Why You’re Not “Just Angry”: The Hidden Emotion Underneath | Mid Week Tease
Release Date: 11/19/2025
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info_outlineRooted in psychology and the lived experiences of African women, this episode explores why we react the way we do, what’s happening in the brain and nervous system, and how to understand the emotions hiding beneath anger. In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why anger is often a secondary emotion
- How fear, shame, overwhelm, and hurt drive our reactions
- The “Fight Response” and what it means for your mental health
- How childhood, culture, trauma, and pressure shape our emotional patterns
- The four faces of anger and how they show up in relationships
- Simple psychology-backed tools to regulate anger with compassion
- How to identify what you really need in heated moments
It’s a soft, grounding episode for anyone who has snapped, shut down, withdrawn, or felt overwhelmed and later wondered, “Where did that come from?”
If this resonates, share it with another woman who needs permission to feel without shame.
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