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Grieve That Sh!t

Episode Description “Grief does not disappear when you ignore it. It just gets heavier when you carry it alone.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, opens an honest conversation about men, grief, and emotional pain. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief is not just sadness. It is a full-body experience that affects thoughts, emotions, and the nervous system. And while grief impacts everyone, many men are taught early that strength means silence. This episode challenges the belief that “big boys...

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“She was more than her ending. And healing didn’t mean letting her go. It meant letting the pain stop running the show.” In Part 2 of this deeply personal episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, grief specialist and founder of The Grief School, continues the raw conversation with Nikki about grieving a mother who was also her best friend. This episode moves beyond the loss and into what happens after the world keeps spinning and you’re still stuck. Nikki shares what it was really like to resist grief work, to believe that suffering was the only way to honor her mom, and to carry...

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“You were never meant to grieve quietly. Your emotions didn’t show up to hurt you. They showed up to help you process what just happened.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, sits down with Nikki to talk about a kind of loss that cuts straight to the core. The loss of a mother who was also a best friend. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon learned that grief isn’t one-dimensional. There are layers. And one of the most overlooked layers is the grief that comes from losing the person who knew you,...

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“Your brain didn’t break when your person died. It’s just doing what it knows—trying to protect you from pain. But grief doesn’t live in your brain. It lives in your heart.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, dives deep into one of the biggest truths about grief: you can’t think your way out of it. After losing her nephew Austin, Sharon discovered firsthand that grief isn’t logical—it’s emotional. Your brain tries to reason, fix, and explain the unexplainable, while your heart just breaks wide...

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In Part Two of this Grieve That Shit conversation, Sharon Brubaker and Dr. Elijah Frazier move past introductions and into the heart of what grievers struggle with most: choice, accountability, faith, emotions, and permission to heal. This episode challenges one of the most damaging beliefs grievers carry—that grief is something they must endure forever. Sharon and Dr. Frazier speak directly to the idea that pain is inevitable after loss, but staying trapped in suffering is not the only option. They talk honestly about how grief can steal joy, peace, and energy when we are not aware of the...

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Grieve That Sh!t

In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker introduces a defining moment for The Grief School and the podcast. For the first time, she welcomes Dr. Elijah Frazier and shares the news that The Grief School is now powered by The Frazier Group. This is not an announcement episode filled with buzzwords or credentials. It’s a conversation about people, pain, and what real care actually looks like when someone is at their breaking point. Sharon and Dr. Frazier talk openly about why grief cannot be handled by systems, scripts, or one-size-fits-all solutions. They explore the difference...

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Grieve That Sh!t

“Grief is not a mental illness. It’s not weakness. It’s not a checklist to finish or a line you’re supposed to move through. It’s love—with nowhere left to go.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, gets brutally honest about everything grief isn’t. For too long, society has treated grief like a disorder to diagnose, a problem to medicate, or a series of stages to climb. But grief isn’t logical, linear, or tidy—it’s wild, unpredictable, and deeply human. Sharon unpacks why labeling grief as...

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“When your person died, a part of you died too. Not your whole self—but the version of you that only existed in connection with them. That’s the part grief takes. That’s what forever changed really means.” In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker, Certified Grief Specialist and founder of The Grief School, opens her heart about what it truly means to be forever changed—but not broken. After losing her nephew Austin and later her best friend Sharon, her life split into two: before and after. But in this episode, she invites you into the middle—the space between who you...

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Episode Summary: This episode cracks open one of the most frightening and misunderstood parts of grief: when a memory hits your body like a shock. You’re sitting still, lost in a moment with your person, and suddenly your stomach drops, your breath tightens, your heart races, and you remember all over again that they died. It feels like you’re grieving in two places at once. Sharon Brubaker takes you inside the neurobiology behind that jolt. She breaks down how the hippocampus pulls old memories like scenes from a movie, why the amygdala tags those memories as danger, and how your brain...

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Episode Summary: In this episode of Grieve That Shit, Sharon Brubaker talks about something most grievers never see coming: why normal sounds suddenly feel like an attack. The kids laughing, the microwave door slamming, a choir starting at church, a car alarm in the parking lot. Things you used to handle just fine now hit your body like lightning. Sharon walks you through what is really happening inside your grieving brain. She breaks down the amygdala, the nervous system, the HPA axis, and why grief flips all of them into survival mode. This is not you “being dramatic.” This is biology....

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Embracing Personal Authority: When Others Claim to Know Your Person Better

Losing a loved one is a deeply personal and transformative experience. In the aftermath of their passing, you may encounter well-meaning individuals who want to share their own perspectives and knowledge about your person. However, it's important to remember that no one is the ultimate authority over your loved one, especially after they have died. This blog explores the tendency of others to assert their knowledge and offers insights on embracing your personal authority.

Challenging Assumptions

People have a natural inclination to project their own perceptions onto others, even more so when it comes to discussing someone who has passed away. They may want to feel connected to your loved one by sharing anecdotes, memories, or opinions. However, it's essential to recognize that their understanding is limited to their own experiences and perspectives.

When others claim to know your person better or attempt to correct you on aspects of your loved one, it's important to challenge these assumptions. Remember that you are the ultimate authority on your loved one's life and the impact they had on you. Your unique relationship and personal experiences are what truly define your understanding of them.

Honoring Your Perspective

Grieving is a deeply personal and individual journey. No one can fully comprehend the depth and complexity of your relationship with your loved one. It is crucial to honor and trust your own perspective, memories, and feelings.

When others try to assert their knowledge or correct you, take a moment to reflect on your own experiences. Allow yourself to embrace the memories and emotions that are true to you. Trust that your understanding of your loved one is valid and valuable, regardless of what others may say.

Boundaries and Self-Advocacy

Establishing boundaries and practicing self-advocacy are vital when others attempt to assert their authority over your person. Politely but firmly remind them that your perspective is based on your unique relationship and experiences. Share your boundaries and communicate your need for support and understanding rather than correction or assumption.

By asserting your personal authority, you create a space where your loved one's memory can be honored in a way that feels authentic to you. It's important to surround yourself with individuals who respect and support your perspective, allowing you to navigate your grief journey in a way that feels true and meaningful.

The Gift of Listening

While it is essential to honor your own perspective, it's also valuable to listen to others' stories and memories. Engaging in conversations about your loved one can provide different insights and perspectives that may deepen your understanding and broaden your own memories.

However, remember that listening does not mean accepting others' claims as the absolute truth. Embrace a receptive mindset, filtering the information through your own experiences and emotions. Recognize that everyone's relationship with your loved one is unique, and their memories may offer a different perspective without invalidating your own.

Embracing Personal Authority

No one can claim to be the ultimate authority over your person, especially after they have died. Embracing your personal authority means recognizing and trusting your own experiences, emotions, and memories of your loved one.

Grief is a deeply personal journey, and your relationship with your loved one is unique. It's important to assert your personal authority, set boundaries, and advocate for your perspective. Surround yourself with individuals who respect and support your understanding, allowing you to navigate your grief authentically and find healing in your own way.

Remember, no one can diminish the significance of your relationship or the