Episode 64 - Money, Expectations, And The Holidays
The OutSpoken Girlfriend with Naomi Clark
Release Date: 11/30/2020
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info_outlineOn today's episode we are talking about money, expectations, and how to navigate both of these during the holiday season which here in the US really kicks off in late November through the month of December.
Expectations are something we all have and they definitely will come to the surface during the holiday season.
The key is to manage expectations in such a way where we are being true to ourselves and from that point of truth- we then can determine how best to manage the expectations of others.
Because it can get difficult when there is a wide gap between expectations and reality, and we see this come up a lot with money issues.
Listen to today’s episode to get insights on the following:
- How spending money has become intertwined and connected with the holiday season
- Why understanding this connectivity is important to managing expectations
- How marketing has influenced our culture as a society and within our family traditions
- How our brain chemistry can impact our spending behavior
- Why it’s important to understand the difference between our reality and our ideals
- How to make gift exchanging something you want to do- not something you feel obliged to do
Although in this episode I am focusing on money and expectations during the holiday season- the content I cover today can be applied to any circumstance that involves people, money, and expectations- so tune in!
Naomi
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Episode References
Episode 6 Money Mindset And The Holidays: Avoid Traps When Holiday Shopping
Episode 63 Love, Power, And Our Shared Humanity
Trevia Woods- On the episode I referenced a program I took where I learned about the power of tradition, ritual, and self-care. The program is called HELD and is led by Trevia Woods. She has an upcoming workshop starting January 5th, 2021. For details, CLICK HERE
Land Acknowledgement Resource I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation. Use this map to research Native American traditional territories where you live- https://native-land.ca/
Voting Resources
The 2020 US Presidential Election may be over, but it’s never too late to understand resources available to eligible voters. All elections are important, including your local, county, and state elections.
Click Here- Helpful Resources For Voting provides numerous resources for how to get important information such as your polling location and tips on what to do if you run into issues while voting.
Click Here- Quick Overview of Votings Right Act of 1965 - this is a you.tube video that is about 10 minutes long and will give you the basics in understanding this landmark legislation.
Click Here- New York Time article that provides an overview of the changes made to the Voting Rights Act which removed protections against voter suppression efforts
COVID-19 tests are available at no cost in the US, nationwide at health centers and select pharmacies. The Families First Coronavirus Response Act ensures that COVID-19 testing is free to anyone in the U.S., including the uninsured. Additional testing sites may be available in your area- if you are in the US and want to learn more- CLICK HERE
Want to gather for the holidays during the COVID-19 pandemic? Click here for a CDC Resource For Safe Holiday Gatherings
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