Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo and J.J. welcome the inspirational Reb, Transformational Life Coach who is the driving force behind the Rise With Reb programs and community. Reb shares how she went from a wheelchair to walking, despite what the doctors said. She, Jo, and J.J. discuss why it’s so hard to let go of old habits, the responsibility we have of sharing our story on social media, the importance of advocating for yourself and doing your own research, and how not to live in a pity fest.
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Today Jo and J.J. focus on grief, both from the perspective of the griever and from the person trying to comfort others through their grief. They explore the right approach to carrying ourselves and others through grief. Jo also shares an experience about willfulness and effectiveness in DBT and why people really need to learn to let go of the need to be right and just accept what is. They talk about defining values, setting boundaries, and, on a lighter note, why #begrannymolly is Jo’s new life goal.
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They’re baaack! Jo and J.J. kick off Season 2 the only way they know how - by spelling out that sometimes we can get this emotional intelligence piece wrong. Many well intentioned leaders approach emotional intelligence as a tick box exercise, merely going through the motions, rather than really understanding the objective. That faux emotional intelligence in corporate societies will likely try to cover up a more self serving agenda.
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What a season! As Jo and J.J. wrap up Season 1, they identify a few of the themes that came up with the fantastic array of guests. Between fear, shame, embracing your weirdness and much more, Season 1 was chock full of learning from each other and calling in new perspectives. This week, they highlight a few stand-out moments and give us a sneak peek of what we can look forward to in Season 2.
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This week, Jo and J.J. welcome Faith Clarke, Organizational Health and Inclusion Specialist who works with value-driven and diverse teams so they can deliver on business and social impact promises at the highest level. Faith is extremely passionate about inclusion for BIPOC and neuro-distinct individuals and advocating for those who “don’t belong”. She discusses the importance of mental health and how her children taught her to focus more on wisdom than having control.
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Jo and J.J. welcome Reverend Erika Allison, Queer interfaith minister, speaker, author, and spiritual counselor. Rev. Erika talks about her own experience with conversion therapy, and how harmful it can be, causing long-term effects and even high cases of suicide.
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This week, Jo and J.J. are joined by Marie Louise Ashworth, President of The Network, a network of female entrepreneurs and professionals in Luxembourg. The Network is devoted to developing a supportive community of women and helping them build resilience, avoid burnout, and thrive as they meet their personal and professional goals.
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Jo is on her own this week and shares her reflections on how the attitude around burnout has shifted throughout the generations, especially since the pandemic. Jo discusses three perceptions of burnout that she has seen a shift: that if you burnout that means you are broken or weak; that burnout and exhaustion is just a side effect of being busy which is a good thing, and that life is just tough and you should just get on with it and not complain.
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They discuss why doing the deep work of anger is like wading through that infamous tunnel scene in The Shawshank Redemption, how anger signals that our boundaries are being crossed, and how letting go of anger needs to be a conscious choice. They also talk about how to process anger if you can’t really act on it right then and there, and why women have such a tougher time showing anger in public.
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This week, Jo and J.J. are joined by June Burgess, Equine Coach, Business Director, and Entrepreneur. She talks about how she began her Equine Assistance Workshops and why working with horses can be so powerful for our mental health. Jo shares her own experience in learning to relax around the horses and how that mirrored so much about business and the need for perfectionism.
info_outlineJo and J.J. welcome the inspirational Reb, Transformational Life Coach who is the driving force behind the Rise With Reb programs and community. Reb shares how she went from a wheelchair to walking, despite what the doctors said. She, Jo, and J.J. discuss why it’s so hard to let go of old habits, the responsibility we have of sharing our story on social media, the importance of advocating for yourself and doing your own research, and how not to live in a pity fest.
Takeaway:
[2:02] Reb takes her own experience of overcoming physical, mental, and emotional challenges and now helps other women take control of their health and build up confidence.
[4:48] We can really begin to work on ourselves when we take a good hard look at our own destructive willful patterns and our drive behind them. Reb shares how she got out of a bad relationship and realized it no longer served her to both be in the relationship and emotionally manipulate herself into thinking she needed a partner to be happy.
[6:02] It can be a long road to forgive ourselves for enduring abuse and partaking in bad habits, but it is a true weight to let go of guilt and shame.
[8:21] Reb talks about her fibromyalgia, and how she sought two types of therapy to really begin to process the childhood trauma and heal her body from the inside out.
[10:22] The more we heal ourselves, the more we can show up and be of service to others in a way that doesn’t drain us or leave us depleted.
[11:51] There is a fear of letting go of our habits because they have been so deeply entrenched in our identity and how we make decisions. They keep us rooted. Jo shares that her stubbornness and willful behavior can be demonstrated in eating items that she knows don’t serve her health, and believing what her inner critic has to say.
[16:03] People can take the first baby steps by admitting they are terrified, but still moving towards growth.
[17:11] Jo talks about the phenomenon that we have different aspects within ourselves, much like an orchestra and the different chairs and positions. We can choose which “musician” or subpersonality comes out, and use it to our advantage in our personal and professional lives. J.J. explains why she may not like this way of thinking, but can see the analogy and some benefits, as long as it doesn’t block us or help us make excuses.
[23:33] Reb lost followers when she chose to focus her content on recovery and body positivity. J.J. and Jo discuss how a collective should be a space where we rise up together. If people are dragging each other down, even unintentionally, it can get really toxic really fast.
[27:45] It’s a hard line to see and be able to catch yourself to see if you are wallowing, or sharing. It’s even harder and more complicated to call people out and stop them from wallowing, but it is really an act of love.
[32:59] Reb feels free in speaking her belief because it comes from her heart. You can’t cancel her!
[35:11] Re talks about her morning routine that serves her mental and physical health. Things don’t have to be perfect, but we can do the best we can every way and also lovingly call ourselves out when we aren’t doing what we know we need to do. If you fall off your routine, notice it, and then do better.
[41:11] Reb waited 6 years to see a specialist, and realized when she finally saw them that she herself had already done so much research that she knew pretty much everything they had suggested.
[42:09] What’s next for Reb? Creating a programme that helps people tap into their intuition and discover their power and confidence. Her vision is to create a programme that the NHS can refer to that features a network of healers and coaches in many different modalities.
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