86: F*ck The Money Stories, It's Time To Flip The Scripts
The OutSpoken Girlfriend with Naomi Clark
Release Date: 07/29/2021
The OutSpoken Girlfriend with Naomi Clark
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This can include doubt and uncertainty when it comes to making decisions about money. When it comes to making money decisions, our thoughts and beliefs about money are guiding our actions. Money does not spend itself. Money does not save itself. Money does not invest itself. Money does not earn itself. We are the ones making the decisions.
But we are making money decisions within a belief system. Our belief system is something to help us to make sense of the world. Our belief systems act as a filter through which we view the world and our place in it. And countless beliefs are interwoven within our belief systems.
We have beliefs about ourselves. Beliefs about our self-worth and our capabilities. Beliefs about what we "should" do (or not do) with our money. We have beliefs about our partners, spouses, and folks with whom we share financial responsibilities. Often times our beliefs about money are instilled in us early on, as children.
There are the beliefs we are told outright about money from our families, elders, friends, and communities. There are the beliefs placed upon us by society and the culture we live- in terms of who gets to have money and who does not. Who is good with money and who is not? Who is worthy of investment and who is not?
Listen to today’s episode where we cover the following key topics:
- The concept of belief and those beliefs we hold both at the conscious and subconscious levels. Because there is no talking about money without talking about beliefs and how it shows up in our day to day decisions which includes decisions around money.
- Some of the common money stories and beliefs that can get in the way of your goals.
- Learn an easy and simple method on how you can flip the script on some of the money beliefs that may be getting in your way.
This is an important topic we are covering on today's episode.
Naomi
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Episode Resources
The phrase "flip the script" originates from the graffiti scene and culture, which rose from the Black and Latino neighborhoods of New York City alongside hip-hop music and street subcultures in the 1970s and 80s. Early graffiti artists were commonly called "writers" or "taggers" (individuals who write simple "tags," or their stylized signatures, with the goal of tagging as many locations as possible.) The goals was to have one's work seen by as many people as possible, in as many places as possible. So taking a rivals tag name and replicating it upside down or backwards was a way to showcase one's own superior skills. It was a way to show a rival's "script" or "tag" was so simple you could replicate it any way. This is where "flip the script" originates and it’s important for us to recognize it – Click Here to read more.
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Land Lineage I record The OutSpoken Girlfriend podcast from Decatur, GA in the United States - which is the traditional home and territory of the Muscogee Creek Nation. Use this map to research Native American traditional territories where you live- https://native-land.ca/
Voting Resources
It’s never too late to understand resources available to eligible voters! All elections are important, including your local, county, and state elections. All votes are important! Your voice is your vote!
Click Here- US Senator Raphael Warnock's Speech On Voting- Senator Raphael Warnock represents the state of Georgia in the Senate of The United States. This was his first speech as a Senator where he talked about how the right to vote is fundamental to democracy. I encourage everyone to watch this.
Click Here- Helpful Resources For Voting provides numerous resources for how to get important information such as your polling location and tips on what to do if you run into issues while voting.
Click Here- Quick Overview of Votings Right Act of 1965 - this is a you.tube video that is about 10 minutes long and will give you the basics in understanding this landmark legislation.
Click Here- New York Time article that provides an overview of the changes made to the Voting Rights Act which removed protections against voter suppression efforts
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