The Biggest Adventure Is The One To Be Ourselves With Kristine Goad
Release Date: 05/10/2021
Rise With Reb
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo and J.J. welcome the inspirational Reb, Transformational Life Coach who is the driving force behind the Rise With Reb programs and community. Reb shares how she went from a wheelchair to walking, despite what the doctors said. She, Jo, and J.J. discuss why it’s so hard to let go of old habits, the responsibility we have of sharing our story on social media, the importance of advocating for yourself and doing your own research, and how not to live in a pity fest.
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Carrying Ourselves and Others Through Grief
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Today Jo and J.J. focus on grief, both from the perspective of the griever and from the person trying to comfort others through their grief. They explore the right approach to carrying ourselves and others through grief. Jo also shares an experience about willfulness and effectiveness in DBT and why people really need to learn to let go of the need to be right and just accept what is. They talk about defining values, setting boundaries, and, on a lighter note, why #begrannymolly is Jo’s new life goal.
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Emotional Intelligence: When Is It Real, and When is It Self Serving?
Jo & JJ Go Mental
They’re baaack! Jo and J.J. kick off Season 2 the only way they know how - by spelling out that sometimes we can get this emotional intelligence piece wrong. Many well intentioned leaders approach emotional intelligence as a tick box exercise, merely going through the motions, rather than really understanding the objective. That faux emotional intelligence in corporate societies will likely try to cover up a more self serving agenda.
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Season 1 Recap and Looking Ahead To Season 2
Jo & JJ Go Mental
What a season! As Jo and J.J. wrap up Season 1, they identify a few of the themes that came up with the fantastic array of guests. Between fear, shame, embracing your weirdness and much more, Season 1 was chock full of learning from each other and calling in new perspectives. This week, they highlight a few stand-out moments and give us a sneak peek of what we can look forward to in Season 2.
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We Can Be Different Together: Faith Clarke
Jo & JJ Go Mental
This week, Jo and J.J. welcome Faith Clarke, Organizational Health and Inclusion Specialist who works with value-driven and diverse teams so they can deliver on business and social impact promises at the highest level. Faith is extremely passionate about inclusion for BIPOC and neuro-distinct individuals and advocating for those who “don’t belong”. She discusses the importance of mental health and how her children taught her to focus more on wisdom than having control.
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One foot on the gas, one foot on the brake with Reverend Erika Allison
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo and J.J. welcome Reverend Erika Allison, Queer interfaith minister, speaker, author, and spiritual counselor. Rev. Erika talks about her own experience with conversion therapy, and how harmful it can be, causing long-term effects and even high cases of suicide.
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Tax consultants don’t wear pink with Marie Louise Ashworth
Jo & JJ Go Mental
This week, Jo and J.J. are joined by Marie Louise Ashworth, President of The Network, a network of female entrepreneurs and professionals in Luxembourg. The Network is devoted to developing a supportive community of women and helping them build resilience, avoid burnout, and thrive as they meet their personal and professional goals.
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Changing Perceptions of Burnout Through The Generations
Jo & JJ Go Mental
Jo is on her own this week and shares her reflections on how the attitude around burnout has shifted throughout the generations, especially since the pandemic. Jo discusses three perceptions of burnout that she has seen a shift: that if you burnout that means you are broken or weak; that burnout and exhaustion is just a side effect of being busy which is a good thing, and that life is just tough and you should just get on with it and not complain.
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Honoring The Anger
Jo & JJ Go Mental
They discuss why doing the deep work of anger is like wading through that infamous tunnel scene in The Shawshank Redemption, how anger signals that our boundaries are being crossed, and how letting go of anger needs to be a conscious choice. They also talk about how to process anger if you can’t really act on it right then and there, and why women have such a tougher time showing anger in public.
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Letting Go and Learning To Smile With All Four Cheeks - Interview With June Burgess
Jo & JJ Go Mental
This week, Jo and J.J. are joined by June Burgess, Equine Coach, Business Director, and Entrepreneur. She talks about how she began her Equine Assistance Workshops and why working with horses can be so powerful for our mental health. Jo shares her own experience in learning to relax around the horses and how that mirrored so much about business and the need for perfectionism.
info_outlineThis week, we welcome Kristine Goad, author of Surfing Your Edge and personal transformation coach. We talk with her about embarking on the biggest adventure in life, finding out who we really are and having the courage to embrace it and show it off to the world. Kristine feels most alive when doing something out of her comfort zone, and now helps facilitate people throughout their big events in life. Kristine talks with us about embracing her own so-called failures and turning them into life lessons, and advice for trusting your gut and just enjoying the process without having an attachment to a certain outcome. Whether it’s participating in a 48 day cross country bike ride, plunging herself into the ocean for a triathlon or just having the courage to get to know herself better, if there is a fear, Kristine is going to conquer it.
Takeaway:
[1:56] Kristine helps her clients see themselves for who they truly are and figure out what they want in life. She shares a bit about her own story and how she wasn’t diagnosed properly with depression until there was a crisis. If there is one thing the COVID-19 pandemic has taught us, it’s that we shouldn’t wait until there is a crisis to have a plan and work on our own emotional health.
[5:50] To Kristine, Surfing on the Edge means doing something you have no clue how to do, and trusting yourself that either you will figure it out during the process, or at the very least you will learn along the way. She shares examples of diving into what scares her the most, whether it’s a surf retreat in Panama or the ocean as part of a triathlon to get over her aversion to swimming in water. To her, if you are living and breathing, you still have time to conquer your fear, or at least get comfortable with the uncomfortability of it.
[13:08] The worst case scenario that we play in our minds is usually less terrible than what happens in actuality. Jo discusses how there are scary things that she has done in her life that others might have found really overwhelming - like moving to a different country at 18, or leaping off a 20 foot high platform onto, basically, an inflatable mattress; and then there are other things - like publishing a blog post - that sent her off into a spiral of fear outside her comfort zone, things that pretty much anyone else would have thought to be a walk in the park. Fear is relative, and it’s personal to each of us.
[18:02] Kristine talks about a bike ride she did for the American Lung Association that lasted 48 days and saw her riding across the US. She didn’t ride every mile on the cross country trip, and that triggered some people and made them feel as though their accomplishments were diminished. This is a perfect example of perfectionism and how it kills our potential for joy when we are just attached to one outcome. One of the reasons that Kristine did the bike ride was that she hoped that somewhere along the way, she would work out what it was that she was meant to do in her life. Much to her annoyance, Kristine got to the end of the bike ride none the wiser - the universe hadn’t sent her any clues at all (at least, so she thought). Jo quickly notices that perhaps the universe had been sending her messages - that all she needed to do was be herself. Just try and stay on the bike, and not worry about anything else. Kristine explains that over the twenty years following the bike ride she finally came to exactly the same conclusion.
[27:44] It is common for people to do “big” things and feel depressed after, because they don’t feel as happy or complete as they thought they would once they got there. Using her own experience of feeling depressed after the bike ride and not knowing what to do next, Kristine is able to connect with her Surfing On the Edge participants to coach them through their own adventures with compassion and wisdom.
[30:45] Jo talks about how when she realized that the only way to survive was by being fully herself, she felt both a joy and sadness. When we can fully be ourselves, it gives permission to others to do the same.
[35:22] Kristine had a fruitful and productive 2020, and then at the start of 2021, she set herself up for 75 Hard, a very rigorous 75 day challenge. This challenge calls for a lot of discipline and consistency, and while those are two attributes Kristine desired more of, she found herself beating herself up for not completing the rigorous tasks. J.J. says that in DBT, we would look at the emotions that were leading to her beating herself up.
[40:42] Sometimes things happen so organically that we don’t trust it, but we should. Trust the process, and your gut.
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