233 Self-Sufficiency When Leading

The beauty, weight loss, fashion, and entertainment industries project fantasies of success, often leaving people feeling inadequate. Comparing ourselves to wealthy actors, sports stars, or CEOs can amplify dissatisfaction with our own lives, making us wish we’d been born with better resources, opportunities, or advantages. However, dwelling on these thoughts isn’t productive; we aren’t going to be dealt a different hand in life.

While past mistakes, poor choices, or unfavorable circumstances may weigh us down, it’s essential to stop focusing on what we cannot change. Instead, shifting our energy toward what lies ahead helps us progress. Many get caught up in revisiting past errors, but to move forward, it’s crucial to leave those burdens behind and focus on present strengths and opportunities.

Moving forward means becoming our own "first responder." When disaster strikes, first responders act quickly to save lives. Similarly, no one will swoop in to rescue us, so we must act on our own behalf, developing a rescue plan to overcome mental barriers that limit us. While we can’t forget our past, we can stop letting it incapacitate us today. Worrying about past events doesn’t alter them. Instead, mentally “compartmentalize” these memories, so they don’t spill over into our present.

With the past contained, the next step is to focus on our strengths. One of the most significant assets anyone has is time. Whether spent productively or otherwise, time is ours to use, and how we spend it determines our future. By viewing time as a key resource, we can direct it toward building the life we want.

To use time effectively, set a clear vision for where you want to be. From there, identify specific, realistic goals and action steps. Progress may feel incremental, but with every action step, momentum builds, moving you closer to your vision. This process requires only a small amount of your most valuable asset—time—and yields a future crafted by your own efforts.