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Your Infertility Journey: How to Stop Explaining It

IVF Failed You - The "So Now What?" Podcast

Release Date: 08/08/2025

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Your Infertility Journey: How to Stop Explaining It

If you are childless after infertility, you have probably been on both sides of the spectrum: staying silent because you do not have the words or emotional energy to talk about your journey, and then overexplaining to justify that you “did enough” to try to become a mom.

In this episode of The So Now What? Podcast, we talk about the exhausting pressure to explain why you did not keep going with fertility treatments, adoption, or donor eggs, and how to protect your peace when people ask intrusive questions.

I share a personal passage from Chapter 1 of my bestselling book So Now What? about the moment I learned my final embryo was not viable, and how that phone call ended my fertility journey but not my life.

You will learn why the way you tell your story is one of the most powerful tools you have, and how you can start telling it in a way that feels true, peaceful, and rooted in who you are now as a woman without children.

This is the exact work I do with my clients inside Thrive After Infertility. I help you reclaim your story, stop overexplaining, and feel confident and proud in conversations about your life, even when it turned out differently than you dreamed.

In this episode, you will learn:

  • The two extremes: staying silent vs. overexplaining your childlessness

  • Why overexplaining feels like putting your pain on trial

  • How to stop offering your grief as “evidence” to be believed

  • A real-life excerpt from my book So Now What?

  • How to start telling your story on your terms without apology

  • Why this shift changes how you feel about yourself in every room you walk into

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If you are ready to create a life you love without the children you dreamed of and finally feel rooted, confident, and proud of who you are, I can help you get there.