Ever feel like when you 'fix' one area of you life, another part falls apart?

Hey, Hey, Hey Rhino Julie here, who is Rhino Julie? Well, Rhino Julie went from ridiculously broke, sad, overweight to owning a multi-location at gym business and being happy in every area of my life, except when I'm not happy in an area of my life. In which case  I fix it, move on and make that area of my life happy.

And I wanna teach everyone else how to do the same. Okay. This podcast episode is about whenever we feel like we fix one area of our life and then all of the, like another area of our life just falls apart and it's like, ah, how can we juggle all the things? That's what this podcast episode is about. So we're gonna start this podcast episode by starting when I was 12.

Talking about that. We're gonna talk about how I started writing a fiction book, because I felt like in the book I could escape my life and live the one that I was writing instead. And I could build any life for this girl in this book. I could save her from any situation I could make her pretty. I could make her funny.

I could make her super smart. I could make her whatever I wanted to make her. And I started the book with her sitting and looking out the window. She was at the lowest point in her life broke, loveless, I had quite the imagination at 12. Actually when I was 12, I was going through some stuff, the transition from 12 to 13, let's just say I ate lunch in the bathroom at school for a lot of different reasons.

And we had this minister living with us and he was amazing. Okay. He was great.  Anybody who gives their life for something is awesome. And he thought it would be really good for me if he took me around house to house and had me knock on the doors of all of the friends, my friends in my middle school.

Well, I mean, I say friends like loosely, like I definitely, there was a group of really cool girls that I got to hang out with, but I just was not. I was going through a lot of stuff. And then talking to these girls later, like they were going through these things too, and they felt super insecure and awful too.

But I liked to eat lunch in the bathroom because then nobody would take my lunch and I could read my book. Okay. So he would have me go around door to door, knock on the door and say, "Hi, my name is Julie". We're holding bible studies at our house and I was in my dress and stuff. And one time, like this girl answers the door and she was just one of the most popular girls in school that I never really talked to.

And I just like froze. And he nudged me, the minister nudged me. He was 83 years old. He was, he was awesome. He nudged me, and he's like, "Say your thing." And so I would say my thing and I just remember being so, mortified. And I was living in the laundry room because the ministers were staying with us, which is fine.

Mom made it, she put a little caught in there for me. It was fine. Okay. What I'm trying to say is at this time in my life, when I was trying to write this book, I was escaping my current reality. And I was always living in my imagination and I always imagined that one day I was gonna be awesome,  but then in 2004, when that awesomeness was supposed to be happening in my life.

Like I was an adult. Let's go . If I were to rank my life at that time, looking back, number one, being like the worst it's ever been. And then number 10, like being the best, I was miserable in almost every aspect, except the love of my family, cuz my family's awesome. And there's a lot of love there. So my significant other, I ranked that situation.

Oh one. Take full responsibility for that. My social and my friends, I ranked a one. I take full responsibility for that too. There were great people in my life, but I wasn't being true to myself. I was living a very uncomfortable existence, putting up a facade and there was a lot of things underneath that facade, like just thinking that I was supposed to be a certain way, live a certain way.

I'm sure you've gone through this. Like where you're just living the way you feel like you're supposed to live, and all of it is fake. Like all, like you just muster up the positivity and the smiles and you do the thing, but really on the inside, you're miserable, and you're like, "What's wrong with me? I have all of these things to be thankful for.

And here I am, like just not feeling good." But it like when we're not living our truth and we're not true to who we are. It could be very miserable on the inside money. I would've ranked money. Definite one, the brokers I ever was in my life. Well actually that's not true because we were raised pretty poor.

Like my parents are awesome, but they had a lot of bad luck stuff happen to them. And so, I guess I wasn't the brokes I'd ever been, but in my adult set like life, like where I was responsible for everything, I was the brokest. Physical health, I would've ranked it a one. I gained 65 pounds. Just kind of miserable there. Personal growth,

I didn't know what personal growth was. I didn't know that there were cool books and courses and things available to me. My career. I would have you definitely put that as a one because. I had an advertising business that it just wasn't me living my truth. I was doing the things, but I just felt really weird about it because I was promoting companies.

I didn't know if they were good or not trying to get them customers. Just felt really, really weird. And then as far as like love and energy and spirituality and purpose, would've ranked that a one because I was living in fear and not following love. So I don't know if there. If any of you are spiritual out there who might understand that, but I was definitely living my life from the fear side of things.

And then as far as fun goes, well, fun was a one because I had this thing in my head where if you're having fun, you're not like you're not just not supposed to have fun. Like you're supposed to put, and my parents didn't teach me this, but somehow, like we get programmed, right? We get programmed by all kinds of things.

And somehow I thought that, if I'm putting everyone else first, like I'm supposed to, then I'm supposed to be miserable, then that means I'm doing the right thing, and if I'm having fun, well then, I'm doing life on earth, wrong or something. That was like a subconscious thing. It wasn't something I ever would've said back then, but it was definitely a subconscious thing.

And then I would've ranked my home environment a one because of my own misery. I take full responsibility for all that stuff. So then I started my gyms because I was so overweight and couldn't stand myself anymore. I started my gyms and I started it outdoors in the park.  I started with just a little over a hundred dollars and I bought fence posts, buckets of water and I got obsessed, like super duper obsessed.

I wanted join the military and I'm sure you've heard the story. Just to do their bootcamp, and I'm like, I can't do that. Like, I'm just not called into the military.  That's not my calling.  So I ended up starting my own bootcamp's first millions and I was absolutely obsessed with it. So I would've ranked myself at that time, a 10 for purpose and career once I started that, but I was still struggling in all the other areas.

So throughout my life,  even once I got each area of my life, like started to get better and better and better. I still felt like when I fixed one thing,  another would drop and it became this weird subconscious limiting belief of mine that somehow if I had money, something bad would happen to my health or family.

So that's literally, I have a lot of messed up ideas about money that I've been working through, but one of the big ones was that if I had money, something bad would happen to my health and family. I'm reading back through my notes from back in the day, and as of now I forgot that was a limiting belief of mine.

So I have kind of overcome that. So I no longer think that if I get money, I'm gonna have health issues. Although now I have money and now I have a health issue I'm working through, but that's another podcast for another day, and everything's gonna be fine. So the reality that I had built for myself said that I couldn't have at all, and it is crazy how much I have been willing to give up for weird limiting beliefs.

The next couple podcast episodes are going to be about these weird limiting beliefs. And so enter fast forward from 2004 to January, 2022. I had been doing almost two years of meditating, journaling, like being thankful, like feeling into what I wanted, manifesting taking action.

And I could say for the first time, at that time, I could say that I had it all. I was happy in every area of my life. Yes! In the past I would've added like for now, because shouldn't, we be realistic. It's like, no, let's not be realistic. Let's decide we can have it all forever. Right? Forget about being pragmatic or realistic.

If I was being pragmatic or realistic, I would look around for someone else who has done what I'm trying to do to see if I could do it too, but that's ridiculous.  If that's the way I started my life, like tried to live my life, like looking around, "Okay. What is everyone else done?." And then I'll live my life by that.

I never would've started my business because no one else was doing that type of business at that time. I never would've lost weight because I have never met anyone who struggled like I did, who had doctors tell them that it would be really hard for them to lose weight and then actually get the weight off and keep it off.

I'm not gonna be held back by the constraints of what has already been done. I'm gonna keep dreaming. I'm gonna keep putting in the daily work. This is a daily life long work, and it's a fun work. Like once we get to let go of the rules and adopt our own way. And so since, January, well, for the last three years, actually, I've taken a lot of courses.

I've done a lot of different things, learned a lot of different things. Learned a lot about other people's systems. Now I am really, truly deciding that I am going to keep learning. I love learning, but I'm gonna follow my intuition on which part of other people's systems and which parts of other people's advice like fits, like what feels good to me.

And then that's what I'm going to do. And back to our topic about just fixing one part of our life and feeling like another part drops I've been there. I get it I've felt that feeling, but I just want to challenge you to write all your thoughts down that you think about that particular situation. 

Then reframe them, like "What is a better thought?". "What's another thought that you can have?". And what I've been doing is just kind of writing the next chapter of my life. So instead of limiting myself to certain thoughts, I've literally just been writing the next chapter of my life exactly how I want it to be and feeling into that, like feeling those feelings now.

And the thoughts, these thoughts, like even reading from January of 2022.  Right now it's almost August of 2022 I'm not, I don't have those same thoughts. I have shifted and I feel awesome about it. I do have a little slight like health issue that I'm working through. That is gonna be fine. 

And then also, just recently I had, I did have some relationship issues, but I work through things so fast now, like so fast because I've decided to live in my truth and speak my truth and follow my intuition.  It really just helps us get through those things much faster. Before, I would just expect, for parts of my life to be difficult and awful, and then they would be  and now I expect things to be great.

And we're still gonna go through things we're still gonna, we're still gonna have frustrating days in my mastermind. I have a little mastermind for women where we go deeper on everything and I told them, I'm like, "Okay, I had a frustrating day today and I need to share with you how I got through that frustrating day and how I shifted, because we're still gonna have those days." we're still gonna have those things, but it is totally possible to change our beliefs.  

We do that by changing our thoughts, which changes our emotions, which changes our feelings.  Then that changes our identity and our beliefs, and it's totally possible to do it totally possible. 

If you wanna get my emails, go to www.rhinojulie.com, super fun stuff. I would love to email you randomly. Things that I think might help, and I would love to know what limiting beliefs you might have right now, that you might be working through. I think it would be fun to hear from you guys and just see how you're doing and check in. 

Like I said, we're going to be going further on all of these things in upcoming episodes and Rhino Tough.

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