MFP 370: The Path to Healing our Broken Hearts
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Release Date: 02/23/2026
MFP 390: What Happens After the Romance Fades?
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Summary Have you ever felt distant from your spouse, like you're simply coexisting in the same house or experiencing dryness in your marriage? Every marriage goes through natural cycles of romance and disillusionment, but without intentional actions, indifference can creep in. How do you break out of that indifference and reconnect? In this re-release of Episode 089, we give simple and practical advice for couples to escape indifference and rebuild a happy, healthy marriage. Key Takeaways Love is a decision, not a feeling. When we recommit ourselves to our relationship things can start to...
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MFP 389: 33 Days to Consecration to the Holy Family
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Consecration is about living your daily family life in union with Jesus, Mary, and Joseph, right in the middle of the mess. Summary What if your family life, in all its chaos and imperfection, could actually become holy? This week on the Messy Family Podcast, we talk with Scott Smith about his book 33 Days to Consecration to the Holy Family. He shares how consecration isn’t just a devotion, but a way of living “under one roof” with Jesus, Mary, and Joseph. We dig into how this simple practice can protect your family, bring the spirit of Nazareth into your daily routine, and...
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MFP 388: Your Husband is Not a Home Improvement Project
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“A complaint focuses on a specific behavior, but criticism attacks a person’s very character.” - John Gottman Summary This episode focuses on how criticism in marriage, especially towards husbands, can quietly damage connection and respect if it targets a person's character instead of addressing specific behaviors. Many wives fall into patterns of correcting or pointing out faults, often with good intentions, but this can lead to defensiveness, withdrawal, and a negative cycle in the relationship. In this episode, Mike and Alicia emphasize the importance of expressing concerns calmly and...
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MFP 387: The Truth about Toddlers
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
The strength of even the smallest children is more than we imagine, but it must have a free play in order to reveal itself" - Maria Montessori Summary This episode focuses on understanding toddlers not as problems to manage, but as persons in a critical state of development who are striving for independence and learning how to function in the world. Through a Montessori-informed and Catholic lens, Maggie Radzik explains that much of what parents label as "misbehavior" is actually a child's natural growth process combined with limited emotional regulation. Her conversation with Mike and Alicia...
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MFP 386: How to Have a Whole and Happy Marriage
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
When you feel you can't give any more, ask yourself, "Can I say YES to one act of connection?" - Pat and Kenna Millea Summary If you’ve ever wondered why communication in marriage can feel so easy at first and then surprisingly hard, this conversation is for you. In this episode of the Messy Family Project, Pat and Kenna Millea share honest, hopeful wisdom about what’s really going on beneath conflict and disconnection. They remind us that our desire to be known and united is good, and that even struggles can point us toward deeper love. With practical insight like the “Four Cs” of...
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MFP 385: Fighting the Slow Drift in Marriage
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
Relationships are built with the material of time. Summary Strong marriages don't happen by accident—they require intentional time, attention, and sacrifice. This episode encourages couples to prioritize their relationship above the busyness of family life, stay connected through meaningful communication, and regularly invest in their friendship through date nights and shared experiences. Mike and Alicia highlight the importance of recognizing and responding to each other's needs, guarding against the slow drift apart that can happen over time, and keeping Christ at the center of the...
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MFP 384: Paul McCusker and the Power of Story
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“Kids are always processing what happens around them. Stories give them a way to do that.” - Paul McCusker Summary Today on the podcast we welcome Paul McCusker, an award-winning writer whose stories have shaped the imaginations of families for decades. Many know Paul from Adventures in Odyssey, where he wrote and produced some of the series’ most loved episodes. We talk about his newest project, Welcome to Hope Springs, and how great stories combine truth, beauty, and engagement. Paul shares why we should never talk down to kids, especially ages ten to twelve, when their...
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MFP 383: How Play Time Shapes Prayer Time
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
For more information about the Play + Pray Challenge visit our website: https://messyfamilyproject.org/challenge/ If you want to pray with your kids, you need to play with them Summary If you want your kids to pray with you, it starts long before bedtime prayers. It starts with how you play. In this episode, we explore the surprising connection between play and prayer, and why the time that can feel the most “unproductive” is actually doing the deepest work. We talk about how play builds trust, teaches emotional strength, and shapes how your children will relate to God. You’ll also hear...
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MFP 382: The Shape of a Growing Family
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“Some call it chaos, we call it family." Summary In this listener-driven episode we will tackle the real-life tension of raising a big family through changing seasons. What happens when your college kids come home expecting independence, but your house still runs on structure? How do you manage media, respect, and responsibility without turning every conversation into a power struggle? We also dig into the quieter challenges: surviving pregnancy while caring for little ones, creating meaningful one-on-one time in a full house, and keeping family dinners from unraveling into chaos. Along the...
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MFP 381: The Secret to Raising Kids Who Love the Sacraments
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic Conversations on Marriage and Family
“First Communion is about far more than a single day—it’s about nurturing a lifelong relationship with Jesus.” - Katie McGrady Summary Preparing your child for First Communion or Reconciliation can feel overwhelming—but what if it’s actually an invitation for your own faith to grow? In this episode, we sit down with authors and speakers Tommy and Katie McGrady to talk about why parents are the most important influence in their children’s spiritual lives. They share why sacramental preparation isn’t just about checking a box—it’s about helping children encounter Jesus...
info_outlineThere is nothing that the power of the resurrection cannot redeem in your life. - Fr. Shawn Monahan
Summary
What do we do with the wounds we carry, especially in marriage? In this powerful episode, Fr. Shawn Monahan shares a trauma-informed vision of spirituality that meets us in our real stories. We’re all wounded, some more deeply than others, and healing begins with honest self-knowledge, self-acceptance, and inviting Christ into our pain. Fr. Shawn explains how our desires are shaped for good, how sin is seeking that good in the wrong ways, and why shame keeps us stuck. Christianity isn’t behavior management. It’s transformation through relationship. You’ll also hear practical wisdom for forgiveness, vulnerability, and praying with your spouse. If you’re longing for renewal and lasting peace, this conversation offers real hope. Check out his free workshop, “The Path to Healing Our Broken Hearts.” Link below!
Key Takeaways
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We need a trauma-informed spirituality.
Everyone carries wounds. Some are deeper than others. The Church must recognize this reality and respond with compassion, emotional awareness, and an understanding of how early experiences shape us.
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Healing begins with self-knowledge and self-acceptance.
By becoming aware of our reactions and emotions, we grow in self-understanding. This allows us to accept ourselves and become a true gift to others.
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Desire is good, but it can be distorted.
God gives good spiritual desires, and our human desires are also good. Sin happens when we pursue those good desires in the wrong ways.
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Shame blocks healing, but Christ redeems wounds.
Christianity is about transformation through relationship, not behavior management. Nothing is beyond the power of the Resurrection.
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Forgiveness and vulnerability are essential in relationships.
Forgiveness is a grace-filled choice, not a feeling. Real healing in marriage requires empathy, honest listening, asking “Will you forgive me?”, and the courage to be vulnerable.
Couple Discussion Questions
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When you think about your own wounds, how do they show up in our marriage?
Share one area where past hurts or early experiences may affect your reactions, fears, or desires. What helps you feel safe enough to open up about those places?
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What would forgiveness or vulnerability look like for us right now?
Is there anything unspoken between us that needs to be brought into the light? How can we listen with empathy, ask “Will you forgive me?”, and invite Jesus into that space together?
Resources:
FREE virtual workshop with Fr. Shawn: https://www.omvusa.org/our-work/virtual-workshops/path-healing-broken-hearts/