30. The Beauty of Sacrifice: What a Poolside Moment Taught Us About Love
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
Release Date: 06/10/2025
33. The 5 Questions That Will Shape Your Marriage This Year
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
In today’s episode, we’re continuing the vision conversation we started in part one. These next five questions felt heavier—but in the best way. They forced us to slow down and really assess what season we’re in, what we’re being asked to step into, and what might need to be released so we can move forward with clarity and unity. Vision isn’t just about dreaming—it’s about making room. We start with a big question: What opportunities are we being called to step into, and what do we need to let go of to make room? This one surfaced a lot for us. God rarely adds without asking us...
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32. 27 Years In: Here’s Our Secrets and The Vision We’re Building for Our Next Chapter
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
In today’s episode, we’re literally inviting you into our anniversary getaway. Yes… we are sitting in a hotel room, journals spread out everywhere, soaking in the fact that we’ve been married 27 years. And honestly? We’re still learning, still growing, and still asking God to show us what’s next for our marriage. We’ve had so many people ask us lately, “What’s your secret? How have you stayed married this long?” So we wanted to take you behind the scenes and share what we’re doing right now to redesign our marriage for the next season. One of the biggest keys for us has...
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31. 3 Things We Would Tell Our Younger Married Selves If We Could
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
What would you say to the “year 1–5” version of your marriage? In this conversation, Joe and Shelby look back over 27 years together and share three lessons they wish they’d known at the start—practical, heart-level shifts that would’ve saved them from a lot of unnecessary conflict and helped them grow faster, together. 1) Listen for understanding (not for your turn to talk). Joe shares how, in the early years, he often listened just long enough to respond—then realized he needed to slow down and truly hear Shelby. They reference James’ “quick to listen, slow to speak”...
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30. The Beauty of Sacrifice: What a Poolside Moment Taught Us About Love
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
Sometimes, the most powerful lessons come not from a sermon or a book, but from a simple moment of quiet observation. In this heartfelt episode of Redesign Your Marriage, Joe and Shelby share a story that stopped them in their tracks—a father carrying his disabled teenage son into a hotel pool, and the sacrificial love that radiated from that moment. This episode is more than a touching story—it's a call to remember the beauty of serving one another in marriage, parenting, and life. It’s about choosing unity over comfort and choosing sacrifice when love calls for it. In This Episode: A...
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29. Delayed But Not Defeated: What a Missed Flight Taught Us About Marriage
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
Ever had one of those days where everything goes wrong before the vacation even starts? In this real, raw, and (now) hilarious episode of Redesign Your Marriage, we’re sharing the unexpected emotions, high tension, and spiritual growth that came from a recent trip that didn’t go as planned. After missing a flight to Cabo due to a series of delays (and misjudgments), Joe and Shelby found themselves tested—emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. Instead of turning on each other, they learned to turn with each other. This episode is about how to handle the moments where life doesn’t...
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28. What Worked for Us in 2024: Growth, Goals, and Grace
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
As 2024 comes to a close, we’re taking a moment to reflect on what worked well for us this year. In this episode of Redesign Your Marriage, we dive into the practical changes and intentional actions that strengthened our marriage, family, and personal lives. From weekly check-ins to creating memorable moments with our kids, we share the wins and lessons that shaped this year. If you’re looking for inspiration to kick off your 2025 with purpose, this episode is packed with ideas you can apply in your own life, marriage, and family. In This Episode: Vision Retreats: How taking time as a...
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27. Your Greatest Investment in Your Child’s Future
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
In this episode, we explore the powerful impact of investing in your children’s education and the legacy you’re building through intentional parenting. We’ll unpack: Guiding your child’s path with wisdom: How to train up a child in the way they should go, focusing on their unique purpose (Proverbs 22:6). Balancing discipline and encouragement: The biblical approach to raising children without frustration but with love and instruction (Ephesians 6:4). The marriage connection: How a strong and unified marriage provides a solid foundation for your child's academic, emotional, and...
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26. The Marriage Communication Overhaul
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
In this episode, we dive deep into the heart of marital communication by exploring the key pillars of physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. We’ll unpack: How to align and support each other’s physical health aspirations. The essential needs that fuel emotional fulfillment in your relationship. Ways to nurture and grow together spiritually, fostering a deeper bond. With expert advice, relatable stories, and practical tips, "Redesign Your Marriage" guides you on a journey to meaningful conversations that enhance love, trust, and understanding. Whether you’re newlyweds or...
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25. Branching Out: Nurturing Healthy Friendships in Marriage
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
In this insightful episode of "Redesign Your Marriage," we dive deep into the vital role friendships play in a thriving marriage. We explore a unique perspective on categorizing relationships as leaf, branch, and root connections, each serving a distinct purpose in our lives.We discuss how leaf people represent casual acquaintances, branch people are those we've shared experiences with, and root people form our deepest friendships, all grounded in shared values and integrity centered on Christ. Our conversation highlights the importance of understanding these different levels of connection and...
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24. The Friendship Factor in your Marriage
Redesign Your Marriage | Joe and Shelby Seeley
In this episode of "Redesign Your Marriage," we delve into the transformative power of friendship within marriage and how it serves as a cornerstone for a thriving relationship. Join us as we explore three insightful tips to help you identify the stage of friendship you are in with your spouse, and learn how to foster healthy friendships that enhance your marital bond. We'll also discuss the warning signs of unhealthy friendships that can undermine your relationship. Finally, we reflect on the profound truth that God is our ultimate best friend, guiding us in building stronger, more fulfilling...
info_outlineSometimes, the most powerful lessons come not from a sermon or a book, but from a simple moment of quiet observation. In this heartfelt episode of Redesign Your Marriage, Joe and Shelby share a story that stopped them in their tracks—a father carrying his disabled teenage son into a hotel pool, and the sacrificial love that radiated from that moment.
This episode is more than a touching story—it's a call to remember the beauty of serving one another in marriage, parenting, and life. It’s about choosing unity over comfort and choosing sacrifice when love calls for it.
In This Episode:
- A powerful story from a recent family trip that reminded Joe and Shelby of what love really looks like
- How witnessing quiet, sacrificial love challenged them to reexamine their own marriage
- Reflections on the unseen struggles couples carry—and how God meets us there
- Encouragement for anyone navigating hardship, caregiving, or emotional exhaustion
3 Truths to Take with You:
- Love Gets Uncomfortable: Real love shows up, even when it's inconvenient.
- Unity is a Superpower: In moments of pressure, your greatest strength is facing it together.
- God Sees It All: Every hidden act of sacrifice is seen by God—and it builds your legacy.
Your Challenge This Week:
Pick one small act of sacrificial love and do it joyfully—whether that’s helping your spouse with something unasked, staying up late to talk with your teen, or simply choosing patience when you’re tired. These small moments build the foundation of a lasting, meaningful legacy.
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Quick Episode Summary:
- 0:00 The moment that sparked this episode: a father carrying his teenage son
- 3:00 How marriage vows become real in the unseen, sacrificial moments
- 5:30 Reflecting on their own tragedies and how they’ve responded in unity—and in conflict
- 10:00 The power of small, unseen sacrifices in family life
- 15:00 How pride, burnout, and lack of rest can keep couples disconnected
- 18:00 A challenge to love sacrificially this week