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006 - Matching and Mirroring

NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

Release Date: 01/22/2016

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

Reframing is a core element of NLP. It's a simple yet powerful process that can mean the difference between you have a stressed and uptight life or one much more enjoyable one. Seriously, it really is that good. And the great news is, you'll already do this in some shape or form. 

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

There are 3 areas that I'll separate out for Deletions. These are Nominalisations, Unspecified verbs and Simple deletions.

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

The NLP Meta model is a linguistic process that was developed back in the 70s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. The Meta model gives you a set of questions that allow you to gain some high-quality information. By now, you probably understand that each of us represents the world very differently. We have our own map. The Meta model allows you to question a person's map to discover more detail and more of what is

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

What and how we believe can dramatically change the way we live our lives. And the great thing about beliefs is we can change them at any time that we choose.

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

Nominalisations happen whenever a person describes a process (Verb) as a thing (Noun). Usually, a thing that cannot be picked up. You will hear NLP'ers talk about nominalisations is nouns that you can't put in a wheelbarrow.

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NLP In Action - Mike Sweet - 10 Minute Coach - Rapid Practical NLP

This is session number 14 and no doubt if you've delved into NLP you will have heard, "The Map is Not The Territory". With its roots set in 1931 Science & Sanity, this is an essential part of understanding subjectivity. But what is the meaning of the map is not the territory?

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This is Episode 006 of the NLP In Action podcast. This episode is all about matching and mirroring. Perhaps one of the most misunderstood and misused of all of the NLP tool-box.

What some believe and shouldn't

If you match and mirror an individual's physiology pitch, pace and volume and more during an interaction you'll be able to create a rapid and solid rapport with them. There is a very fine line with matching and mirroring and it's not copying and mimicking. There is nothing worse than that.

Where did the matching and mirroring idea come from?

Simple! You can observe this perfectly at work with people who are comfortable with each other. They will sit the same, breathe at the same pace, speak at similar volumes and gesture in a similar way. is very simple to see how this was discovered, and again how easy it would be to deduce that copying those patterns could, and would produce rapid cases of rapport. However, the thing that needs to be understood about this, is that these behaviours were happening on an unconscious level, therefore when the unskilled practitioner attempts to match and mirror it can happen on a very conscious level and could come across extremely awkward, and worst of all the person may realise that you're actually mimicking them which is not going to help report at all.