your thoughts in your mind and create new neural pathways that then become just who you are. Understanding what you need in that moment before you take an action will look different for everyone.

“You have to start with an action. You have to start with a felt experience. And for everyone that particular practice is going to be different because we're all responding differently to how we're surviving right now in life,” says Stephanie.

Connect with Stephanie Crochet: https://www.stephaniecrochet.com/ 

Other GoG episodes you might want to check out:

“I Can’t Make That Much Money!”: https://sarahwalton.com/limiting-beliefs-women/ 

Feeling Stressed? Catch Your Breath : https://sarahwalton.com/breathing-and-stress/ 

You can check out our podcast interviews on YouTube, too! http://bit.ly/YouTubeSWalton  

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