What Happens When You Don’t Belong
Everyday Conversations on Race
Episode Summary , sociologist, conflict mediator, restorative justice practitioner, and author, joins Simma for a thoughtful conversation about identity, belonging, and communicating across differences. Growing up biracial (half Black, half white) as the youngest of 13 siblings, Angela learned firsthand what it means to feel like an outsider. Those experiences shaped her work in diversity, equity, inclusion, restorative justice, and creating genuine belonging. Together they discuss why belonging is the missing piece in DEI, how microaggressions can become harassment, why calling people in is...
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The 29% Problem: Steve Phillips on Race and Power
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Frank Carbajal on Latino Leadership: From Migrant Farmworker Son to Silicon Valley Voice
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Dr. Gina Paige on African Ancestry: How DNA Reconnects Black Americans to Their African Roots
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From Black Panther to Corporate America: Elmer Dixon on Race, Revolution, and Why DEI Is Not Dead
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Simma Lieberman and Elmer Dixon go back over 50 years — she was in the Young Patriots, he was co-founding the first Black Panther Party chapter outside California. In this conversation, they cut through the lies, revisionist history, and current attacks on DEI to talk about what the Black Panther Party actually stood for, why erasing Black history will never work, and what it takes to stay courageous when the political winds turn ugly. Elmer shares what it was like to transition from revolutionary to corporate diversity consultant, corrects the record on the myths about the Panthers, and...
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Why We Can't Stop Talking About Race: A Conversation with Carole Copeland Thomas
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Carole Copeland Thomas has been black all her life — and she's spent decades making sure that means something in every room she walks into. Born in a Black hospital in Detroit during segregation, raised in a middle-class family where college was expected and Black excellence was the air she breathed. Carole became a Certified Speaking Professional (CSP) who helps organizations turn complex challenges into real action. In this conversation, Carole and Simma go deep — on race, history, identity, the current political moment, and what all of us need to do right now. They talk about why...
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Do We Still Need to Talk About Race?
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Can Women of Color and White Women Be Friends?
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From Fear to Friendship: The 30-Year Journey of an Interracial Women's Circle What does it really take for women across race, identity, and experience to move from awkward conversations to real friendship? In this episode, I talk with two people I deeply respect—Julie O’Mara and Dr. Sid Reel—about a women’s circle I’m part of that’s been meeting for nearly 30 years. What started as a conference breakout session turned into something far more rare: a space where white women and women of color stayed in relationship through grief, anger, mistakes, growth, and joy. We talk...
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Dr. Angela Cleo Smith, sociologist, conflict mediator, restorative justice practitioner, and author, joins Simma for a thoughtful conversation about identity, belonging, and communicating across differences. Growing up biracial (half Black, half white) as the youngest of 13 siblings, Angela learned firsthand what it means to feel like an outsider. Those experiences shaped her work in diversity, equity, inclusion, restorative justice, and creating genuine belonging.
Together they discuss why belonging is the missing piece in DEI, how microaggressions can become harassment, why calling people in is more effective than calling them out, and how discernment helps us respond instead of react. They also explore culture, identity, music, movies, and Angela's journey to becoming a sociology professor.
What You'll Learn
• Why belonging is essential for diversity and inclusion to succeed
• The difference between microaggressions and harassment
• How discernment helps improve communication and reduce conflict
• Why asking "What are you?" can be harmful, and better ways to ask about someone's background
• The value of calling people in rather than calling them out
• How to return conflict without carrying it with you
• Why culture is shaped by lived experience, not just ancestry
Key Takeaways
Belonging matters. Diversity and inclusion create opportunities, but belonging is what makes people feel accepted.
Discernment is powerful. The pause between being triggered and responding allows for thoughtful communication.
Curiosity builds connection. Honest conversations are more effective than assumptions when navigating differences.
What You'll Hear
• Angela's experience growing up biracial
• The impact of "othering" on identity and belonging
• What DEI really means and why belonging completes the picture
• Microaggressions versus harassment
• The role of discernment in difficult conversations
• Better ways to ask questions about identity
• Angela's upcoming book, What Do You Mean By That?
• The "hot potato" approach to conflict resolution
• Music, movies, and personal favorites
Timestamps
00:00 Intro & about the show
02:30 Introducing Dr. Angela Cleo Smith
05:00 Why conversations about race still matter
06:30 Growing up biracial as the youngest of 13 siblings
11:00 Finding belonging across communities
15:30 Building relationships across differences
19:00 Why "I don't see color" misses the point
21:30 After DEI: Redesigning Belonging Through Communication
28:00 Understanding DEI
33:00 Why belonging matters
36:00 Understanding "othering"
41:00 Culture and identity
46:00 Microaggressions and harassment
51:00 Calling people in vs. calling them out
55:00 Angela's career journey
1:04:00 Music favorites
1:10:00 Movies and TV
1:13:00 Final advice on discernment and critical listening
1:17:00 Where to find Angela online
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Simma Lieberman, The Inclusionist, helps leaders create inclusive cultures. She is a consultant, speaker, and facilitator. Simma is the creator and host of the podcast, Everyday Conversations on Race.
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