Rise With Reb
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo and J.J. welcome the inspirational Reb, Transformational Life Coach who is the driving force behind the Rise With Reb programs and community. Reb shares how she went from a wheelchair to walking, despite what the doctors said. She, Jo, and J.J. discuss why it’s so hard to let go of old habits, the responsibility we have of sharing our story on social media, the importance of advocating for yourself and doing your own research, and how not to live in a pity fest.
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Carrying Ourselves and Others Through Grief
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Today Jo and J.J. focus on grief, both from the perspective of the griever and from the person trying to comfort others through their grief. They explore the right approach to carrying ourselves and others through grief. Jo also shares an experience about willfulness and effectiveness in DBT and why people really need to learn to let go of the need to be right and just accept what is. They talk about defining values, setting boundaries, and, on a lighter note, why #begrannymolly is Jo’s new life goal.
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Emotional Intelligence: When Is It Real, and When is It Self Serving?
Jo & JJ Go Mental
They’re baaack! Jo and J.J. kick off Season 2 the only way they know how - by spelling out that sometimes we can get this emotional intelligence piece wrong. Many well intentioned leaders approach emotional intelligence as a tick box exercise, merely going through the motions, rather than really understanding the objective. That faux emotional intelligence in corporate societies will likely try to cover up a more self serving agenda.
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Season 1 Recap and Looking Ahead To Season 2
Jo & JJ Go Mental
What a season! As Jo and J.J. wrap up Season 1, they identify a few of the themes that came up with the fantastic array of guests. Between fear, shame, embracing your weirdness and much more, Season 1 was chock full of learning from each other and calling in new perspectives. This week, they highlight a few stand-out moments and give us a sneak peek of what we can look forward to in Season 2.
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We Can Be Different Together: Faith Clarke
Jo & JJ Go Mental
This week, Jo and J.J. welcome Faith Clarke, Organizational Health and Inclusion Specialist who works with value-driven and diverse teams so they can deliver on business and social impact promises at the highest level. Faith is extremely passionate about inclusion for BIPOC and neuro-distinct individuals and advocating for those who “don’t belong”. She discusses the importance of mental health and how her children taught her to focus more on wisdom than having control.
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One foot on the gas, one foot on the brake with Reverend Erika Allison
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo and J.J. welcome Reverend Erika Allison, Queer interfaith minister, speaker, author, and spiritual counselor. Rev. Erika talks about her own experience with conversion therapy, and how harmful it can be, causing long-term effects and even high cases of suicide.
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Tax consultants don’t wear pink with Marie Louise Ashworth
Jo & JJ Go Mental
This week, Jo and J.J. are joined by Marie Louise Ashworth, President of The Network, a network of female entrepreneurs and professionals in Luxembourg. The Network is devoted to developing a supportive community of women and helping them build resilience, avoid burnout, and thrive as they meet their personal and professional goals.
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Changing Perceptions of Burnout Through The Generations
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo is on her own this week and shares her reflections on how the attitude around burnout has shifted throughout the generations, especially since the pandemic. Jo discusses three perceptions of burnout that she has seen a shift: that if you burnout that means you are broken or weak; that burnout and exhaustion is just a side effect of being busy which is a good thing, and that life is just tough and you should just get on with it and not complain.
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Honoring The Anger
Jo & JJ Go Mental
They discuss why doing the deep work of anger is like wading through that infamous tunnel scene in The Shawshank Redemption, how anger signals that our boundaries are being crossed, and how letting go of anger needs to be a conscious choice. They also talk about how to process anger if you can’t really act on it right then and there, and why women have such a tougher time showing anger in public.
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Letting Go and Learning To Smile With All Four Cheeks - Interview With June Burgess
Jo & JJ Go Mental
This week, Jo and J.J. are joined by June Burgess, Equine Coach, Business Director, and Entrepreneur. She talks about how she began her Equine Assistance Workshops and why working with horses can be so powerful for our mental health. Jo shares her own experience in learning to relax around the horses and how that mirrored so much about business and the need for perfectionism.
info_outlineIn today’s world of everyone posting their Hollywood reel on their IG and Facebook, it’s easy to be bombarded with the feeling of comparison and wondering if you measure up or are good enough. This week, we talk about looking inside ourselves for validation and confidence rather than needing to get it from the outside world. We talk about the cost of constant comparison, why women are set up by society to feel catty and competitive, and why connection and belonging doesn’t start with flaunting your latest purchase. We give practical tips on how to start feeling secure from within and building self love that will in turn let others in to see who we really are.
Takeaway:
[3:34] Perfectionism is the new form of heroin, not heroism! It is a drug, and one way people try and get their fix is both by trying to show how perfect their life is through social media, and by comparing themselves to how much better or worse they are than others. The first step to responsible social media usage is knowing that most of what people post is curated with this in mind, and not the messy and authentic reality of life.
[5:19] There is enough success to go around, so we don’t need to be desperate about success. The idea that we have to be scrappy and claw our way to the top is bred from a patriarchal society. The beauty industry is just one of many examples where the industry thrives off people not feeling good enough. Think about how many businesses would go bankrupt if we actually liked the way we looked!
[7:28] We would have been your favorite witches, burned at the stake for having our own opinions and ideas! The feeling of wanting to belong and be accepted not only comes from advertising and our upbringing, but also is thread into society as a survival mechanism.
[8:12] We think internal validation is extremely difficult, but really it’s just that we are not taught how to do it. When we start to name our emotions, we shift from external to internal validation and get a stronger sense of who we are and what we are feeling.
[9:15] When you are able to validate yourself, you cling less to the opinions of others. You work with your higher powers and get stronger, resilient, and more confident.
[17:05] The more you can give yourself internal validation, the less you fear rejection and judgement from others. It’s liberating and frees you up more energy and space to live your authentic life.
[21:59] Internal validation is especially important in dating, as it can be challenging for people to feel good enough to stay single until someone worthy shows up.
[24:42] The body speaks to us about our negative emotions, and feeling unworthy can show up as many different feelings or symptoms with our body. The first step is raising awareness of our own emotional experience.
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Brene’s book about belonging is called Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to stand alone