Ep 232 What do you want?
Boldly Becoming You
What do I want???? Whether you're deep in burnout, running on autopilot, or just feeling disconnected from yourself after years of being useful to everyone else… I get it. This episode walks you through the 5 mistakes that keep so many of us stuck in survival mode, waiting for clarity that doesn’t come and the first 3 steps to figuring out what you actually want. Where you gently unhook from urgency, listen to your nervous system, and stop trying to solve your life like a math problem. Here’s what we get into: The biggest lie about “clarity” that keeps high-achievers...
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Ep 231 Discipline vs Capacity
Boldly Becoming You
In this episode, we unpack what’s actually going on when you “can’t stay consistent,” and why burnout, chronic stress, and your Complex Life Circumstances (CLCs) keep you stuck in a loop that discipline alone will never solve. We dig into: Why discipline only works after you’ve built capacity The sneaky ways internalized capitalism, ableism, and childhood conditioning show up in your day What your body, your flare-ups, your freeze response, and your avoidance are really trying to tell you Why being “too tired to function” or “constantly behind” is not a personal...
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Is This What Regulation Is Supposed to Feel Like?
Boldly Becoming You
In this episode we dig into: What actually happens when you stop living in survival mode and your nervous system finally chills the fuck out? Spoiler: it’s weirder than you think. Having time doesn’t mean you magically know how to enjoy it. Sometimes the pause feels like a loss you didn’t see coming. The very real tension between finally having space to create and just wanting to nap, zone out, or do absolutely nothing. Your brain isn’t reacting to the moment, it’s predicting based on old chaos and current circumstances which means sometimes you kinda short-circuit. Being...
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Ep 229 Bagel Boundaries & B's Tues/Fri Plan
Boldly Becoming You
If you've ever wonder what it's like for 2 coaches to live and work together, pursuing their own goals and holding each other accountable - this episode is the most transparent we've been I believe. We have a real conversation about each others goals, boundaries around them and the ways we will and will NOT be holding each other accountable. We get really granular so below I gave you some time stamps to help figure out where you want to jump to or go back to if something resonates while you are multitasking while listening. Timestamps: Intro, catching up on 2025 until 37 min 37min: B...
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Ep 228 Pretty & Dumb with T & B
Boldly Becoming You
2024 goals, patterns of addiction and learning about what each other has figured out in these first few weeks of 2025 Parenting, codependency, eating disorder, caffeine, plans and healing - we cover a lot in this first-ever unedited 2+ hour conversation. Join our Grab our Join Tasha at the
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Ep 227 I didn't get ready alone
Boldly Becoming You
If you’ve ever felt like you were carrying the weight of the world alone, this episode is a reminder that none of us gets through life—or big movements—on our own. I shared raw insights into my journey, showing how leaning into community and prioritizing self-care made it possible to heal, rebuild and thrive. In this episode I dig into The inner tug-of-war between feeling powerless and the drive to contribute to something bigger The exhaustion of navigating chronic illness and burnout while maintaining responsibilities. The bravery it takes to reimagine life and purpose when...
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Ep 226 In Our Leadership Era
Boldly Becoming You
I woke up Monday morning AGAIN feeling very clear that my last 20 years of professional experience and personal healing led me to this season of humaning. Like all of us, our family has been processing the results of last week's election while holding space for all the emotions and thoughts flooding in. One thing I know for sure is that the leaders guiding humanity through these next 4 years will need massive support to meet the demands of communities and their own families. I know this is part of my purpose, my calling and although it feels a little clumsy in how I can describe the vision and...
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Ep 225 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself Part 2
Boldly Becoming You
What are you avoiding right now? What are the rules about doing it “right” that are keeping you stuck? Get unstuck, move out of perfectionism, avoidance procrastination and into action that feels good again. Build evidence in your skills and your ability to follow through with the things you care about by using Draft Mode in all your goals and intentions. Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us so we can thank you Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every...
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Ep 224 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself (part 1)
Boldly Becoming You
You were taught to abandon yourself in small and discreet ways through your whole life and now, as an adult, you feel like garbage because you don't do the things you say you're going to or you don't "follow through" (go back to ep 223 to listen). In this episode, we give you the first 3 steps to stop abandoning yourself so make sure you grab paper and pen to take notes. Let us know what you discover as you put these into motion - we LOVE hearing from you. Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us...
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Ep 223 Are you bad at follow through?
Boldly Becoming You
What if you aren't actually bad at follow through? There are some sneaky rules about "follow through" that are making it impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality. If you don't real about your complex life and the reality of living in survival mode the last 2-3 decades, you will never see or feel a difference. When you redefine follow through, consistency, success, etc. you get to live more fully AND you inevitably see more progress. If you like actionable steps, this episode has 2 homework assignments for you and we want to hear how they go so DM us when you do them. Make...
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What actually happens when you stop living in survival mode and your nervous system finally chills the fuck out? Spoiler: it’s weirder than you think.
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Having time doesn’t mean you magically know how to enjoy it. Sometimes the pause feels like a loss you didn’t see coming.
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The very real tension between finally having space to create and just wanting to nap, zone out, or do absolutely nothing.
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Your brain isn’t reacting to the moment, it’s predicting based on old chaos and current circumstances which means sometimes you kinda short-circuit.
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Being regulated doesn’t mean life is easier right away. Sometimes it just means you’re awake enough to see what’s really going on.
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Navigating art, chronic illness, parenting, and business in a house where everyone’s got complex life stuff... it’s not cute, it’s logistics and emotion every damn day.
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Some of what feels "true" is actually just what you’ve been surrounded by your whole life. When you question it, a whole new world opens up.
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The hardest part of starting something isn’t always the work, it’s believing you’ll be able to keep going, especially when you have a pile of complex life circumstances
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If your environment feels like too much, it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because your body is telling the truth about what’s happening around you.
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A behind-the-scenes look at how Brandon and I have restructured our life and business to actually feel like us, without making each other fit into someone else’s idea of partnership.
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Two very different relationships to work, rest, and passion, and how we’re finally letting both be valid and valuable.
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