#50: Integrity: Why It's Required for Happiness & How to Cultivate It
Release Date: 08/22/2025
On Returning to Audio Format
Beyond Success
Hello Listeners - I’m taking the podcast back to its roots as an audio-only, more improvisational show after experimenting with tightly scripted video episodes on YouTube. The new (old) format gives me more freedom to think out loud, follow ideas where they go, and focus on depth and voice over visuals. Warmly, David Tian, Ph.D.
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info_outlineIf you constantly feel on edge, like a wave of anxiety is always crashing directly into your nervous system, then I have some tough news for you:
The root of anxiety is almost always a lack of integrity in some aspect of your life. When you tell yourself one thing, but then do another thing, your body keeps score. It knows you’re lying to yourself (and to others). And this is where integrity fractures, causing insurmountable anxiety, agitation, and a complete loss of peace and fulfillment.
But you know what?
Even if your lack of integrity has caused mental distress, it’s possible to claw your way out of the hole you’ve built and rebuild your self-trust. It won’t be easy or pretty. But the deep sense of relief and peace you feel on the other side will be worth it.
In today’s show, you’ll discover why integrity feeds happiness & fulfillment, how the consequences of broken integrity could literally land you in a federal prison like Elizabeth Holmes, and the 4-step process for cultivating your integrity and reclaiming your mental health.
Listen now.
Show Highlights Include:
- The cautionary tale about the true, real-world cost of acting without integrity (and how it got Elizabeth Holmes, founder of Theranos, serving 11 years in federal prison) (0:44)
- The “Showshen” secret for developing an ironclad sense of integrity before a lack of integrity rips everything good from your life (4:15)
- How living two or three lives at once not only fractures your integrity, but also slowly eats away at your sense of fulfillment (5:40)
- Why developing your sense of integrity will actually energize you (even if it seems like a tough hill to climb at the beginning) (7:01)
- The one common denominator behind almost every psychotherapeutic problem and every therapy appointment (8:05)
- How integrity physically reduces your cortisol levels (the stress hormone) permanently (9:43)
- The insidious way lying to yourself creates anxiety and self-doubt and demolishes your self-trust (and how this applies to even innocent white lies) (11:06)
- 12 real-world consequences of broken integrity that you may not notice now, but will come back to haunt you (14 :56)
- Listening to this client story will forever change the way you think about anxiety (16:58)
- The 4-step formula to cultivate your integrity and create a life filled with peace and harmony and fulfillment (20:26)
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