How To Be Awesome At Everything Podcast
The How To Be Awesome At Everything is a podcast about our journey to be the best that we can in everything we do. To be intentional about how we spend our time and how we treat our bodies and how the thoughts that we think and words that we say create the world that we live in. What started as a folder of life lessons to share with her kids one day has become a podcast with over one million downloads. Always with a growth mindset, Lindsay presents topics that she thinks are worth hitting pause on life to focus on. She shares her successes (and failures!) in business and in life and her journey to be awesome at everything.
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287. How To Be Awesome At Not Being Tired All The Time
03/27/2024
287. How To Be Awesome At Not Being Tired All The Time
I feel like most people would say they tired. Today, yesterday, most days. I’m really interested in this. Are we actually tired or are we sort of not excited by what we are doing most days? And if we are tired, is it because the days are too full and we are doing too many things orrrr is it because we aren’t setting ourself up to feel rested and rejuvenated. Either way, we need to solve it because we can’t complain that we are tired and not do anything to change it. In this episode, let’s figure out what’s up. Are you actually tired or are you overwhelmed or underwhelmed with life right now? The awesome news - I’m sharing strategies for tackling both. Let’s get you un-tired so you can be where your feet are and live your days fully. First, let’s figure out why you’re tired. 1. Actually tired Strategies- get more sleep, get better sleep, hydrate with electrolytes, no screen before bed, no food just before bed, create best sleep environment, stick to a schedule. 2. Not excited with life / overwhelmed / underwhelmed Strategies- ask yourself the hard questions Make the changes you need to, have the conversations you need to, do the things you know you should. 3. In this lazy habit pattern Just like momentum brings momentum, non-momentum brings non-momentum Strategies- small steps to move more - get going - exhaust yourself CHEERS to getting un-tired and living your most full life.
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286. Your Awesome Grocery List For High Protein & Whole Foods Eating
03/15/2024
286. Your Awesome Grocery List For High Protein & Whole Foods Eating
Today we are taking the complicated out of eating mostly whole foods and high protein at home in a way that makes you feel full and energized. It’s taken me so many years of learning and spending money on experts to help me figure it all out. Now every persons body is different of course but I’m sharing lots of ideas of you to chose from to eat in a way that reduces inflammation in your body and helps you be your healthiest and can help you lose weight, all while feeling satisfied. I’m giving you a grocery list to follow to make it all simple and not so complicated. Because this is what I know… most people aren’t eating enough protein and are eating too much processed foods. Most people say they are tired and often times we want to healthier but it’s hard to know where to start. I also know that we must have a strong plan in order to stick to our goals. So this is our plan for eating to feel our best in the short term and long term. Eating for energy and longevity and the part I think that most people miss with this - buying organic and grass fed items are always more expensive than the regular but if you prep it the right way, it is absolutely less expensive than ordering in. And if you know me you know there are some awesome healthy treats in the plan too, because that’s what makes it sustainable in the long term. We are full and satisfied and know it’s not at all a diet, but rather a lifestyle to feel our best. Let’s go! Here is your grocery list *Grassfed ground beef or steaks *Organic ground chicken or turkey *Organic pasture raised eggs *1 organic butter lettuce *1 organic head of iceberg lettuce *1 organic rotisserie chicken *Veggies like zucchini, onions, peppers *Avocados (1 per day) *Berries *2 large organic greek yogurts Then some throw ins to make all of this sustainable *Siete toritilla chips *Grain free tortillas *Grass fed organic cheese, raw if possible *Organic dark chocolate *Raw honey *Bananas & peanut butter And to cook it in… *Avocado oil *Coconut oil *Olive oil How to make the money go the furthest! Protein amounts... An egg has 6g of protein A chicken breast as about 40g of protein One pound of ground beef has 65g of protein Some seeds can be great too like hemp seeds and pumpkin seeds So if your goal is 1g of protein per pound of body weight- you can divide out how much protein you need per meal. My goal is 120g per day so I plan for about 40-50g per meal and I have 3 meals. I think the KEY to all of this is to base your meals around protein and mostly whole foods. Get some veggies and some carbs and you’re nice and full and happy! Other options based on preferences! *Halibut or salmon -always wild caught *Canned tuna or chicken *Flax seeds and chia seeds *Protein powders! Take this list with you to the grocery store! XO Lindsay
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285. Podcast with Parker
03/13/2024
285. Podcast with Parker
I have my favorite little due on the podcast with me today. Today Parker is going to tell us the story of when he got bit in the head by a scorpion on vacation and we’re going to talk about being kind and being brave and probably soccer. Ok so life as a 6 year old and so many stories. Listen in for some fun insight into the life of a little guy and his plan for convincing Dad to have one more baby, a brother named Hot Dog. Thanks for listening!!
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284. How To Be Awesome At REALLY Not Caring What People Think
03/09/2024
284. How To Be Awesome At REALLY Not Caring What People Think
You want to know the craziest thing about worrying what other people think of you? With the amount of time and energy you spend worrying about what people might think if you do this or that, you could actually DO the thing. You take control back of your life and your choices when you’re making them based on what you really want and what feels best to you. You’ll take more risks, try new things and put yourself out there. Because we know that one day we will be 90 and we won’t have the opportunities that we have today, we just won’t. Thinking about it that way makes it a lot less scary to let it go and go for it. And another awesome thing that happens when you go for it and people do talk about you, it makes it easy… those aren’t your people. Thank you for saving me the time. And also thank you for making it clear where we’re at because I know that nobody ahead of me is taking the time to criticize me. This concept of, stop caring about what other people think is easier said than done. Today I’m giving you two awesome hacks to start today, to work towards the ultimate feeling of freedom- not caring what other people think of you. A few notes from this episode… -You only have so much energy - you could have actually done the thing!! Started the business, tried the new thing…. In the same effort it took to worry what would happen if you did. -The upside of never trying is that you never have to feel the feeling of failure. -I will ensure my failure in private so I never have to risk failing in public. They take the long failure rather than the short one. -We aren’t afraid of failing! We are afraid of what other people think of us failing. Imagine what other people are thinking if you aren’t doing anything, oh that’s right, they’re not. -If you could fail in isolation, you wouldn’t care. -If you’re insecure, you might as well use it to get something out of it. -The perfect condition is wherever you are at right now. If you feel like you have nothing, then you have nothing to lose. There is always an advantage and disadvantage from every position. -They won’t think of you at all if you aren’t doing anything and don't you want to be thought of? -You’re going to be 90. And it’s going to be too late to do anything. -You know I love thinking about my 90 year old self. If you’ve spent time with old people, they don’t give an F- in the best way. They are wearing socks with sandals in the way they want, they are -Seeing someone old and no time to do the things is the only motivation I need. -You know how you get good? You just start doing what you want without the fear of judgment. Like one tiny thing. Like if music comes on at an outdoor restaurant and you think about dancing with your little kid because how sweet but you don’t because nobody else is and people might think you are weird. But doing things that other people aren’t doing - usually means it’s actually a good idea but 66% of people say they are unhappy. -So not doing it because other people aren’t isn’t the right plan!! -Here’s the hacks!! 1.ONE. TINY. THING. And then you see that you don’t die. And you had fun dancing and just doing what you wanted. Or wearing something different than everyone else because it’s comfortable and you love how it feels… and then it’s just fine. You build momentum!! 2. You make it a clear priority and remind yourself often. Journal it, calendar it, write it down. The more you make it a priority to work towards, the faster you will get there. -Here’s another thing - call out your fails. Now what can they say. -AGREE when someone says something you didn’t do right. Takes the fire out of it. -OR agree just to end it. Who cares!? -Their response to you just doesn’t involve you honestly. It’s their own perspective based on their experiences and opinions and it just doesn’t have to affect yours. -What’s the worst that can happen? You don’t actually die of embarrassment it’s actually ok. We move on. -And I’ve really learned that leaning into vulnerably is such a strong thing. Ya, that thing totally flopped. But it’s cool I know so much more now and I’m so pumped on my next adventure. We accept it and move on, NEXT PLAY! A few other tips! -Identify your values: Clarify what truly matters to you and what you stand for. When you live in alignment with your values, you'll be less swayed by others' opinions. -Focus on your strengths: Recognize your talents, skills, and accomplishments. Embrace them and use them to boost your confidence. -Practice self-acceptance: Acknowledge and accept your flaws and imperfections. Nobody is perfect, and embracing your humanity can help you be less concerned about others' judgments. -Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Learn to say no when necessary and prioritize your own needs. -Challenge negative beliefs: Examine any negative beliefs you have about yourself that may be fueling your concern for others' opinions. Replace them with more empowering beliefs. -Develop a strong self-image: Visualize yourself as confident, capable, and resilient. Act as if you already possess these qualities, and eventually, they will become part of your reality. -Surround yourself with supportive people: Surround yourself with individuals who uplift and encourage you. Their positive reinforcement can help counteract any negativity from others. -Practice self-care: Take care of your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Engage in activities that nurture your body and soul, such as exercise, meditation, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones. -Focus on your goals: Stay focused on your goals and aspirations. When you have a clear sense of purpose, the opinions of others become less significant in comparison to your pursuit of fulfillment. This is not an overnight thing!! Building resilience against others' opinions is a gradual process that requires consistent effort and self-reflection. By using these strategies, you can gradually reduce the impact of external judgments on your self-esteem and live more authentically.
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283. How To Be Awesome At Managing Health With A Broken Healthcare System
03/05/2024
283. How To Be Awesome At Managing Health With A Broken Healthcare System
You know I focus on the positive always and even though this title might not sound positive, it’s empowering to call things what they are and make a plan to proceed in the best way possible. Rather than getting mad about the way things are, we have to recognize what we can control and what is out of our control and make a plan with based on that. This isn’t just about avoiding disease and living as long as possible. It’s that but it’s also how to have more energy and strength now and as we age. How to feel sharp and healthy. I don’t think it’s even controversial anymore to say that the traditional healthcare system is not set-up to keep us healthy and prevent disease. It’s set-up to treat symptoms rather than the cause and lean heavily on medication rather than considering lifestyle and natural options first. I’m all for medications and treatments when needed- I just think it’s not a great system when there is so much money in treating illnesses and there isn’t a lot of money in getting people healthy or finding cures. Today we’re looking at the health landscape as it is now and making the best plan for us and our families. This new outlook involves shifting from sick care to well care and reactive medicine to proactive medicine. For the last 15 years, I have spent so much time in hospitals and doctors offices, and I think I come with a unique perspective… sometimes as a patient, but usually taking care of other people. In Tony Robbins new book… Life Force - they explain new technologies like gene therapy, stem cells and hormone replacement therapy to give the audience hope and knowledge for the future. He talks about how heart disease and other chronic illnesses can be reversed by optimizing four factors. How you eat How active you are How you respond to stress How much emotional support you receive We have the power to control so much of our health and heart health. Exercise, eating the right foods, quality sleep, building muscle and reducing stress. Good health is the foundation of quality of life. As the old saying goes, a healthy person has a thousand wishes; a sick person only one. It’s a powerful reminder to make the most important commitment you can make. You must become the CEO of your health. That’s how you keep your energy, vitality and a good quality of life. A few of my other favorite books on this topic are Outlive by Peter Attia, Lifespan by David Sinclair, and Super Human by Dave Asprey. We’ve learned that you must continually challenge the status quo and find what’s best for you. By understanding that you must be in control of your health and by not expecting the traditional healthcare system to take on this role… you will make better decisions for your own health and out of your family.
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282. How To Be Awesome At Figuring Out Your Impossible Goal
02/27/2024
282. How To Be Awesome At Figuring Out Your Impossible Goal
Talking about one of my favorite books- 10x IS EASIER THAN 2X By Dan Sullivan and Dr. Ben Hardy Excerpt from the book: What is a 10x goal? A massive goal that feels impossible. Doing more of what you’re currently doing will get you to 2x. 10x goals require a new plan and push you outside of your current level of knowledge and assumptions. To figure out your 10x goal, as yourself… What do you truly want, more than anything else? What would excite you more than anything else to be, do and have? What would you be and do if you weren’t afraid of what others thought or the repercussions? -Let’s focus on wants vs needs When you live life based on need, you’re stuck playing a finite game. When you play a finite game, you’re driven and controlled by outside forces. You’re competing for scarce resources. When you live life based on want, rather than need, you’re playing an infinite game. You see that reality is created and chosen. In order to go 10x, we have to let go of scarcity and competition-based needing and replace it with abundance and creativity-based wanting. -Focusing on FREEDOM! Committing to what you want most is the only way to be free. To be free, you must first be completely honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself starts with admitting to yourself what you want most. Not what you think you want. Not what you think you need. But what you truly- at your core-want. Until you can admit and commit to what you want, then you are not free. Living in a world of needs and rationalizations is prison. It locks you into relationships and situations you don’t want but maintain out of fear and perceived security or obligation. Llet’s think about what you are doing now… Anything you are currently pursuing. Ask yourself what is the source of that... Where did you get that idea? Is it from your parents? Is it from social media? Is it because your friend did something or because your friend got promoted? OR did you get that idea because it makes you FEEL ALIVE? It takes work to unlearn what we’ve been taught and put ear plugs in so we don’t hear the judgment or the opinions of others. It’s our job to make sure we are running our own race. We have to be intentional about what success means to us and stop at nothing to get there. -Once you have it down, what next… Start with your 10x goal, then figure out the steps, not the other way around. When we are working towards 2x goals, we are doing the same thing, just more of it. When we are working towards 10x goals, we must completely shake up the plan. So rather than starting with step 1 and making a plan, we start with the massive goal in mind, then figure out a plan to make it happen. To check out the 2.0 Habits System and 2.0 Mindset Master Course, click . Have an awesome day!
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281. How To Be Awesome At Weekend Adventures
02/17/2024
281. How To Be Awesome At Weekend Adventures
I think most people would love to have more adventures and new experiences in life but the tricky part is… we get so busy with our routine and all the things that must get done in life, that often, we rarely go new places or try new things. Which is why I absolutely love this idea by Jesse Iztler. It’s part of his concept about building your life resume more than your professional resume. He calls it the Kevins Rule, named after his friend Kevin who showed him how fulfilling it can be when you plan out new experiences. Here’s how it works. You put 6 new adventures on your calendar each year. One every other month and it could be a day on the weekend or the entire weekend. The point of this is that by intentionally adding this things to the calendar, you prioritize time with people you love plus more fun and learning. Being intentional with our calendar planning and putting these 6 mini adventures on the books allows us for 24 experiences (that we wouldn’t have otherwise) in the next 4 years. It also sets us up to be proactive with how we spend our leisure time (advance planning) rather than reactive (planning around invitations that come your way.) We’re planning out your 6 mini adventures for the year today. Planning for 6 mini adventures per year allows for new experiences and challenges. By adding these days or weekends to your calendar, you prioritize time with people you love, fun and adventures. Lots of ideas… Get a group together for a cooking class followed by dinner with wine pairing, visit a local farm and book an apple picking experience, find a local path and plan a hike, go camping for the weekend at a local spot, take a photography workshop class with friends, set-up a volunteering event to help people in need in your area, plan a day or weekend filled with local museums and art galleries, learn to kayak at a local river, road trip to a nearby city and plan shops and cafes to visit, plan a day long bike ride with a fun stop for lunch, plan a ride in a hot air balloon, get a group to go indoor rock climbing, book a rental cabin for the weekend, take the train on an adventure! Cheers to alllll of your new adventures!!
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280. How To Be Awesome At Mastering The Last Hour Of Your Day
02/14/2024
280. How To Be Awesome At Mastering The Last Hour Of Your Day
The last hour of your day is so important because it determines the quality of sleep that you get and how you approach the next day. I’ve learned the most about this in my own life from doing things the wrong way to be honest. Staying up too late, eating too late or just sort of tinkering here and there and I couldn’t even tell you what I really did for those last 2 hours. All these things I did without intention and just because I was getting tired and just doing whatever slowly without a plan. Taking all of this as lessons learned and on this journey to do everything with intention - now, having a plan for the last hour of the day. So even if you’re tired or you’ve run out of motivation for the day, when you plan things ahead of time with intention, you don’t have to get up the energy because you aren’t making the decision, you’re just following the plan that you designed. It requires discipline, which is hard at first, but it gets sooo much easier to do when you see the benefits of these new awesome habits. We are revamping bedtime. From the book, 10X is Easier Than 2x: The final hour of the day determines the quality of your sleep as well as the quality of your next day. Over 90 percent of people are 2x at night, where they fall to unhealthy habits and consumption, especially random online scrolling. For 10x sleep, put your phone on airplane mode at least 30-60 minutes before bed. Write in your journal and include 3 wins you had that day. These wins can be any forms of learning or progress you had. Then after you’ve framed the day as a win, write down what you want for tomorrow. Other tips: -Have a few other healthy wind down habits like meditate or stretch or a moment of connection with someone you love and then commit to sleep. Be excited and happy to fully shut down. -Create an optional environment - dark, cool and comfortable. -Having a healthy wind-down process is key. Avoid thinking about stressing topics and solve problems or have tricky discussions earlier in the day. In prioritizing sleep, we have to wrap things up and let things go earlier in the day. Do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said so you don’t go to bed with crumbs! You will sleep better without a racing mind when you go to sleep. Journal to wind down and figure out what else sets you up for the best nights sleep. -Quality sleep over quantity of sleep - The quality of sleep is so much more important than the number of hours. -Get a schedule going - Have a set bedtime and wake time and don’t vary it too much or you’ll experience “jetlag." -If you want to read more on this- Sleep Smarter by Shawn Stevenson. Many of these strategies were learned from this book. CHEERS to being intentional about how you end your day, for the most awesome days!!
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279. How To Be Awesome At Developing Deep Self Confidence
02/09/2024
279. How To Be Awesome At Developing Deep Self Confidence
Today we are talking about deep self confidence. How to get it, what it feels like and how to make it attainable. I’m a big fan of taking complicated concepts and turning them into simple daily actions. Here is how I define confidence. A belief in yourself and clarity of purpose. A feeling that is grounded in authenticity and comes from doing. Confidence is often talked about like this big feeling at the finish line, but that feels unattainable and hard to figure out how to make progress on. My favorite quote about confidence is by Alex Hormozi. He says “You don’t become confident by shouting affirmations in the mirror, but by having an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are. Outwork your self doubt.” I love this way of thinking about confidence because it puts you in the drivers seat. Your self confidence isn’t based on what other people think about what you are doing or some level of success, but it’s more about the process and more about what you do, than what you say. When you feel this deep self confidence, it impacts all other areas of your life. You’re less likely to be offended and more likely to let little things go. You’re more likely to charge your big goals and less likely to let judgment slow you down. It’s a superpower and we’re talking about how to tackle it! Why have deep self confidence: -It makes you less affected by the opinions of others. -It keeps you in control of your mood and happiness. -It helps you communicate better because you feel comfortable expressing yourself clearly. -It positions you as a leader rather than someone who is easily influenced. -It makes you more adaptable as you trust in your ability to navigate change. -It allows you the freedom to really pursue your passions. How to get deep self confidence: -Put things on your daily habits like that move your towards your goals, personally and professionally. -Every week, try new things, do hard things, continue to learn and push yourself. -Since we know that confidence comes from doing, just keep doing things that align with your goals and priorities. What it feels like to have deep self confidence: -Confidence comes from doing the things you say you are doing to do. It’s this deep feeling of trusting yourself. -You feel empowered. Like you can take on any challenges. -This sense of inner peace. You are comfortable with you are and trust in your own abilities. -You’re optimist because you have a positive outlook and a strong foundation so you’re able to believe in a bright future. -You’re fearless because you know you can handle whatever comes your way. -You’re authentic because you’re running your own race. -You set boundaries, especially with people who are negative or don’t make you feel great. You respect yourself enough to know your headspace is top priority. -You're grateful because you appreciate the journey you’ve been on and the one you are on right now. -You’re inspirational. When you know someone with deep self confidence, it makes you believe you can be the same way. How to make progress on the daily: -Follow the plan! -Make your list of tasks, then execute. -Avoid distractions and don’t talk yourself out of it. -Set big goals, then focus on the daily actions, not the goals. -Do what you tell yourself you are going to do. -Set realistic habits so you are set-up for success. CHEERS to embracing the things that bring you deep self confidence!
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278. How To Be Awesome When Someone Comes At You
02/05/2024
278. How To Be Awesome When Someone Comes At You
I don't know what’s going on lately but I feel like I’ve been in several situations where someone is coming at me and I’ve had some friends who have had to deal with some pretty wild situations so I thought, yup, this needs to be a podcast episode. Let’s define some terms. By coming at you I mean - verbally trying to start something. It’s different than an argument because it’s like someone having a problem with you or just straight up casting judgment on you. Our instant reaction is to respond and defend ourselves or get hot with them back… but here’s the thing, most of the time, it’s just not worth it. So I think before we do anything we should ask ourselves, what would I gain from engaging? We often respond out of emotion, but because we know our priority is protecting our happy headspace and our emotional energy, I think we need to approach it differently. We are going through some awesome strategies today so the next time someone comes at you, you’re ready to handle it strategically rather than emotionally. When this happens, here are your options… 1. IGNORE Literally say nothing. Don't reply to the email or text or DM or walk away if in person. 2. AGREE - it ends it!! When you don't want to engage or if there is truth to what they are saying. When we are insulted, pay attention to it. If there is something that is true to it - then agree. And move on. 3. HASH IT OUT - onlyyyyyy if it’s really worth it! Only if it’s someone in your inner circle that you love. 90% of the time, it’s not worth it. Alex Hormozi says "The only insults that hurt are the ones we believe.” I tell myself… I don’t negotiate with terrorists. When you get REALLY good at this… it becomes so powerful because it doesn’t affect you for more than a few minutes. It’s almost additive because it feels so good to be able to control your emotions and you always win in the situation. You can’t negotiate with crazy so don’t try- there’s no point! It’s awesome and it saves you so much unnecessary headaches!! Remember this the next time someone comes at you, take a minute and decide how you want to really handle it. Have an awesome day!!
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277. The Most Awesome Daily Habits To Feel Your Best
02/02/2024
277. The Most Awesome Daily Habits To Feel Your Best
The goal of this episode is to give you lots of ideas of habits that you can add into your daily life that make you feel awesome. I am super passionate about doing things with intention. Not just going through the motions and routine of life but really being open to trying new things and being willing to change things up when you’re in a funk. I am equally passionate about designing your days so you love them. Not only looking forward to the weekend or the vacation out of town, but designing a life that feels exciting to you. And the best way to do it is not with one big event, it’s with lots of tiny habits that you do everyday that add up to fulfilling days, weeks and months. Let’s get to allll of the ideas of daily habits to feel your best. One of the coolest things about social media is that I think you can really good ideas by seeing what other people do and what their days are like. Make a list of your 10s! Then plan to get them in! Replies from IG… -Daily workouts -Eye patches every morning -Meditation/prayer/journaling -Intermittent fasting -Acupuncture every week -Audiobooks in the car -Using planner to stay organized -Yoga in the morning -Skincare routine -Quite time -Time to read -Morning coffee time -Sunless tanning -Massage My ideas… -Grounding - put your feet in the ground -Have a really delicious last bite of food for the day -Have a crazy comfortable bed that you can’t wait to get into -Massage/facial/mani/pedi -Having a set bedtime and wake time -Sauna can be so relaxing -Have a 0 to 100 plan and a 100 to 0 plan -Connecting with someone in your inner circle every single day -Have a done tasking time - day is done- whatever carries over has to happen tomorrow -Long hot shower with a podcast or YouTube video -Hair care routine By really thinking about the habits that really make us feel great, we make them a priority. Then we are more intentional about how we spend our time and we get so many more of them in each day. CHEERS to adding in habits that make you feel your best! And you’re on your way to designing your awesome life!
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276. How To Be Awesome At Having The Hard Conversation
01/17/2024
276. How To Be Awesome At Having The Hard Conversation
Take a quick pause on what you’re doing right now to fully think about this question… what conversation should you have that you haven’t had yet? What difficult conversation have you been avoiding? What should you tell someone that feels so hard but would relieve pressure or stress by doing it? Often times we sacrifice what we really want OR we assume someone feels a certain way about something OR we don’t want to have to deal with a conflict or disappointing or upsetting someone… so we don’t have it. Sometimes for weeks or months and sometimes for yearssss. It becomes normal not to actually have the hard conversation that would make something better. Today is the wake up day on this - we are unpacking hard conversations. We’re pulling wisdom from lots of people who have studied this topic today. Starting with business strategist, Alex Hermozi. He said, “the life you want is in the other side of a few hard conversation and you’re living a life you hate because you’re too afraid to have them.” He says… Whenever I feel anxious or insecure or sad Im like- What conversation do I need to have that im not having? Usually if you think for not that long You’ll know - this is the conversation ive been putting off. And then, just have it. The time between when you know you need to have it and the time when you actually have it gets shorter and shorter. You dread it but after you do it - you’re like how many more of these can I have?! It’s like the freedom of it makes you crave more. WHY have these talks? 1. Your stress can literally kill you. It’s not worth carrying this with you. 2. You will be 90 one day. We can’t numb life and avoid these things. The regret at 90 would be worse than the pain of having it now. It might be horrible during. But when you think about being 90 years old - you have the courage. And whatever their reaction is - it’s like - I’m doing what I need to do and what I will regret least. For relationships - sometimes things just keep going the way they’ve been and maybe you need to uncover something that happened that affects the entire relationship. Often times you dread it - but maybe you were both assuming things - and it wasn’t accurate. Your only regret will be not doing it sooner. The pain of having these conversation is nothing compared to the gain that you get afterwards. You need something to give you the springboard to do it - for me it’s the thinking of being 90 - and not having the same oppotunries that I do now. And we do not want regret at age 90. So let’s have those really hard conversations now. Examples: You don't quit the job because you love who you work for - but no growth is there. You’re deeply hurt by what a family member did but you just sit with it and let it grow. You don’t talk to a friend because another friend had a dispute with them - so you’ve been loyal but it doesn’t make sense anymore and you want that friend back. Your husband is consistently inconsiderate in a certain way and you just accept that that is how he is - but maybe you need to have the hard conversation! Maybe you have a bad friend that you need to break up with? You have these rapid periods of growth that happen because once you do it - you have courage to do the next one. Maybe you break up with someone that you know you need to. It SUCKS during and after but when you expand the time horizon, you’re like man I feel F-ing fantastic!! Who else do I need to talk to? I hope this episode makes you really ask the question - what conversation do I need to have that I’m not having? CHEERS to embracing the uncomfortable and having the hard conversation as soon as possible!
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275. Life Lately And Lessons Learned
12/29/2023
275. Life Lately And Lessons Learned
In this episode, Lindsay shares the story of her father’s battle with cancer and the heartbreak from all of it. She’s sharing lessons learned and gems of information that she thinks will be helpful as we all go through life together. Even though the topic is very heavy, Lindsay wanted to make sure that listening to this doesn’t make you sad, but rather think about who is really important to you and make sure you are spending enough time with them… and her new life mantra… If you have a chance take it If you have a dream chase it About really LIVING each day/month/year FULLY Also… Have the uncomfortable conversations. Be crazy proactive about your health - listen to your body and go in on the first day that you don't feel right. Be open to alternative treatment options. Spend time with people that you love and be very intentional about who that is. You have to pick- not go with what you should do or have always done. Thank you for listening and for being a part of this community. Sharing this very personal story is important and special to Lindsay and we are grateful for the lessons that come with it. Email Lindsay if you want to chat - .
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274. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Fails
11/13/2023
274. How To Be Awesome At Dealing With Fails
Let’s talk about failing. I’ve come to embrace failure in a way that I wish I did in years past. Because here’s the thing.. if you’re failing here and there as you go, it means you’re out there doing stuff and trying new things and learning along the way. If you tend to beat yourself when something does work… or you are super self conscious about it and worry what other people will think or say… or you stop trying the thing you were working towards- lean in here because I used to do all that and it’s so much better on the other side. I think the very first thing we do is own it and make it known. It’s the only way to not keep thinking about it or worrying if people will realize. Listen, people are more concerned about what they’re doing anyway- take full ownership of it, say it out loud and move on! It’s not who are you - it doesn’t mean you should stop- because now you have that lesson that you didn’t before. We are talking about so many healthy strategies when it comes to failing today like - learning fast from it and flip the script- it’s not a setback - it’s a set-up for a comeback! Know that your attitude about it is actually everything and how to position gratitude into this whole thing. We’re talking all things failing and getting back up today. Own It & Face The Reality Don't blame others or the universe. Own your failures like they're your favorite success story waiting to happen. Failures happen. Own it, acknowledge it and figure out the lesson. No Excuses Winners don’t need excuses. That’s it- we own it, even if it could be partially on someone else too. Learn Fast Failures can be the universe's way of telling you to level up. Learn from them at the speed of light. Extract the lessons, embrace the suck, and move on. Flip the Script It's not a setback; it's a set-up for a comeback. Use it as fuel for the fire burning inside you. Adjust the Strategy, Not the Goal: Your goal is non-negotiable, but your strategy might need an overhaul. Be flexible in your approach, but relentless in your pursuit of the goal. Fail Forward: Failure is not falling down; it's staying down. Use each failure as a stepping stone to a higher level of success. Reinvest Your Pain: The pain of failure is an investment. Reinvest it into your next move. Let it fuel your determination to come back stronger. Have Patience Zoom out and have patience with your journey, but when it comes to fixing your failures, move fast. Embrace the Hustle: If you're not failing, you're not hustling hard enough. Embrace the hustle, embrace the grind. Failures are just stepping stones on the path to achieving your goal. Double Down on Strengths: Your failures might be highlighting your weaknesses, but double down on your strengths. That's where the magic happens. Focus on what you're great at and watch the game change. Get help for what you’re not great at. Crush It Next Time Failure is not the end- it's the setup for the next big win. Crush it next time. Use the pain of failure as momentum for a big comeback. Gratitude Over Grief! "Instead of grieving your failures, be grateful for the lessons they bring. Failure is a gift if you unwrap it with the right mindset." Attitude is Everything!! Your attitude will define your success. It’s everything when it comes to this!! If you can shift the way you think and react to your failures, they can actually be some of your greatest gifts! Embrace your fails - it might just be what makes you actually soar!!
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273. How To Be Awesome At Making Fast Decisions
11/08/2023
273. How To Be Awesome At Making Fast Decisions
First - why make fast decisions? Because a decision that you need to make that is pending takes up your time and attention. That problem you need to solve or that conversation you need to have or that project you keep procrastinating on or that email you need to send. When things are pending, there can be this feeling of anxiety or pressure or overwhelm… because it’s lingering. So if we can develop what I think is a total superpower- the ability to make fast decisions - we will move closer to our goals faster AND get all the things done that need to and want to … so we can chill out and relax and have fun with our favorite people or have some awesome self care time. This is one of those lessons I’ve learned from not being awesome at making fast decisions but now that I’m on the other side of it- it’s amazing. We’re talking about how to become a fast decision maker and all the ways it will free up your time and improve your life. First thing each day... Eat the frog Hug the monster! -Do the hard thing first! -What truly matters is the time and attention we spend things. -All of that anxiety could be removed if you just did the thing, made the decision. -You can move faster than most people if you make decisions faster. -It’s not paying the attention cost!! You decide and move on. You just move through life faster. -The crazy thing is once you get the momentum of this, it’s like the most empowering. It’s like well that’s done, what’s next!? -To be decisive is also just confidence… it’s like I'm going to tackle this! -You can’t multi-task and make fast decisions. Because we need too focus and not make careless decisions. 2.0 Mindset Course & Community info: CHEERS!!
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272. How To Be Awesome At The 2.0 Version Of You
11/01/2023
272. How To Be Awesome At The 2.0 Version Of You
2.0 you What does that look like? Who are you if you if nothing is holding you back. If you aren’t defining success by with other people or society think but by what actually matters to you Who are you if you wake up on a Monday LOVING what you get to go do This whole thing is about living life FULLY and to your full potential. It’s about next level goals and making a good action plan to achieve them. It’s about eliminating all things negative and leaning into the version of you that when you’re 90 and looking back, you’re like… man did I really LIVE. I left it all on the field. To me, the ultimate driver is thinking about being 90 and not having all the opportunities we do now and thinking, I just went through the motions. I didn’t do all that I wanted to. These are the golden years. We have so much access to information and education and doing what you actually want to do, has never been easier. It’s hard - its consistent hard work everyday- but it’s also easy - we just need a good plan to get there. That’s what I had in mind when I designed this course and group… and I’m so jazzed to dive into what the 2.0 YOU looks like. In this episode I’m going through what the 2.0 version of you looks like and the method I created to help you get there. Not settling for mediocre, or believing we have limitations that we don’t actually have. Not getting involved in anything negative or worrying about what other people think of you. The mindset course and group that I created to help people live in the best headspace, love what you do everyday, create your own definition of success, make good with the past and move on, develop deep self confidence and set massive goals and make progress towards them everyday. We are focusing on how to get what you want... Overall Health & Wellness Physical Strength & Longevity Freedom To Design Your Days How You Want To Deep Connection With Your People Financial Freedom FUN And Celebrations This program includes a 6 week course and journey that we go on together, tackling all the best concepts in personal development. And starting now, the community of growth mindset people and 2.0 daily habits system that I developed to support our priorities and experience more growth than ever before. We are digging deep to figure out what success, fulfillment and joy means to you. We are being very intentional about how we spend our time and money and we are avoiding distracting and ditching old habits that don’t serve us. We are suffocating everything negative and getting in our 10s everyday. The words we say and the thoughts we think create the world that we live in- so we are prioritizing that. To go along with this is a 2.0 gift box with all of your materials to support this big program. It’s called 2.0 because we are designing the next chapter of your life. The 2.0 you. Email me any questions at . To Sign-Up for the 2.0 version of you… here’s the link! CHEERS to the 2.0 next level version of YOU!!
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271. How To Be Awesome At Celebrating Yourself (and 21 other gems of wisdom)
10/23/2023
271. How To Be Awesome At Celebrating Yourself (and 21 other gems of wisdom)
This is a little birthday thoughts wrap-up and lessons learned podcast episode. I would argue that it’s easier to celebrate other people than celebrating yourself but I think it’s super important and something I got a little better at this time around. I’m sharing lots of ideas of how to celebrate yourself - whether it’s your birthday or an accomplishment or a milestone or something you’re proud of - we should lean into celebrating ourselves, not feel weird about it. Just like how we should talk to ourselves really nicely like we would talk to our favorite person - same thing- it’s important to prioritize celebrating YOU. And making the plan yourself, not relying on anyone else. It’s empowering and fun! Also in this episode, 21 other gems of wisdom that I think you’ll love and take with you! What I know for sure at 42… First off… CELEBRATING YOURSELF Get in your 10s! Prioritize things that you really like - big and small Prioritize rest and relax and unplugging Learn something new Challenge yourself Give yourself the time and space to just have a day Listen to loud music Host your own bday party Reflect and set goals Travel or plan travel Tell people what you want / expect There’s nothing more important than love. Make sure your people how much much you really love them and then do anything for them, always. Most stress comes from the way we respond, not the way life is. Adjust how you see things, look for the good, learn the lessons and change your response. Be very intentional about your priorities and spend your time and money accordingly. You never realize how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have. (Bob Marley quote- love) Good or bad, this moment won’t last forever. Breathe in and really enjoy those highs and buckle down and get through the lows. Better days are on the way. Just. Keep. Going. Most people give up way too soon. It wasn’t a bad idea, you just didn’t do it long enough. You can go down the wrong path and end up in the right place. Sometimes that’s the process- losing your way can be the best way to find what truly sets your soul on fire. Work hard to get in a happy headspace then keep working hard to stay there. Avoid everything negative and complaining, no good comes from it. Take massive action… no amount of planning or intention actually moves you toward your goals. Make yourself uncomfortable as often as you can. It’s good to be nervous before a big speech and miserable in a cold plunge- it means you’re putting yourself out there and you’re growing and learning and becoming tougher & more confident in yourself. Go to bed without crumbs. Be a good human and you’ll never have to worry about something coming back around. Being able to be vulnerable is actually a superpower. So much growth and confidence comes from owning where you’re at. Choose your pain- the pain of growth or the pain of staying the same. Prioritize your health everyday, not when you get sick. When you truly don’t worry about the judgement of others, you’ll see a world of opportunities that you didn’t see before. Make sure you’re running your own race. That you’re intentional about what success means to you and stop at nothing to get there. The best way to make good decisions- don’t put yourself in bad situations. You cannot lose if you do not quit. (Alex Hormozi quote- love) Saying nothing sometimes says the most. Spend as much time as possible doing the things you love with the people you love. Prioritize laughter, fun and celebrations. Celebrate the people you love - and yourself- as often as you can
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270. How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life
10/17/2023
270. How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life
How To Be Awesome At Integrating Key Pillars Of Health Into Your Daily Life 1 Get Sunlight 2 Lift Heavy Weights 3 Take Daily Vitamin, Creatine, Magnesium & Collagen 4 Get 7-8 Hours Of Good Sleep 5 Consume A High Protein Diet (eat more protein and bigger meals, eat less often and have less cravings) 6 Prioritize Hydration With Electrolytes 7 Stretch Daily (for recovery, longevity and flexibility) 8 Take A Cold Shower/ Cold Plunge 9 Take A Hot Bath/ Sauna 10 Protect Your Happy Headspace 11 Eliminate Everything Negative & Lean Into Positive 12 Do Some Grounding/ Feel The Earth 13 No Screens Before Bed, No Screens At Wake Up & No Screens In Bed 14 No Food 2-3 Hours Before Sleep 15 Careful Of Your Liquid Calories (coffee drinks, juices, soda & booze) 16 Reduce Or Eliminate Refined Sugar And Carbs (fruit is the best alternative) 17 10k Steps Per Day (movement throughout the day is key) 18Get Uncomfortable Often & Do Hard Things (train to be tough & anti-fragile) (waking up at 5am to work out is hard, being 50 lbs. overweight is harder- choose your hard) 19 Create & Live By Your Own Definition Of Success 20 Have Fun & Laugh & Celebrate! (Invest time in building your tribe) These things will not only help you to feel AWESOME! They are the natural medicine for.. Stress, exhaustion, constipation, low muscle mass, inflammation, headaches, trouble sleeping, brain fog, negative thoughts and feelings of wanting more out of life. Treat the cause, not the symptom! These key pillars will get us there!! CHEERS to the superhuman version of you!
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269. How To Be Awesome At Avoiding Unnecessary Conflict.
10/13/2023
269. How To Be Awesome At Avoiding Unnecessary Conflict.
Have you ever had a disagreement or gotten into an argument with someone and it was stressing and you thought about it for a while after but then, in hindsight, you realize the whole thing was really unnecessary and could have been avoided. This is the ultimate pick your battles conversation. But it’s more than that. Even if someone insults you or pushes your buttons, if there’s no real benefit that can come from hashing it out we’re just not going to engage And the way we are going to do it is by reminding ourselves, that we hold ourselves to a higher standard than that person. Often times we feel like we have to prove our point or defend ourselves but if it’s not someone that we love and their opinion really matters to us, it’s a waste of bandwidth. We’re not talking about being a people pleaser and just agreeing with everything you’re told… we are talking about being a strategic about your headspace, and resisting the urge to engage when there is no real benefit in doing so. We are going to define unnecessary conflict as an interaction that you engage in that doesn’t really matter or align with your core priorities. It just doesn’t matter. It feels like a big deal because of how it was presented- but is it really? Do you really care? You are going to hold yourself to a higher standard than them. Even if it’s justified to respond in the way that they talked to you, that’s not who YOU are. We aren’t going to let them - walking around with low standards for themselves - affect how we act. The most important opinion is how we feel about ourselves when we are by ourselves. So when you go to sleep at night, you have those reflection thoughts of the day. What happened and how did you handle it? Examples: -If someone puts a judgement on you that is clearly a reflection of their own issues or jealously -If someone gives you advice that you dont ask for and dont want -Road rage -People at work poking into your stuff -People you don’t know on social media leaving a comment or judgment -Tricky family members -Political statements that push your buttons -Parenting criticism -It’s the ability to just say ok- and move on. Or smile and walk away. Or say anything but argue or get it going. -Maintain your strong self but -We just see this differently and I’m ok with that. (And not in a rude way) CHEERS to resisting the urge to get into disagreements that don’t matter and protecting our headspace! To learn more about Lindsay’s Awesome Mindset Course- email her at Have an awesome day!
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268. How To Be Awesome At Helping Your Kids Lead A Holiday Service Project
10/11/2023
268. How To Be Awesome At Helping Your Kids Lead A Holiday Service Project
What if your child, this holiday season, started a project to help other kids in need? How cool would that be?! During a time when it’s naturally a lot of making lists about what you want and gifts and buying and stuff- which is all part of it, nothing negative there- but what if we shift the focus so it’s some of that but it’s also a lot of thinking about others. In this episode I am going to walk you through how you can help guide your child so they can create their very own community service project. Their own plan to help make the holiday season special in some way, for kids who are struggling or living in overcrowded situations or in the hospital.. The amount of growth and empathy and kindness that comes from doing this is not even describable. Especially if your child or children can meet or experience the world that these other kids live in, it’s an impact that can’t be made in another way. The way that we all help the world become a more kind place where people look out for each other, is though our kids. Today’s episode is all about how you can do just that - and it’s much easier than you think. It can’t be made from them watching us volunteer or donate. It’s that deep feeling of appreciation and gratitude that only comes from experiencing something yourself. **Action items Contact shelters - ask them - how can we best support you Know this going into it Ask your child these questions (or answer htem for them if they are too little) What are you most interested in right now? (Examples: Spiderman, making bracelets, Legos, slime etc) Talk to them about how other kids don’t have the things that we are just used to. Great opportunity to describe in an age appropriate way- how grateful you feel and how not everyone has these same comforts. Ask them how they would like to help kids this holiday season. Here are some examples: Host their own toy drive Plan to serve a meal in some way Hot cocoa stand - raised money is used to buy toys for kids in a shelter or in a hospital for Christmas. Set-up an adopt a family program Create care packages Whatever they love - do that- collecting Legos to donate to children in the hospital etc. Host a drive - to build hygiene kits or Build backpacks for kids for school Help fund kids who need help paying for sports Blanket drive for new blankets Make friendship bracelets and sell them like a lemonade stand Build holiday thanksgiving baskets with meals families can prepare for thanksgiving The realistic ease of all of this... **You don’t have to pay for this- you guys are just the ones setting it up. Making the connections and the plan and then getting an army going to support your project. CHEERS to teaching your kids about helping others at a young age, so it is ingrained in who they are.
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267. How To Be Awesome At Transforming Your Pain Into Fuel
10/03/2023
267. How To Be Awesome At Transforming Your Pain Into Fuel
I’ve learned that the best motivator for change and growth is not motivation, it’s not in your morning routine… it’s a actually PAIN. Pain from the past or pain that you are going through now, can be your superpower and your driver for starting the next chapter. Maybe someone in your life told you that you’re a loser and you’ll always be a loser- you can either sit in the pain and anger of that - or you can get to work. There’s only one actual type of revenue and it’s called success. I’d rather be at rock bottom than in a mediocre situation, which might sound crazy but I believe this 100%. Because at rock bottom you have FIRE to change. When things aren’t great but aren’t terrible, most people don’t make the decisions that are best for them or have the conversations they need to have. We’re leaning into your pain today and actually making it your superpower. The second title of this podcast was going to be - the best type of revenge - because it’s all very similar. It’s like this… pain motivates faster than pleasure. Use your pain! Pain is the best motivator for change and growth. We can either sit with the pain and think about who’s fault it is and how shitty this is… OR we can take that pain and use it to give us gas baby. It’s pain both ways- the pain of staying the same or the pain of change and struggle to become the person that you really want to be. I’ll take the second type of pain all day. SUCCESS is the only revenge. You don’t beat them - they fade away because of what you’ve become. So many high performers have used their past to increase how hard they are willing to work. Think about this … which is more powerful Saying.. I want to live a better life. OR I want to prove my dad wrong who told me I’ve failed at this and that so I’ll just going to keep failing. Which gives you more fuel? You think you’ll go back to them later and be like SEE- you were wrong!! But here’s the thing- by the time you get there - that won’t even matter. You won’t be thinking about them anymore. But it helped you to get there. Be honest about your pain- don’t suppress or ignore or be self-conscious about it. Define your goals and priorities- what will get you out of the current pain or what will make you move on from past pain? Then let’s turn that pain into FUEL baby!! It’s a burn the boat type of thing. It’s all in. This is your new minimum standard for yourself. Lose the ego… work on your resilience and toughen up muscles. The things that hurt so bad in the short term can be what propel you so far forward in the long term. GET SPECIFIC - I want to show this person that they’re an idiot and what they said about me isn’t. This won’t always be your fuel - it will fade away! A chip on your shoulder could be a good thing! Be SO specific about your pain is! Dont say - I hate my life I’m a loser. Say... I hate the way my dad makes me feel when he says im a loser and I won’t achieve anything - and maybe because it stings because you worry the same thing. It hurts the most when you feel like there is an element of truth to it. If someone accusing you of being something that you aren’t - it doesn’t bother you as much. Alex Hormozi says it this way. “Success is the only revenge. As you expand they shrink into irrelevance. You don't beat them- you cast a shadow so big, nobody can see them to begin with.” CHEERS to focusing on the only type of revenge - success! And reshaping how we define and respond to our pain.
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266. How To Be Awesome At Reshaping Your Identity With 5 Words
09/25/2023
266. How To Be Awesome At Reshaping Your Identity With 5 Words
Have you ever woken up late and missed the work out you had planned? And you say something like God I always do that. I’m so mad at myself. Think about the identity that you are putting on yourself. Now take that same example and your reaction is this… Wow… That’s not like me. I heard Ed Mylett say this, and it was such a massive lightbulb moment for me. The first response is telling yourself - yup, that’s who you are - you can’t get your hot mess of a self up on time for the gym. The second response is the opposite- it’s saying… wow, this is not aligned with the person I see myself as. This small reaction moment completely changes how this experience affects you and how you label it. In the first way, you may feel frustrated with yourself all day and an overall lower opinion of your ability to get things done as planned. And with the second response- you’re like… ok let’s pivot and carve out time at the end of the day to get it in because I’m a person that doesn’t miss workouts. This same method applies to so many areas of life that we are getting into today. And it’s just so simple - 5 words. Wow, that’s not like me. And the reason why this works so insanely well is because we know that stopping negative talk is more powerful than increasing positive talk. You know, I love something that is easy to remember and apply to your daily life. This is one of those! Whenever we make a mistake or make the wrong choice or fail, or lose it some thing… Instead of all the other negative things, we could say… What if we said… Wow, that’s not like me. You are recognizing that this action or behavior or choice or mistake… Whatever it is… Does not identify with the person you want to be. Good activity - your life priorities list and brain dump the type of person that you are Then schedule it!! The other day, on the way home from school Presley was saying how she has so much homework and she really needs to get ahead… We walk in the door and she unpacks her backpack and she doesn’t have her laptop. It really hit her hard. She was crying and mad and said what is wrong with me… I always do this. I sat down on her bed and said, wow, that’s not like you. Now for the record… This is the second time she has forgotten her laptop since we started school a few weeks ago But I said to her… Did you forget your laptop yesterday… She’s like no and I’m like what about the day before? And she’s like no I’m like see? I’m telling you… These five simple words, reframe how we label and interpret mistakes. When you turn off your alarm and sleep through your work out… Rather than beating yourself up when you wake up… Your reaction is… This does not align with who I actually am! Examples: Losing it with your kids Gossiping/ talking badly about someone Talking bad about your own body Wasting money Being short with your spouse Picking the wrong boyfriend Overcommitting Over apologizing Wasting time scrolling Going out of your way to make someone else’s life hard Picking a battle that you should have let go Not supporting a friend like you wanted to Eating super unhealthy to where you feel badly When you go to beat yourself up- just stop yourself!! And say those 5 words - Wow, that’s not like me. It changes it all! And is a real secret to true self confidence. Email Lindsay at [email protected] if you want to be one of the first to know about her mindset course and live group. CHEERS to setting up this habit to instantly reframe how mistakes affect you. Now go put that post-it up so you use this in your life! It will say… Wow, that’s not like me.
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265. How to Be Awesome At Identifying A Jerk VS Someone With Unresolved Issues
09/18/2023
265. How to Be Awesome At Identifying A Jerk VS Someone With Unresolved Issues
Now this can get tricky because a lot of times the choices that people make now this can be tricky because there’s a very fine line here, but I think it is so important to spend time on. The whole reason that this podcast episode is absolutely essential is because we are making decisions all day long about the people we interact with and who we lead into our inner circle… and this is a very clear issue to me… But only very recently. Since we know that it is absolutely crucial for us to protect our happy headspace and really try to give our energy to things that drive us forward and are aligned with our main life priorities. So having people in our lives that make us feel shitty about ourselves, or are constantly running us down or being inconsiderate and hurting our feelings… is not part of the program. This is one of those things that I’ve only just fully seen super clearly within the last few weeks. And I think it’s so crazy important because if you really take the time to think of it this way when you’re in different situation… you will absolutely make the best decisions when interacting with them and also how much interaction you should actually have with them. So let’s define our terms… What do we consider a jerk and what do we consider someone who hasn’t hasn’t worked through their own issues yet. JERK To me, a jerk is someone who puts themselves first- so they are a good friend when it works for them… Often times the conversation is 90% about them and 10% about you… Now not all of these examples will of course apply to every jerk… I’m just giving you examples… Jerks sometimes say mean things just to be mean… They don’t take accountability for their actions. Often times if you look at how they treat other people… Not just you… It’s easier to actually see who they are. I think it’s also very important to believe people when they show you who they are, I really am an eternal optimist, but that can be to a disadvantage because sometimes I’ll keep thinking… This person will see this new change… When the reality is… If someone shows you who they are over and over again… Responsibility is on you now not them… They showing you who they are and now it’s your job to recognize it and protect yourself appropriately. Examples: Mind manipulates you - guilt trips etc. Lack of compassion or empathy - often critical, always your fault, nit picks, causes fights No accountability - blames you for all Gaslighting - deny facts, rewrite history and even make you sought your own thoughts Exportation - financial or emotional - use your resources for their own gain - without much in return Control- often seen control of every part of the relationship Friends are disposable - can abruptly end a friendship or relationship without any empathy. SOMEONE WITH ISSUES For a person who has issues they haven’t resolved yet… The behavior can be similar, but if you look closely, there’s usually a very clear difference. Examples: Projection - put their own negative emotions on you. Their insecurities or unresolved issue. Mood swings- they can be angry or irritable with you without clear reasons Overacting- they can have a big reaction to a minor issue - because they have a heightened emotional sensitivity Blame shifting - its all your fault Inconsistency - change their mind often, not sure what version of them you are going to get Jealousy and envy- they feel inadequate so they can be competitive and not happy for your wins Neediness- they might overly depend on you - which can be emotionally draining Talk behind your back - because they feel insecure HOW TO APPROACH BOTH- your blueprint Jerk- distance- don’t engage in the argument Often not worth the time to explain how they hurt you or disregarded your feelings. Someone with issues- depends on how close you are to them. Give them grace. Or tell them- I know this is not the person that you are. Give them time and space. Be honest about how their actions affected you. Offer support and a safe space Keep boundaries - so their negative stuff doesn’t impact you Know when you have to walk away - at least for now It’s so important to know the difference and to proceed differently with both. You will feel so much freedom and spend so much more time in your happy headspace!
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264. How To Be Awesome At Not Doing Things You Don't Want To!
09/15/2023
264. How To Be Awesome At Not Doing Things You Don't Want To!
This is your wake-up call to stop doing things you don’t want to do. Right now - think of something that you’ve done recently or have something coming up - that you didn’t want to or don’t want to do. Now, if you reallllly think about, I bet 99% of the time, you don’t actually have to do it. You just think you do for so many reasons like…. It will be rude if you don’t go or people might talk about you… or you can’t quit the job you don’t like because you don’t have other options… But here’s the thing…. Most of this we put on ourselves! It’s our lives- we’re in the drivers seat- there are ways to not do all these things. I think if we can figure out how to NOT do the things we don’t want to do… while still being a very considerate, kind and good human… we’ve mastered it. Because guess what- when you’re doing things you don’t want to do- you’re usually not your most awesome self anyway. Cause you don’t want to be there. Today we’re getting you out of all the things you think you should do, but don’t want to do… without being an asshole.
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263. How To Be Awesome At Making Decisions Based On The 90 Year Old You
09/12/2023
263. How To Be Awesome At Making Decisions Based On The 90 Year Old You
We don’t get to split test life right - so we can’t see what it looks like if we take the job or start the business… or if we marry this person vs. this person… But the idea of picturing yourself at 90 years old is to me - the absolute best way to make decisions. Because it’s you as you are at 90, versus what you could have been. It’s the ultimate motivator to really figure out what fulfillment and success and happiness means to you- not what is considered the society norm or what your family or friend group think… And the best part of this, at age 90, you won’t care at all what anyone thinks. They’re all 90 too and the question will be, did you do the best you could with what you had? Did you run life on autopilot for most of the time or did you really live life fully and take risks and enjoy the moments. And risk is so much easier when you look at it this way. You have the pain of taking the risk and doing the hard thing, or you have the pain of not knowing what could have been. I’ll take the first all day. Decisions can be hard- both the big life decisions and the daily habits that we have… but I think if you position your decision making like you’re 90 and looking back at the choices you made, I think you’ll make the best decisions possible. Because the things that we get caught up now, just won’t matter if we pan out to the big picture. This is a game of you vs. the potential you. The best content that inspired this topic is from Gary Vee and Alex Hormozi. Like most podcasts, I learn from reading and watching and these two are the best at this! Gary Vee says - regret is poison. He says ask yourself... What will you regret least when you’re 90? I always think about the 90 year old version of myself. Let’s use that as our basis. The more you think like this, the easier it gets. As you practice making decisions based on your own standards, the easier it gets!! Live the life you want. Wear what you want to wear, date who you want to date, The freedom to fail is more fulfilling then walking through on autopilot - living under these standards that other people live by. People say- I can’t quit my job - no but you actually can. You just worry about what other people think of it. Don’t follow what most people do or you’ll have what most people have. It feels safe but it’s a bad decision. The sad reality is that most people are unhappy or unhealthy or unhappy in their relationship etc. The best way to guarantee a life you don’t want is to do what everyone else does. Unless you want what everyone else has which nobody does. Think for yourself - it’s hard at the beginning - this is how we’ve been sitting!! What our parents think, what your friends do… when you first do it, it feels so scary. But the reality is, all that matters is you vs. the potential you. You at 90 vs. you at 90 with what you could have been. We put so much weight on what other people think is success or what they do - where they work etc. Often when people are most proud of you - isn’t when you’re the happiest!! When you’re in a good job that you hate. I’ve done this so much - I just know what I want and it’s done. The timeline is compressed. The bigger the wall is, you can then use that as evidence for the next wall. Well that one worked, let’s do what I want again, let’s go. The bigger the dragon is you have to slay, the more confidence you get from it. It will give you the reinforcement you need for the future ones. Living in the present - be mindful of your relationships today. We focus so much on past and future, what about what is right in front of you. This idea also helps you really slow down and soak in the moments The so delish cup of warm coffee- get in your 10s!! Like waves crashing on your feet and sand in your toes. Learn from your mistakes- see them as lessons - and move on. The whole thing is a way to help you life fully - by taking cation and pursue your passions and making decisions that align with what YOU actually want - not what standards other people have set. It’s about living fully and the best version of you - according to you. Make the most out of each day, do the things you love with the people you love. CHEERS to living fully so you wake up as a 90 year old one day, without regrets and knowing you lived your life to your fullest potential.
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262. How To Be Awesome At Creative Halloween Costumes
09/09/2023
262. How To Be Awesome At Creative Halloween Costumes
It’s that time of year again!! Before you know it, Halloween will be here and so will costumes. My goal with this podcast episode is to give you lots of creative costume ideas - for you, for kids, for a family or a group… all of it! And get you going so it’s all organized ahead of time and you don’t find yourself on October 30th in a one hour line at a costume store. If you’ve never been in this situation- trust me, it’s pain like nothing else. So let’s dive into some options for fun Halloween costumes, and take the craziness out of it! So we can start the holiday season nice and organized and enjoying the moments. The last minute or unexpected things will always come up.. but since costumes are something we can plan ahead for… let’s do it! The best thing is to make a brain dump list of the things you love and especially right now! I try to avoid the things that everyone will be - the hot movie this year, etc. 4 ways to do it!! -Piece together your own using non-costume items- like cowboy, granny, etc. -Buy a costume - astronaut, supehero, monster, princess etc. -Or buy parts of a costume and half DIY your costume - alien -Or fully make your own - vending machine Fun Costume ideas! Robber Mad scientist Group and family costume ideas! Circus with a ringmaster Aliens Superheros The Incredibles Flintstones Toy Story characters Pirates Couple costumes Barbie and ken Angel and devil Minnie & Mickey Beauty & the Beast Construction Workers Mario & Luigi Disney Elsa or Anna from Frozen Snow White or Evil Queen Ariel or Ursula from The Little Mermaid A ton more! And lots are so easy! Clown Ghost Pro soccer player - Messi All sports- tennis, golf **I love a mash-up with sorts… like 80s tennis or zombie bride Ninja Witch Black Cat Mummy Bumble Bee Doctor or Nurse Unicorn Shark Beekeeper Star Wars character Ballet dancer Baker / Chef Police Officer Fire fighter Astronaut Gumball machine All the superheroes Spiderman Wonder woman Batman Superman For kids, I sometimes do one for school and then a family one for trick or treating. It also allows for kids to have a backup if they change their mind. Perk to not buying an actual costume- you can return what doesn’t work without a strict timeline. Halloween can be so much fun!! Let’s plan for it ahead of time so we can really enjoy the moments without the stress. Happy start of the holiday season!!
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261. How To Be Awesome At Adjusting Your Standards
08/28/2023
261. How To Be Awesome At Adjusting Your Standards
This probably sounds like we are compromising on what we want out of life… But it’s actually exactly the opposite of that. This idea of going into situations without set expectations allows you to be more present in the moment as it actually is. Rely less on other peoples actions and decisions, and more on your own. And leaning more to the special little spontaneous moments and less on less on those big moments that we often put a lot of pressure on. And when we do expect something from someone in our lives, we are going to tell them clearly and honestly ahead of time. I think a lot of the times when people are disappointed by someone they love, it wasn’t intentional, we just had a set expectation and we didn’t communicate it. I just don’t think it’s productive to put people to the test- like they should know- no, tell them!! When you sort of remove the overall expectations of how things should be in a particular situation… you become better equipped to enjoy it in the moment and release all those thoughts of what it should be. Because in reality… Life often doesn’t go as we think it is going to… In positive and negative ways… So if we put more focus on being present in the moment as it is, and not what we thought it would be… we will have less disappointment and more awesome days. A lot of times we are disappointed because we had these huge expectations- but we didn’t tell anybody!! Here are the TIPS!! 1. Identify when you’re not in a good headspace and need to get back to happy 2. Communicate clearly - if you have set expectations of how things should be 3. Give generously to others so your expectations when communicated are met. 4. Set-up plans have talks before something special - like a vacation or Christmas Day- so you lay the foundation - then let it all go and let it happen as it will. 5. It’s YOUR job to make you feel happy and fulfilled- not someone else’s. Don’t put too much pressure on other people or make it so it’s not possible to achieve. 6. Don’t compare- especially on social media. 7. Plan your own celebration!! Your birthday or Mother’s Day! Not in a controlling way- you know what you want so set it up! Don’t feel like someone else should or you shouldn’t plan your own. 8. Accept that we aren’t perfect so our loved ones won’t be either. 9. Do the self- care and mindfulness. When we feel like we are pouring from an empty cup we are emotional and more likely to be sensitive when things don’t go as you expect. 10. Celebrate often!! Get out and laugh! We sometimes celebrate only when it’s something traditional - how about celebrating smaller things more often. You’ll feel so good and it won’t put this massive 6 month pressure on your birthday going perfectly because you’re celebrating all the time!! CHEERS to living your best life, on your terms!!
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260. How To Be Awesome When You Feel Lost
08/25/2023
260. How To Be Awesome When You Feel Lost
We all have times in our lives when we feel lost or in a hard transition time… we aren’t sure what our purpose is or we have a lack or goals or passions. We can feel lost in one aspect of our lives or sort of lost in general. Maybe it’s a feeling of overwhelm or underwhelm or both! Today, we’re talking about what to do when you feel lost… in one aspect of life or the total picture. We’re breaking it down and not making it harder than it actually is to get through it. Here are the steps that have served me best: Figure out what you want Figure out how to get it Get the right mindset Get the right skillset Get the right habits in place Be willing to make adjustments And just keep going. Let’s talk about the ways people can feel lost in different stages of life… Career Major life transitions Money stress Unclear goals Breakup 1. Figure out what you want Hard part 2. Figure out how to get it Easy part Find someone who’s already got it - and reverse engineer what they did Who knows the path? Then do the work. 3. Figure out the daily habits it will take to get there Show me your habits and I’ll tell you what your life looks like in 6 months or one year. 4. Make adjustments Don’t be afraid to change - evyerhing will stay the same if you don’t And don’t be afraid to change as you go - you can’t be so set in your plan that you don’t see what needs to be adjusted as you go. 5. Just keep going Dont make it harder than it needs to be Get in the right mindset Get the right skillset Get the right habits in place Figure out what it is, find people who have done it, make a plan, do the work. FOCUS on this thing right when you wake up and before you go to bed. Change can be slow, but with this plan, you’ll get there. Cheers to figuring out what you want and going and getting it!
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259. How To Be Awesome At Saving Time By Not Running Errands
08/22/2023
259. How To Be Awesome At Saving Time By Not Running Errands
If you spend a few hours a week running errands like most of us do… This podcast is about to save you so much time! Today we are looking at the things that we do in a week or in a month and figuring out what we can stream line. You know I love the system of automate, eliminate and delegate. With all the different technologies available today… there is no reason we should be spending hours a week running errands. There is simply just more efficient options and better ways to accomplish the same thing. And the best part… for very little or no cost at all. By planning ahead of time and getting some systems in place… we can save so much time by utilizing modern technologies and flexing are efficiency muscles. And then we are left with more time to do the things we love with the people we love, but we’re also less exhausted and less annoyed- big bonus! -Only TWO times you should run errands - if you truly enjoy it or if it’s truly last minute. -By planning ahead and being strategic, we can avoid virtually all errands. -Most of us do errands because it’s in our routine. -The goal of this pod is to shake things up and what we do that we could do more efficiently. -Shop online - most places have free delivery -Subscription services -Planning meals ahead of time -Automate bills/ get more tech savy -Have things delivered! -Use Uber! -Delegate tasks - babysitter etc for a few errands before watching kids. The whole key to this is planning ahead and being open to the new way of doing things. The added bonus besides saving so much time is you save so much money! From not getting all the impulse items. And since you’re not at as many places, you’re not even missing what you’re not buying!! CHEERS to all your newly found free time now that you’re not running around doing errands! Have an awesome day!!
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258. How To Be Awesome At Saving Your Energy For The Important Stuff
08/14/2023
258. How To Be Awesome At Saving Your Energy For The Important Stuff
Today we are talking about what you give your energy to. And if we do a very honest self audit, I bet we are all in someway giving energy the things that we don’t want to or they don’t serve us Our goal today is to work towards not giving energy towards things we can’t control. Like what people think of you - something that may feel like you have control over but you actually don’t. Therefore… It’s not worth spending your energy on. And so many other ways to protect our energy like- being around people who make us feel awesome… And eliminating or significantly reduce any amount of time you spend around people who don’t make you feel great. Think about yourself like you’re a quarterback at the football game and your energy is that football you are holding so tight to your chest and all day long you are running through this football field of life where big dudes are trying to slam into you and try to take your energy or disrupt it. Our job is to protect our energy like it’s the most important thing… Because it actually is. -Just like we need to train in the gym to be strong physically - we need to constantly train to be strong mentally. So welcome to this awesome mental gym where today we are going to dive into what you spend your energy on. Mentally and physically. We only have so much energy in a day. How are we spending it and what needs to be adjusted? You have no control over what people think. We have a hard enough time Believing you have any control of what other people think is setting yourself up for failure. You can only control your behavior with regards to their feelings - not what they think. Take care of yourself -Allow yourself to say no Release yourself from the worry associated with saying no Don’t do things you dont want to do -Here’s the secret- Don’t be a jerk or inconsiderate. Be a kind and caring person and be insanely loyal to your inner circle… and kind and considerate to everyone else. Then do whatever the heck makes you happy!! Don’t be in this trap of saying yes because you feel like you have to- all to make someone else try to think some way about you - when you can’t control that anyway. How about - dont go to the bridal shower that you dont want to go to - tell them ahead of time - send a nice note and gift and be on your happy way!! -Reduce mental clutter -Free up space so you have energy for things you really care about -It creates a better world for everyone around you -You’ll be happier in everything you do -Because you aren’t going to things that you dont want to go to. -You’ll have more time to do the things you love with the people you love!!
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