333. How To Be Awesome At Not Having FOMO

How To Be Awesome At Not Having FOMO

 

This is one huge deep dive into FOMO.

 

The fear of missing out and why I think it can quietly steal your peace, confidence and joy if you don’t have a plan for how to think about it. 

 

Lots of things I talk about on this podcast, I’m currently also working on becoming awesome at the thing. 

 

This is one of those things that I’ve got down.  I don’t have FOMO ever and I don’t get my feelings hurt if I wasn’t invited somewhere. 

 

Not that either of these things are bad feelings - I don't actually label feelings at all- good or bad.  I think it’s so great if you can just see feelings clearly as they are and not judge yourself for the feelings you have. 

 

When you have feelings of missing out you lose the moment you’re in for the moment you think you’re missing or missed. 

 

I think once we really take time to think about what FOMO is and how it affects us, you just won’t feel them the same way after. 

 

 

We talk about… 

• Where FOMO actually comes from (spoiler: it’s not about the event, it’s about the emotion underneath it)

• How to reframe FOMO into JOMO (the Joy of Missing Out)

• Strategies to strengthen self-trust so you stop looking outward for validation

• Why comparison is the thief of joy, and how to stop doing it

• Good reframes and questions to ask yourself when FOMO hits

   
   
   
   

  Understand the Root of FOMO

  • Mel Robbins says FOMO often comes from self-doubt or feeling like we’re not doing enough.

    “You’re not missing out on anything when you’re living in alignment.”

  • FOMO is triggered when we think other people are having more fun, more success, or more freedom than we are, but it’s all perception-based.

  • Ask yourself: Am I craving the experience… or the feeling I think it will give me?

   
   

  Shift into JOMO – the Joy of Missing Out

  • Jay Shetty teaches that peace is found in presence, and JOMO is about intentionally choosing what you say yes and no to.

    “You don’t need to do everything. You need to do what matters most to you.”

  • When you choose one thing, you’re saying no to others, that’s not loss, that’s clarity.

  • Practice gratitude and groundedness in the choices you’ve made, don’t look sideways.

   
   

  Build Certainty Through Identity

  • Tony Robbins says that we suffer when our expectations don’t match our reality.

    “Trade your expectations for appreciation and your whole life changes.”

  • Instead of feeling left out, feel proud of the decisions you’ve made that align with your values.

  • Anchor into your identity: “I’m someone who values…” and let that lead your yeses and noes.

   
   
   

  Comparison Detox: Stop Scrolling, Start Living

  • Curate your inputs, if social media is triggering FOMO, take a pause or unfollow.

  • Mel Robbins: “You can’t compare your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.”

  • Reconnect with your own life’s magic. The more present you are, the less you’ll care what others are doing.

   
   

  When FOMO Hits, Try This…

  • Pause. Name it: “This is FOMO.”

  • Ask: What am I afraid of missing… and why does that matter to me?

  • Reframe: “If I’m not there, it’s because I’m meant to be here.”

     
     
    CHEERS to planning your days in a way that you don’t have a fear of missing things but this sense of joy and calm knowing that you’ve chosen to do the things that align with what matters to you most.