Forgiveness is FOR YOU - Let Go of the Hurt and Start Living Your Life

Forgiveness - the big F word. It sounds so simple but is the most difficult. Why is it so important to forgive? And how do we actually forgive? 

To forgive is to release the hold a hurt or injury has on your physical and metaphysical self.  The release cuts the cord to the negative energy that is binding you to an old self and way of being.  If you can  let go of the attachment to the pain and lower frequency emotion, you will allow  space in your heart to heal. And by healing from the heart you increase your capacity to love yourself and others. You raise your frequency to a higher vibrational state and attract more positive things and people to yourself.  This is why forgiveness isn’t for the person you forgive. It is FOR YOU.   

 Forgiving ourselves and others is absolutely necessary for us to be able to grow, shift and evolve.  And evolution/evolving is essential to living your highest life. If we trap ourselves in a box and refuse to change and grow, we lose access to so much abundance. .   Our energy is instead occupied and used to hold on to the past.  And then we get physically or mentally sick. We become  sick and tired and then we get angry because we are sick and tired of being sick and tired and then we start to blame everything outside ourselves for the illness taking over our lives. When the perpetrator of all of it is the person in the mirror.  

 Our refusal to evolve. Our fear of change.  Our attachments to the status quo. Our inability to forgive ourselves for our mistakes are all chains. If we  choose forgiveness we can liberate ourselves. .  Flush it down the proverbial toilet and free up all that energy to actually live our life. And living life is worth more than the need to hold on to the hurt. 

 But how? That is the big question. 

 As this is not an act we can think ourselves into. Overthinking exacerbates the challenge, it roots the pattern of regret and resentment, anger or feeling wronged, and  triggering thoughts that  “something is wrong with me,I’m broken, and unlovable” Thoughts create our reality.  As within so without. So an intercessor of sorts is needed - our will, our heart that is connected to source - and our surrender to just that. 

 Sweet surrender! 

 By enacting the will to release it to  God/Jesus/source - (whatever you name your universal power) and ask it to carry this hurt  away from you. 

 Surrender and activate the  strength of your positive ego and the collective consciousness of the masters of light behind you to make it happen. We can call in Gods and Goddesses of forgiveness to help us, like Quan Yin, Jesus Christ, Holy Mother Mary, Buddha. 

 So how do you forgive?

Invite help from your source, activate the light from within you and your divine masters, surrender, radically accept that you cannot change the past but only the future, and then release!

A year ago my brand new car was stolen. I meditated with Buddha and Jesus to reach the place of nonattachment. To forgive the thieves who took my car, as well as, some irreplaceable items near to my heart. I prayed for forgiveness for the  thieves. “I forgive you,” I would pray. And then I would  say to myself, I forgive youfor leaving all the things I left in the car that disappeared with it. In the end it was stuff, but much of it was irreplaceable tools from my healing practice.  This took  focus, but in the end, it was easier to forgive than to accept the injury INTO my life. I held gratitude for the car and renters insurance to compensate me for what was lost and moved on.  I let it go, and it gave myself new   space and energy to focus on. I focused on what was going right in my life and forgave what wasn’t.  

 The  example of losing material stuff is an easy one.  

 Emotional forgiveness is much harder.  A knife into the heart from someone you trust is one of the hardest wounds to heal and forgive.  But it is also possible and when you reach that place you will stop the pattern from moving forward in your life. I speak from a place of great experience. I have been devastatingly betrayed at least 5 timesby past romantic partners The first time it happened I thought I had healed and moved on but I hadn’t  and it stunted my growth from age 22 to 45 years old.  I played it safe (or so I thought) during those 23 years of life. I built walls so high around myself that I never thought I would be hurt again  I cautiously entered relationships with men who didn't require me to be vulnerable. And I wasn’t vulnerable. . I did not ever want to trust again because I never healed the first wound in my heart.. So, I settled for being in a guarded castle.  And as a result, I invited in people to be romantic partners that felt no responsibility towards my heart and then replayed the same betrayal again and again. It was not until I took full personal responsibility for my choices and forgave myself that that specific  knife in my heart could finally be removed and that space could start to then heal. The key out of my self imposed cage was forgiveness.  And then immediately, as if by magic, my person who I could trust and form a healthy relationship   entered my life.   

With forgiveness came radical acceptance of myself. Self love. Self respect. There is nothing wrong with me. I am not perfect by far. But I did not do anything Wrong. I was just afraid to be hurt again - so much so, that I CLUNG to my walls of security too hard and perpetuated the hurt upon  myself again and again. That is the lie of our negative ego. Stay Safe!  Don’t let go! It will get better if you just hold on to this hurt! This is the way you protect yourself.Instead, the opposite happens. You have to let it go. You have to forgive yourself. You have to forgive those who hurt you. Forgiving doesn’t mean condoning or accepting the behavior or allowing the hurt back into your life. Forgiving isn’t being a doormat. Forgiving means you radically accept the situation and let go of the need to change the past, so you can change the future. Don’t condone it, but forgive it.  Let go, so you can let in. “Forgive them Father, they know not what they do.” 

Injuries of the heart, like betrayal may be the hardest to get over. But at the same time because Forgiveness is an act of the heart, and therefore is  an act of love, surrendering to its great Force can make it the easiest. 

So, upon my release and actual acceptance and forgiveness of myself. My choice was to then radically love myself.  My choice was to allow myself  to y do more than yearn for a relationship. Give myself the ability to abandon my false sense of security for actual security.  Then and only then did the wound dissipate in my heart and I was able to live freely and attract my highest good.  I Love  is the intercessor. s It is the force flowing through us. Become  the container with an open  heart - to receive it and then give it away.  Love is not selfish. We are simply a conduit for its magic. 

And now a  quote from the gospel of Mary Magdalene “What binds me has been slain, and what surrounds me has been overcome, and my desire has ended, and ignorance has died. In a world, I was released from a world.”  

Without going on a tangent I want to note that in the Gospel of Mary, she explains the release from the 7 stages of the negative ego that bind us to our mundanity, our pain, our mediocrity, and keep us from evolving to our higher self and highest potential. 

The key is  Love. The key is  forgiveness. The key is  surrendering to the force of the power greater than our  Monkey Mind.

She continues “I was released from a world, and in a type from a heavenly type, and from the fetter of oblivion which is transient. From this time I will attain to the rest of the time, of the season, of the eaon, in silence.” 

The chains that bind our heart and keep us trapped in pain are of our own creation. . And therefore, the will to set ourselves free is in our control. Forgiveness done right is powerful!  In opening our heart to the force that is love, we receive more than we could ever “give.” Forgiveness  disconnects us from that which injures us and allows us to reconnect to a true source of light.The power to love and be loved in return, is the beautiful gift of forgiveness. Forgive and watch how your life changes. 

If you still feel stuck and are in need of additional support - I can help with that! I would love to help you on your journey to love and light. Reach out to me through my website angellatterell.com and book a call.