Mommy Hero: Paddy Easton Graves Ep. 06

In this episode we discuss:

• Her children and her experience with their surrogate pregnancies
• The trust needed to have someone else carry your children in their womb
• Being invited at both of the births of her children
• How the surrogate mothers also pumped their breastmilk for her children and what it took to get it on a regular basis
• The vision her husband had of their two children even before they knew how they would come
• The interviewing of her children and what they told her about what makes a good parent
• How her children hoped for her engagement with them and freedom to be themselves
• How she provides a rich environment for her kids, to have a “playground" where they don’t have to be afraid of messing it up
• The under-scheduling of her kids to have the unrushed, openness of time
• Her daughter’s statement “punishment is not going to work for me” at age 4
• The recent experience of her daughter being thrown from a horse and how it changed Paddy's life for the better
• What it did for her to have this “horrific” experience of fear when her daughter was injured and had to have emergency surgery
• How her daughter taught her “mommy lessons” of handling her hospitalization with grace and engaged healing
• The choice we have to engage with the light or darkness of any experience
• How she kept hearing the words “you don’t have the luxury to indulge in your fear.”
• The power moms have to see that our constant choice to keep living we attribute to our kids, but ultimately it's for our growth
• How Rupert Sheldrake’s Morphic Resonance is playing out in this next generation. Our children seem to be born with an inner knowing we didn’t directly teach them
• That we seem to be the bridge between the past and the present by carrying the “epigenes” of our ancestors to help the newer generations thrive in this new “vibratory state” Paddy calls the “New Matrix” where light thrives
• There are no accidents, only opportunities

 

I miss quoted Rumi, but it was Kahlil Gibran's poem On Children

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts, 
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, 
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, 
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, 
and He bends you with His might 
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, 
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Rupert Sheldrake's Morphic Resonance