MFP 308: The Power of Asking for Forgiveness
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Release Date: 11/04/2024
MFP 397: The No-Resentment Rosary
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“The Holy Rosary, by age-old tradition, has shown itself particularly effective as a prayer which brings the family together.” —St. John Paul II, Rosarium Virginis Mariae, no. 41 Summary Have you ever gathered the family to pray the Rosary—and wondered if all the fidgeting, correcting, and frustration were helping your children love prayer or simply teaching them to endure it? In this episode, we take an honest look at praying the Rosary with kids. Perseverance matters, but so do creativity, patience, and sensitivity to the needs of your particular family. The goal is not merely...
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MFP 396: The Great Family Reboot
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” - James Clear Summary Is your family running on good routines—or on lost shoes, late-night permission slips, and someone yelling, “Where is your backpack?” If summer loosened every habit in your house, this episode is your invitation to hit the family reset button. We’re talking honestly about the routines that shape family culture, whether we choose them or simply fall into them. Bedtimes, chores, prayer, screens, school mornings, and family meals don’t just organize the day; over time, they help...
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MFP 395: Who Comes First? Navigating the Hard Choices of Family Life
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Family life is full of competing needs, responsibilities, and relationships. And sometimes there isn't one obvious "right" answer. Summary In this listener questions episode, Mike, Alicia, and Katie tackle some of the complicated situations real families are facing: What should a mom do when her teenage son starts turning to Dad instead of her? How do you discern where your family should live? Should you move if your spouse is unhappy but your children are thriving? How do you honor your parents while putting your spouse first? They also discuss life with a large family in a small house,...
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MFP 394: NFP- Love, Life, and Learning Self-Control
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Catholic couples don’t discern if they should have a child, they discern if they should postpone pregnancy. These are two different conversations. Summary This re-release of a 2015 episode presents Natural Family Planning as more than a technique: it's a way of living that contrasts sharply with a culture focused on control and convenience. We explore how modern society tends to "engineer" outcomes, even in areas like fertility, while NFP invites couples to cooperate with the natural design of the body, integrating both faith and science. This approach requires intentional...
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MFP 393: Helping Kids Grow Through Hard Things
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
High expectations along with high support produces resilient kids. Summary In this episode, Mike and Alicia focus on the challenge of raising resilient kids in a culture that often prioritizes comfort and protection. They emphasize that while parents naturally shield their children from pain and failure, doing so too often can actually prevent them from developing the strength and perseverance they need in life. Instead, resilience is built when kids are allowed to express appropriate struggles, learn from mistakes, and grow through adversity with the steady support of their parents. This...
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MFP 392: Faith at Home: No Degree Required
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Parents need to awaken in children their sacramental imagination within the home. This takes time. - Steven Serafin Summary In this episode, we talk with Steven Serafin of Faith and Family Life Catholic Ministries about how parents can reclaim their role as the primary teachers of the faith. Drawing from the catechumenal model, he explains that faith is passed on through relationship and daily life, not just programs. In a culture that no longer supports belief, families must intentionally live the faith at home through habits of prayer, discipline, and meaningful conversation. Steven shares...
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MFP 391: Jesus Take the Wheel! Being Overwhelmed
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Summary This re-release of a 2016 episode focuses on the experience of feeling overwhelmed as a parent and reframes it as a sign that your current responsibilities have exceeded your capacity, not a personal failure. It encourages parents to step back, prioritize their primary vocation of loving their spouse and children, and let go of unrealistic expectations that create unnecessary pressure. By simplifying schedules, reducing commitments, and taking small, manageable steps, families can regain a sense of peace and control. In this conversation, Mike and Alicia also show the importance of...
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MFP 390: What Happens After the Romance Fades?
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Summary Have you ever felt distant from your spouse, like you're simply coexisting in the same house or experiencing dryness in your marriage? Every marriage goes through natural cycles of romance and disillusionment, but without intentional actions, indifference can creep in. How do you break out of that indifference and reconnect? In this re-release of Episode 089, we give simple and practical advice for couples to escape indifference and rebuild a happy, healthy marriage. Key Takeaways Love is a decision, not a feeling. When we recommit ourselves to our relationship things can start to...
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MFP 389: 33 Days to Consecration to the Holy Family
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Consecration is about living your daily family life in union with Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, right in the middle of the mess. Summary What if your family life, in all its chaos and imperfection, could actually become holy? This week on the Messy Family Podcast, we talk with Scott Smith about his book 33 Days to Consecration to the Holy Family. He shares how consecration isn’t just a devotion, but a way of living “under one roof” with Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. We dig into how this simple practice can protect your family, bring the spirit of Nazareth into your daily routine, and...
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MFP 388: Your Husband is Not a Home Improvement Project
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, but criticism attacks a person’s very character.” - John Gottman Summary This episode focuses on how criticism in marriage, especially towards husbands, can quietly damage connection and respect if it targets a person's character instead of addressing specific behaviors. Many wives fall into patterns of correcting or pointing out faults, often with good intentions, but this can lead to defensiveness, withdrawal, and a negative cycle in the relationship. In this episode, Mike and Alicia emphasize the importance of expressing concerns calmly and...
info_outline“Genuine humility never disturbs the soul. Rather it is accompanied by peace, joy and calm” St. Theresa of Avila
Summary
What is the biggest problem in Catholic marriages? Although we appreciate good communication tools, marriage insights, and mentors - at the end of the day the biggest problem is simply a lack of holiness. One essential tool in our quest for holiness is learning how to ask for forgiveness. When we have conflict in our home, we all need to ask ourselves the question - what could I have done differently? When we take ownership in this way, we can repent to God and then ask forgiveness of our spouse or children in order to repair that relationship. Often we will focus only on our sins and try to amend our lives, but in addition to those good things, we also need to seek to reconcile the relationship and ask for forgiveness.
Key Takeaways
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When there is conflict in the home, we always need to ask ourselves how have I contributed to this situation and what could I have done differently?
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Taking extreme ownership means that you don’t make excuses, but instead recognize that the past does not have power over you any more. You always have a choice.
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When you are aware of your weakness, you are more open to asking for forgiveness and growing in holiness
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Asking forgiveness also repairs the rupture in the relationship that happens as a result of our actions.
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When you ask forgiveness and make your heart pure through Confession, then you are able to more clearly see God. “The pure in heart shall see God” Matt 5:8
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A daily examen should include asking for forgiveness of family members we have sinned against.
Couple Discussion Questions
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Reflect on your marriage and children and ask God to show you areas in which you need to change. Go to your spouse and children and ask their forgiveness.
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When can we do a daily examen in our household? How can we incorporate regular asking of forgiveness?
References:
Dealing with Failure podcast: MPF 140
Forgiveness and Transformation MFP 165
Romans 12
Matthew 18:21-35