Choosing A Life Others Didn’t Imagine For You: Being Childfree | Mid Week Tease
Release Date: 01/13/2026
Choosing A Life Others Didn’t Imagine For You: Being Childfree | Mid Week Tease
Legally Clueless
What does it mean to choose a life that doesn’t come with a ready-made script? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, we sit with the quiet, complex reality of being childfree, not as a debate, not as a defence, but as a lived truth. Inspired by Part Two of Hekaya’s story in Episode 360 of Legally Clueless, this conversation explores what it really means to opt out of motherhood in a world that assumes it is every woman’s destiny. We talk about the grief that can coexist with certainty, the identity work that begins when womanhood is no longer anchored to caregiving, and the ways...
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Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep360
Legally Clueless
In Part Two of Hekaya’s story, the conversation deepens into reproductive choice, healing, and what it means to consciously choose a childfree life. Hekaya reflects on getting pregnant while in university, choosing to terminate the pregnancy, and navigating the experience largely in silence. She speaks candidly about relief, guilt, and the shame that followed and how she continued with life before she had the language or space to process what had happened. This episode also explores Hekaya's journey toward identifying as childfree, not as a reaction, not as fear, but as clarity. She...
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Same Home, Different Childhoods: Sibling Dynamics | Mid Week Tease
Legally Clueless
What happens when siblings grow up under the same roof, but carry very different emotional experiences into adulthood? In this Mid Week Tease episode, inspired by Hekaya’s story on the Legally Clueless podcast, we explore the quiet complexity of sibling dynamics, birth order roles, comparison, and emotional safety within families. Many of us were raised believing that shared parents automatically meant shared childhoods. But psychology tells a different story. Drawing from the work of trauma-informed physician Gabor Maté and psychologist Alfred Adler, this episode gently unpacks why...
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Family, Shame, and Becoming Yourself | Legally Clueless Ep359 Part 1
Legally Clueless
In this first episode of 2026, we open the year with Part One of Hekaya’s story, a deeply reflective and honest conversation about family, identity, and the long road toward becoming yourself. Hekaya shares what it was like growing up as the last born in a family where expectations, religion, and control shaped how safe she felt to express who she truly was. She reflects on sibling dynamics, loneliness within family systems, creativity as a lifeline, and the subtle ways shame can be inherited and internalised. This episode lays the emotional foundation for a larger story, one...
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Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 2 | Legally Clueless Ep 358
Legally Clueless
In episode 358 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares Part 2 of her story, a powerful journey of leaving an unsafe marriage, rebuilding life as a single mother, navigating fear and displacement, and eventually experiencing deep love and devastating loss. Picking up from childhood trauma and survival patterns explored in Part 1, this episode focuses on healing, agency, community support, and what it means to choose life after years of endurance. In this episode, we explore: Leaving an unsafe marriage with children Rebuilding life from scratch during COVID Community support and...
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This Year Asked A Lot Of You: A Gentle Closing Before The New Year | Mid Week Tease
Legally Clueless
As the year comes to a close, there’s often pressure to reflect, reframe, and rush into hope. This final episode of Mid Week Tease offers something different: a pause. In this episode, Adelle invites you into a soft, honest moment of witnessing, not to extract lessons or tidy the year up neatly, but to honor what the year truly held. This is a conversation for anyone who feels emotionally tired, quietly proud of surviving, or unsure how to carry this year forward. In this episode, we explore: When the year didn’t turn out the way you expected and why that doesn’t mean it failed The...
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Surviving An Abusive Relationship Part 1 | Legally Clueless Ep 357
Legally Clueless
In Episode 357 of the Legally Clueless Podcast, Victoria shares part one of her powerful life story, growing up away from her mother, navigating multiple homes and boarding schools, and learning independence at a very young age. From her childhood in Nyeri, Karatina, and Garissa to her school years and early adulthood, Victoria reflects on how emotional absence, instability, and silence shaped her sense of belonging and connection. In this episode, we explore: • Growing up separated from primary caregivers • Childhood loneliness and emotional neglect • Boarding school experiences at a...
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From Suitcase to Store: Zia on Building a Fashion Brand, Trusting Instinct & Doing It Afraid | For Mannerless Women
Legally Clueless
What does it really take to build a sustainable fashion brand in Kenya, without overnight success, investor hype, or a perfect plan? In this episode of For Mannerless Women, Adelle Onyango sits down with Zia Nyamari, fashion entrepreneur and founder & creative director of Zia Africa, for an honest conversation about building a business from the ground up, fear, faith, intuition and all. Zia takes us back to her very first business idea at 10 years old (selling popcorn on the street), through years of importing clothes in suitcases, quitting employment, navigating family pressure,...
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When Your Light Makes People Uncomfortable: How to Stop Dimming Yourself in Relationships | Mid Week Tease
Legally Clueless
What happens when your growth starts to shift your relationships? In this episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango explores the quiet, often painful realization that not everyone in your life knows how to sit with your light. This episode unpacks how dimming yourself can show up subtly, why some relationships struggle when you expand, and how to let go without bitterness, blame, or drama. It’s a reminder that you don’t need to make yourself smaller to belong and that release can be an act of self-respect. In this episode, we explore: Why personal growth can make some people...
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My Journey Through Grief, Bullying & Becoming PART 3 | Legally Clueless Ep 356
Legally Clueless
In this final episode of Gachambi’s three-part story on Legally Clueless, we sit with the quiet, life-altering chapters that come after survival, grief, sobriety, faith, and the ongoing work of becoming. After being admitted to the bar in November 2023, Gachambi reflects on navigating unemployment, rebuilding her legal career at her own pace, and confronting the reality that being without work is often a systemic failure, not a personal one Gachambi 3. But the heart of this episode lies in the personal. She speaks openly about grief, losing her father, realising years later what “life...
info_outline- Are childfree by choice and navigating misunderstanding or pressure
- Are questioning the assumption that motherhood is inevitable
- Have grieved imagined futures without regretting their real lives
- Are redefining legacy, care, and belonging beyond parenting
- Choosing to be childfree in a culture that assumes motherhood
- Why grief doesn’t mean regret
- Untangling womanhood from motherhood
- The myth that childfree women live “carefree” lives
- How friendships, dating, and family dynamics change
- Building chosen family and alternative forms of legacy
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