Breaking Free from the Guilt Trap: From Energy Manager to High Performer
Release Date: 04/16/2025
Mental Overwhelm for High Achievers: Why You Feel Foggy and How to Clear the Clutter"
Calm AF
If you're so smart, WHY does your brain feel like a junk drawer that's been stuffed so full you can barely get it open? In this episode, we're talking about what's actually cluttering up your mental junk drawer and why the same brain that got you where you are might be what's trapping you there. We're talking about: The 4 types of mental clutter that high performers collect (and why you can't think your way out of it) Why more thinking leads to more uncertainty, not more clarity The simple 4-step process to start cleaning out your mental junk drawer today How to stop drowning in your...
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Your Internal Clutter- How Your Junk Drawers Got So Full and How to Declutter
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Feeling overwhelmed by racing thoughts, emotional overload, and constantly absorbing everyone else's energy? You're not broken - you just have some internal junk drawers that are overflowing. In this episode, we explore the three invisible junk drawers in your mind: mental, emotional, and energetic clutter that's been accumulating for years. You'll also learn why trying to fix the problem from the outside fails and the daily maintenance approach that actually works for lasting calm. Sign up for the Calm AF Year waitlist Resources: The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series....
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Little Fires Everywhere: Why High Achievers Are Always Burned Out (And How To Stop)
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You’re the one everyone turns to when things go sideways. You stay calm when the stakes are high. You SHINE under pressure. So why are you so burned out? In this episode of Calm AF, I’m breaking down the real reason high achievers feel like they’re constantly putting out fires—and why your nervous system can’t seem to turn off, even when there’s nothing actually burning. We’re talking about: Why hypervigilance isn’t the secret to your success What firefighters can teach you about calm under pressure How your nervous system turns minor stress into five-alarm panic The...
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A Commencement Speech for Grownups:
Calm AF
Today's episode is a little different than what you're used to hearing. Today I wrote US a commencment speech. Inspired by my son’s high school graduation, I started thinking about all the ways adults are graduating: out of relationships, into relationships, out of old roles, into new chapters, out of versions of ourselves that no longer fit. But we rarely pause to celebrate those transitions. In fact, we usually shame ourselves for them. Not today. This speech is for the 38-, 48-, 58-year-old who’s starting over. Starting again. Moving into a new chapter. It’s a love letter to...
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7 Strategies to Get the Best Out of Yourself and Everyone Around You
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In this episode, we’re talking about how to be the kind of leader, partner, parent, and friend that inspires the very best in others—and yourself. You already know how to push, nudge, and motivate yourself. But is the way you are leading yoruself the same way you are showing up for others? And if not, why not? I'm sharing the 7 ways you motivate yourself to be your best and how to start applying these same strategies to others: 1. Keeping people down when they’re struggling 2. Shaming instead of compassion 3. Withholding love until they’re “worthy” 4. Keeping score of their...
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A Client Story: This is What Real Nervous System Regulation Sounds Like
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How many times have you tried to set a boundary but then backed down. Today’s bonus episode features a powerful Voxer message from one of my Upgrade clients—brought to life with a little AI magic (to keep my private clients private). What you’ll hear is what this work ACTUALLY sounds like. What is possible when you don't just know how to regulate in structured moments, but in real life. No spiraling. No shutdown. Just clarity, boundaries, and calm. This is exactly what we practice inside —and from May 23rd until May 26th, you get the full program. —doors close Monday, May 26: ...
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How High Achievers Can Avoid Summer Burnout: Mastering Nervous System Regulation
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Summer is supposed to feel freeing—but for hyper achievers, it often feels anything but. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why summer is actually the most dysregulating season of the year for high performers, energy managers, and people pleasers. If you’ve ever felt guilty for not enjoying your “time off,” or found yourself craving September more than sunshine, this one’s for you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the lack of routine in summer can trigger nervous system chaos How the Calm AF Scale helps you avoid swinging between hypervigilance and total...
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How To "Let Them" (Without Your Head Exploding): Boundaries, Regulation, And Emotional Resilience
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We love the idea of “Let Them.” Let them judge you. Let them walk away. Let them misunderstand you. But when you're actually in it—when someone ghosts you, talks behind your back, or oversteps your boundary—it doesn’t feel empowering. It feels like rejection. Or worse, like you're white knuckling "let themmmmmm" so hard, you think your head might explode. In this episode, I break down what “Let Them” really means (spoiler: it’s not about not caring), how nervous system regulation helps you stop reacting, and why emotional freedom starts with staying anchored in your body—even...
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You're Not Fine. You're Functioning.
Calm AF
You’re not fine. You’re functioning. And if that hit a little too close to home, this episode is for you. You’re showing up, getting things done, holding it all together— But inside, your nervous system is screaming. This episode is the mirror you didn’t know you needed. 🎧 Want to stop just functioning and start actually feeling like yourself again? Start In this episode, we talk about: The invisible cost of high-functioning women pretending they’re fine Why “I’m fine” is a nervous system default, not the truth How overthinking, overgiving, and overfunctioning are...
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Breaking Free from the Guilt Trap: From Energy Manager to High Performer
Calm AF
You say “I feel guilty.” But is that really what’s happening? In this episode, I’m calling out the biggest lie high performers tell themselves—and what’s actually keeping you stuck in overgiving, overfunctioning, and overthinking. You’ll learn: The real emotion behind “guilt” Why you feel bad setting boundaries (even when you know better) The 3-part script to break the guilt cycle for good This episode isn’t a self-help pep talk. It’s a pattern interrupt. Resources: : This series unpacks what most people never tell high performers: your next level isn’t...
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In this episode, I’m calling out the biggest lie high performers tell themselves—and what’s actually keeping you stuck in overgiving, overfunctioning, and overthinking.
You’ll learn:
- The real emotion behind “guilt”
- Why you feel bad setting boundaries (even when you know better)
- The 3-part script to break the guilt cycle for good
This episode isn’t a self-help pep talk. It’s a pattern interrupt.
Resources:
Hyper Achiever to High Performer Private Podcast: This series unpacks what most people never tell high performers: your next level isn’t about doing more—it’s about feeling safer doing less. It’s about trusting yourself deeply, leading without force, and accessing your full power without burning out.
The Love Letter Subscription: $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain.
Get Regulated: A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy.
The Upgrade: If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. A 12 week guided course delivered via email and private podcast, designed to expand your nervous system’s capacity to stay regulated PLUS 12 weeks of personalized text and voice coaching (via Voxer).
Private Coaching: If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.