Calm AF
Calm AF is the podcast for high-achievers who are done living life on the verge of burnout. If you’re an overthinker, people pleaser, perfectionist, or energy manager—this space is for you. Hosted by neuroplasticity expert, Kristen Finch, every episode helps you stop spiraling, start regulating, and finally feel like the calm, clear, powerful version of yourself you know is in there. Inside, you’ll learn how to rewire your nervous system, shift old patterns, and lead your life from alignment—not anxiety. So grab your coffee, take a breath, and let today be the day you get Calm AF.
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Mental Overwhelm for High Achievers: Why You Feel Foggy and How to Clear the Clutter"
07/02/2025
Mental Overwhelm for High Achievers: Why You Feel Foggy and How to Clear the Clutter"
If you're so smart, WHY does your brain feel like a junk drawer that's been stuffed so full you can barely get it open? In this episode, we're talking about what's actually cluttering up your mental junk drawer and why the same brain that got you where you are might be what's trapping you there. We're talking about: The 4 types of mental clutter that high performers collect (and why you can't think your way out of it) Why more thinking leads to more uncertainty, not more clarity The simple 4-step process to start cleaning out your mental junk drawer today How to stop drowning in your own competence This isn't about productivity hacks or morning routines. This is about clearing the noise so you can hear yourself think again. Sign up for the Calm AF Year waitlist Resources: The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated. You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me. Every week, you’ll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens. "I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn’t about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you’re planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.
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Your Internal Clutter- How Your Junk Drawers Got So Full and How to Declutter
06/25/2025
Your Internal Clutter- How Your Junk Drawers Got So Full and How to Declutter
Feeling overwhelmed by racing thoughts, emotional overload, and constantly absorbing everyone else's energy? You're not broken - you just have some internal junk drawers that are overflowing. In this episode, we explore the three invisible junk drawers in your mind: mental, emotional, and energetic clutter that's been accumulating for years. You'll also learn why trying to fix the problem from the outside fails and the daily maintenance approach that actually works for lasting calm. Sign up for the Calm AF Year waitlist Resources: The simplest first step is the free, private podcast series. This 9-episode audio workshop lays the groundwork for the skills necessary to get regulated and stay regulated. You want to skip the struggle of DIY and get direct access to expertise? How high performer of you! The Upgrade is 90 days of guided transformation which includes a little bit of on-your-own-time work combined with direct access to me. Every week, you’ll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get coaching with me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens. "I don't want to figure it out, I don't want to search for the answers. I want to skip past the line and get it directly from you." If that's you, YOU want private coaching. You are past needing to do things on your own, you want a seasoned expert by your side. This isn’t about support in the margins. This is a full-access container for your biggest growth and boldest goals. And unless you’re planning on me moving in with you, this is as close to me as it gets.
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Little Fires Everywhere: Why High Achievers Are Always Burned Out (And How To Stop)
06/18/2025
Little Fires Everywhere: Why High Achievers Are Always Burned Out (And How To Stop)
You’re the one everyone turns to when things go sideways. You stay calm when the stakes are high. You SHINE under pressure. So why are you so burned out? In this episode of Calm AF, I’m breaking down the real reason high achievers feel like they’re constantly putting out fires—and why your nervous system can’t seem to turn off, even when there’s nothing actually burning. We’re talking about: Why hypervigilance isn’t the secret to your success What firefighters can teach you about calm under pressure How your nervous system turns minor stress into five-alarm panic The identity trap of being “the one who holds it all together” Why regulating BEFORE the pressure hits is the actual flex If you're tired of living like every moment is an emergency, this episode will feel like a permission slip and a wake-up call. Links & Resources: 90 days of guided transformation—from hyper achiever to Calm AF high performer. Every week, you’ll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get direct access to me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens. Secret Podcast: A free audio series to help you make the transition from an overwhelmed overachiever to a regulated, calm AF high performer. Come say hi on Instagram: Subscribe + leave a review if this episode landed with you
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A Commencement Speech for Grownups:
06/11/2025
A Commencement Speech for Grownups:
Today's episode is a little different than what you're used to hearing. Today I wrote US a commencment speech. Inspired by my son’s high school graduation, I started thinking about all the ways adults are graduating: out of relationships, into relationships, out of old roles, into new chapters, out of versions of ourselves that no longer fit. But we rarely pause to celebrate those transitions. In fact, we usually shame ourselves for them. Not today. This speech is for the 38-, 48-, 58-year-old who’s starting over. Starting again. Moving into a new chapter. It’s a love letter to your resilience, your wisdom, and your still-unfolding story. In this episode, you’ll hear: Why every ending is actually a graduation What midlife commencement really looks like (hint: pet hair + coffee stains included) The truth about possibility, purpose, and starting over A powerful reminder that you’re right on time, exactly as you are Whether you’re navigating a breakup, a career pivot, an empty nest, or just a quiet inner shift—you’re not behind. You’re on the brink. The world is still yours. Links & Resources: 90 days of guided transformation—from hyper achiever to Calm AF high performer. Every week, you’ll get a focused lesson to keep you on track as you master nervous system regulation and emotional resilience. You also get direct access to me via Voxer—for quick, personalized coaching as life happens. Secret Podcast: A free audio series to help you make the transition from an overwhelmed overachiever to a regulated, calm AF high performer. Come say hi on Instagram: Subscribe + leave a review if this episode landed with you
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7 Strategies to Get the Best Out of Yourself and Everyone Around You
05/28/2025
7 Strategies to Get the Best Out of Yourself and Everyone Around You
In this episode, we’re talking about how to be the kind of leader, partner, parent, and friend that inspires the very best in others—and yourself. You already know how to push, nudge, and motivate yourself. But is the way you are leading yoruself the same way you are showing up for others? And if not, why not? I'm sharing the 7 ways you motivate yourself to be your best and how to start applying these same strategies to others: 1. Keeping people down when they’re struggling 2. Shaming instead of compassion 3. Withholding love until they’re “worthy” 4. Keeping score of their failures 5. Comparing them to everyone else 6. Disappearing when they need support 7. Only celebrating perfection And if you’re curious about how to start upgrading your old, tired strategies to ones that might actually work (without the burnout)—I’ve got resources for you. Resources Mentioned: Private Podcast: From Hyperachiever to High Performer [YOUR_UPGRADE_LINK_HERE]
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A Client Story: This is What Real Nervous System Regulation Sounds Like
05/23/2025
A Client Story: This is What Real Nervous System Regulation Sounds Like
How many times have you tried to set a boundary but then backed down. Today’s bonus episode features a powerful Voxer message from one of my Upgrade clients—brought to life with a little AI magic (to keep my private clients private). What you’ll hear is what this work ACTUALLY sounds like. What is possible when you don't just know how to regulate in structured moments, but in real life. No spiraling. No shutdown. Just clarity, boundaries, and calm. This is exactly what we practice inside —and from May 23rd until May 26th, you get the full program. —doors close Monday, May 26: Inside the Upgrade, you’ll learn how to: Speak without overexplaining Say no without apologizing Lead without control Rest without shutting down Stay regulated—not just in moments, but as your default You get: 12 weeks private coaching via Voxer Weekly private podcast episodes Access to the Regulated course Daily bite-sized reminders in your inbox This is for you if you're tired of working so hard to calm down –– because it obviously doesn't work like that.
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How High Achievers Can Avoid Summer Burnout: Mastering Nervous System Regulation
05/20/2025
How High Achievers Can Avoid Summer Burnout: Mastering Nervous System Regulation
Summer is supposed to feel freeing—but for hyper achievers, it often feels anything but. In this episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on why summer is actually the most dysregulating season of the year for high performers, energy managers, and people pleasers. If you’ve ever felt guilty for not enjoying your “time off,” or found yourself craving September more than sunshine, this one’s for you. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why the lack of routine in summer can trigger nervous system chaos How the Calm AF Scale helps you avoid swinging between hypervigilance and total shutdown What a regulated, grounded summer can look like—and how to create it Important Dates Enrollment for The Calm AF Summer Upgrade: May 23–26 Program Start Date: June 1 Resources: → The Private Podcast Series: → Coaching Program →
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How To "Let Them" (Without Your Head Exploding): Boundaries, Regulation, And Emotional Resilience
05/07/2025
How To "Let Them" (Without Your Head Exploding): Boundaries, Regulation, And Emotional Resilience
We love the idea of “Let Them.” Let them judge you. Let them walk away. Let them misunderstand you. But when you're actually in it—when someone ghosts you, talks behind your back, or oversteps your boundary—it doesn’t feel empowering. It feels like rejection. Or worse, like you're white knuckling "let themmmmmm" so hard, you think your head might explode. In this episode, I break down what “Let Them” really means (spoiler: it’s not about not caring), how nervous system regulation helps you stop reacting, and why emotional freedom starts with staying anchored in your body—even when you’re angry, hurt, or annoyed. What you'll learn: – Why “Let Them” is more than just a mindset – How to stay regulated when you feel rejected or misunderstood – Why boundaries collapse when you're dysregulated – What it actually looks like to be mad and grounded – How to let people go without losing yourself Mentioned in this episode: → The Private Podcast Series: → Coaching Program →
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You're Not Fine. You're Functioning.
04/23/2025
You're Not Fine. You're Functioning.
You’re not fine. You’re functioning. And if that hit a little too close to home, this episode is for you. You’re showing up, getting things done, holding it all together— But inside, your nervous system is screaming. This episode is the mirror you didn’t know you needed. 🎧 Want to stop just functioning and start actually feeling like yourself again? Start In this episode, we talk about: The invisible cost of high-functioning women pretending they’re fine Why “I’m fine” is a nervous system default, not the truth How overthinking, overgiving, and overfunctioning are all survival strategies The real reason your boundaries don’t stick What to do when “fine” is no longer good enough You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re just practiced at surviving. Ready to stop managing life and start leading it? Listen to the private podcast: 💥 And if you already know you’re ready for the next level… is your next step. Apply through the private podcast or DM me “UPGRADE” on Instagram:
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Breaking Free from the Guilt Trap: From Energy Manager to High Performer
04/16/2025
Breaking Free from the Guilt Trap: From Energy Manager to High Performer
You say “I feel guilty.” But is that really what’s happening? In this episode, I’m calling out the biggest lie high performers tell themselves—and what’s actually keeping you stuck in overgiving, overfunctioning, and overthinking. You’ll learn: The real emotion behind “guilt” Why you feel bad setting boundaries (even when you know better) The 3-part script to break the guilt cycle for good This episode isn’t a self-help pep talk. It’s a pattern interrupt. Resources: : This series unpacks what most people never tell high performers: your next level isn’t about doing more—it’s about feeling safer doing less. It’s about trusting yourself deeply, leading without force, and accessing your full power without burning out. $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain. A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy. If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. A 12 week guided course delivered via email and private podcast, designed to expand your nervous system’s capacity to stay regulated PLUS 12 weeks of personalized text and voice coaching (via Voxer). If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.
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Shifting Identities — From Hyper Achiever to High Performer
04/09/2025
Shifting Identities — From Hyper Achiever to High Performer
You don’t need more hustle—you need a new identity. In this final part of the 3-part series, Kristen breaks down the two biggest shifts that unlock high performance: making calm your home base (not your vacation) and finally letting go of the belief that doing it all alone makes you stronger. You don’t have to be operating at an elite level to think like a high performer—but you’ll never become one thinking like a hyperachiever. Resources: : This series unpacks what most people never tell high performers: your next level isn’t about doing more—it’s about feeling safer doing less. It’s about trusting yourself deeply, leading without force, and accessing your full power without burning out. $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain. If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. A 12 week guided course delivered via email and private podcast, designed to expand your nervous system’s capacity to stay regulated PLUS 12 weeks of personalized text and voice coaching (via Voxer). If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.
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What Hyper-Achievers Do that High Performers Don't
04/02/2025
What Hyper-Achievers Do that High Performers Don't
If you’re always overthinking, overdoing, and over-managing everything in your life, this episode will help you see where those habits are coming from—and what’s possible when you start leading from regulation instead of urgency. Inside this episode: Why being busy isn’t a badge of honor—it's a red flag How high performers simplify instead of overcomplicate The difference between leading through pressure vs. encouragement Why overthinking keeps you stuck (and what to do instead) Why doing everything alone isn’t helping you move faster ✨ Ready to go deeper? Subscribe to the free private podcast: Resources: : Learn to how to get and stay calm af. $9/month or $99/year — wake up every morning to a powerful, bite-sized reminder that blends neuroplasticity with just the right amount of dopamine to rewire your brain, shift your mindset, and keep you aligned with who you're becoming. A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy. If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours. If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.
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The Daily Habits of High Performers
03/19/2025
The Daily Habits of High Performers
Ever wonder why high performers seem to have effortless discipline while you struggle to stick to your habits? It’s not magic—it’s simplicity, consistency, and a commitment to the boring. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the key differences between hypervigilant high achievers (who run on stress and urgency) and Calm AF high performers (who operate from clarity and intention). You’ll learn: Why you’re overcomplicating your routines and making success harder than it needs to be. Why high performers don’t chase instant gratification—they trust the process. Why expecting your routine to entertain you is keeping you stuck. The simple, sustainable habits that make high performers successful (without the chaos). If you’re ready to stop overthinking, start moving, and finally make your success sustainable, this episode is for you. Resources: $9/month or $99/year—and wake up every morning to a reminder that rewires your brain. A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy. If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours. If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.
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Why Trying To Control Everything is Keeping You Stuck—And What to Do Instead
03/05/2025
Why Trying To Control Everything is Keeping You Stuck—And What to Do Instead
If you’re the one who shifts the energy in a room, who anticipates what people need before they even realize it, who prides yourself on preventing problems before they happen—this episode is for you. You believe you’re controlling things because you have proof—meetings where you turned a "no" into a "yes," situations you steered to avoid disaster, people you influenced into changing their minds. But here’s the truth: Control was never actually yours. In this episode, we break down: How gripping tighter actually makes things worse Why you’re exhausting yourself for an illusion Why you believe you control the world, but not your own thoughts What surrender really means—and why it’s not "giving up," it’s actually the path to true power Resources: Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they’re $9/month. Join here. A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy. If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours. If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only.
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Struggling to Reach The Next Level? Why You’re Operating at 70% and How to Fix It
02/26/2025
Struggling to Reach The Next Level? Why You’re Operating at 70% and How to Fix It
You think you’re giving 100%—pushing yourself, outworking, and outperforming. But what if you’re actually only operating at 70% and don’t even realize it? In this episode, I break down why elite performers feel maxed out, even when they have more to give. It’s not about working harder—it’s about stopping the energy leaks that are burning you out. You’ll learn: The #1 reason high achievers feel stuck and exhausted How wasted energy—mental tension, overthinking, and nervous system overload—keeps you from peak performance Why the top performers in the world don’t push harder—they regulate better Practical strategies to calibrate your nervous system and unlock your full capacity If you’re ready to stop running on nervous system overload and start performing at your true potential—without burning out—this episode is for you. Resources: Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they’re $9/month. Join here. A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy. If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours. If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke, quick, and by application only. If you want a calmer, more joyful life, you don’t need a complete overhaul—just small, consistent shifts. That’s exactly what the Love Letters offer: a simple daily practice that transforms from the inside out—for just $9 a month.
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Why It’s Hard to Enjoy Your Life—Even When You Think You Should
02/19/2025
Why It’s Hard to Enjoy Your Life—Even When You Think You Should
Welcome back to Calm AF. In today’s episode, we’re diving into a moment that every high achiever eventually faces: I did it. I achieved the thing. I checked all the boxes. So why don’t I feel how I thought I would? If that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Inside This Episode: Why hustling feels so good (and why it stops working) The moment every high achiever faces—and how to move through it The difference between achieving for validation vs. achieving from enoughness Why the world doesn’t want you to stop hustling (and how to break free) How to redefine success on your terms Resources & Links: 💙 Start your day with a powerful, perspective-shifting message—before the world pulls you back into the grind. These love letters will shift your whole day and they’re $9/month. Join here. 💙 A self paced course that walks you through getting to know your nervous system reactions and helps you create a plan to overcome old patterns and spend more time feeling peaceful and happy. 💙 If you don’t want to DIY it with a course, but you aren’t quite ready for the level of private coaching, the Upgrade is for you. On-demand, personalized coaching via Voxer access during office hours. 💙 If you want me right next to you, accessible and available when you need coaching (not a week later) as you achieve your goals and create the life you love with EASE, private coaching is what you’re looking for. This is high touch, bespoke and we move quickly.
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Why Discomfort Is a Green Light
02/12/2025
Why Discomfort Is a Green Light
You want the next-level version of yourself? You have to think like her, act like her, show up as her. But here’s the catch—growth isn’t comfortable. It’s not supposed to be. A couple weeks ago, I spent four days deep in upleveling and shifting mindsets with my bestie, Amanda and over and over, the theme that kept coming up wasn’t the strategy or logistics—it was discomfort. The discomfort of stepping into a bigger vision. The discomfort of letting go of what won’t come with you. The discomfort of doing the things that feel risky, scary, and unknown. Today, we’re talking about why discomfort is actually a green light in your transformation, how to tell the difference between fear of expansion and a genuine red flag, and how to rewire your mindset so you don’t let discomfort keep you stuck. You’re listening to this because you know there’s another level waiting for you. But if discomfort keeps stopping you, it’s time to learn how to move through it instead of avoiding it. Here’s how we can work together to build that skill: – If discomfort keeps knocking you off track, Regulated is a self paced course where you learn how to manage your nervous system so you can take action without spiraling. – Need a strategic, high-impact coaching session to get you unstuck now? This is a one-time, focused session to recalibrate your mindset and get you moving immediately. – This is for high-performers who are ready to move—fast. If you don’t need hand-holding but want targeted, in-the-moment coaching to stay in momentum, this is where we do it. Apply You don’t need to wait to feel ready. You need to build the skill of moving forward anyway. Pick the path that fits where you are, and let’s go.
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The Power of Mindset: Unlocking Your Next Level
01/29/2025
The Power of Mindset: Unlocking Your Next Level
At the highest levels of success, it’s not your talent, resources, or strategy that holds you back—it’s your mindset. In this episode, we explore how mastering your mindset unlocks your full potential and helps you step into your upleveled identity. You’ll hear Emma’s story—a high performer who had everything she needed to land her dream job, except the full on belief that she could. We’ll break down the invisible ceiling that fear and doubt create and share the exact steps to start embodying your next-level self today. If you’ve ever held back because success wasn’t guaranteed, this episode is for you. You’ll learn: Why mindset is your greatest asset at the top levels of success. The invisible ceiling keeping ambitious women stuck. How to create and embody a mental picture of your next-level self. Resources: : A self-paced course designed to help high achievers understand their unique nervous system and create a personalized Calm AF plan. : The Speed Of Life Sessions are there for you when you need in the moment coaching. This one's for you is you find yourself trying not to jump in and fix people's moods, problems, energy. Get coached so you don't jump in their hole. Two powerful audios. Immediate results. Lasting change. Upgrade to 12 weeks of personalized Voxer support to implement what you’ve learned with direct guidance from me. High-touch, tailored support for ambitious achievers ready to thrive without burning out.
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How To Stop Fixing Everyone Else’s Problems
01/22/2025
How To Stop Fixing Everyone Else’s Problems
Are you exhausted from constantly fixing everyone else’s problems? Do you feel like your calm depends on everyone else being okay? In this episode, we’re tackling the habit of jumping into the “dysregulation hole” and learning how to stay grounded instead. You’ll discover: What the dysregulation hole is and why you keep jumping in. The real cost of always fixing other people’s problems. How to disrupt the cycle and reclaim your energy. Plus, I’ve created a special Speed of Life Coaching Session to go along with this episode. It includes a quick, no-fluff coaching session for when you’re about to jump in, and a deeper dive episode to help you encounter fewer holes to begin with. Resources: : Tired of jumping into everyone else’s chaos and losing sight of your own goals? The SOL Session: How to Stop Jumping in the Hole gives you the tools to pause, ground yourself, and lead with calm instead. Two powerful audios. Immediate results. Lasting change. – is a self-paced online course to help you understand your unique nervous system and create a plan that works for YOU to get and stay calm AF. Get it now before the price goes up. – is 90 days of personalized support. Using Voxer (a voice/text messaging app) you can ask for help and I will give you direct guidance to help you navigate challenges and implement what you’re learning (during coaching hours on Tuesday-Thursday) . It’s flexible, practical, and designed to meet you where you are. If you’re ready to bridge the gap between self-paced learning and individualized coaching, The Upgrade is the perfect place to start. – is for those who want direct, no-fluff guidance tailored specifically to their challenges and goals. No sifting through content, no generalized advice—just personalized coaching that gets straight to the heart of what you need to move forward with clarity and confidence. If you're doing big things and you just want to get what you need and get back to it, private coaching is for you. Referral or application only.
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Why High Achievers Experience Burnout (And How to Fix It)
01/08/2025
Why High Achievers Experience Burnout (And How to Fix It)
Burnout isn’t just about being tired—it’s about being stuck in a cycle of overdrive and collapse that drains your energy, erodes your confidence, and leaves you feeling like no amount of rest will ever be enough. This morning, a client shared a story that perfectly captured the heart of this struggle, and it was so powerful I scrapped my original recording of this episode to include it. In this episode, I’ll share her transformational journey of breaking the burnout cycle—not by doing less or trying harder, but by completely shifting the energy behind her ambition. We’ll explore: Why burnout happens to ambitious people. How fear-driven ambition keeps you stuck in survival mode. The real costs of staying in the burnout loop—on your energy, confidence, creativity, and joy. What happens when you break the cycle and step into aligned ambition. If you’ve ever felt like time off leaves you just as exhausted as when you started, or if you’re constantly swinging between pushing too hard and completely shutting down, this episode is for you. Discover how to recalibrate your energy, regulate your nervous system, and create a life where rest and productivity coexist effortlessly. Resources – : For the most high-touch, personalized support, private coaching offers direct access to me, tailored to your life’s biggest challenges and opportunities. Together, we’ll keep you regulated, focused, and powerful as you create lasting transformation in your marriage, career, or personal growth. Private coaching is available by application or referral. Click to apply for 2025. – is a self-paced course designed for high-level achievers who want to deeply understand their unique nervous system and craft a personalized plan to stay Calm AF, no matter what life throws at them. – For those ready to take it further, you can upgrade to , which includes 12 weeks of personalized support via Voxer. This ensures you have direct access to me as you implement what you learn in the course, navigate challenges, and create lasting transformation.
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What to Leave Behind in 2024: Upgrade Your Energy for 2025
01/01/2025
What to Leave Behind in 2024: Upgrade Your Energy for 2025
Happy New Year! How FUN to start the day with a brand new episode for a brand new year! BUT… This isn’t another episode about resolutions or “New Year, New You.” Because the new year doesn’t need a new you. It needs the real you—calm, aligned, and ready to create the life you truly want. But before we step into that energy, there’s some baggage to leave behind. In this episode, I’m naming the sh*t you need to leave in 2024 so you can level up your energy in 2025. We’ll cover: The 7 patterns, beliefs, and habits holding you back (looking at you, perfectionism and overthinking). Why regulation, resilience, and rewiring are the keys to creating real success. How slowing down and aligning your energy leads to faster, more fulfilling results. This year, your goals will be a natural byproduct of living from a regulated, empowered state. No hustle, no grind—just calm, aligned progress. Tune in now to learn how to leave behind what no longer serves you and step into the real you in 2025. ✨ Ready to take this work deeper? My course Regulated is here to help you master your energy, build resilience, and create lasting change. Check it out now while the pre-launch price is still available! Let’s make 2025 the year of clarity, confidence, and alignment. You are here to live a life that feels as good as it looks. No more settling for less. – is a self-paced online course to help you understand your unique nervous system and create a plan that works for YOU to get and stay calm AF. Get it now before the price goes up. – is where you take what you learn in the Regulated course and move from knowing to implementing. Over 12 weeks, you’ll receive weekly guidance and my direct support through Voxer during coaching hours, ensuring you don’t get stuck at the points where you’d typically give up. This program is designed to help you create lasting change and confidently navigate your journey from unsure and anxious to calm and confident. – If you’re looking for the most high-touch, personalized support, private coaching is for you. This is coaching at the speed of life—tailored entirely to you, with direct access to me as you navigate the challenges and opportunities that matter most. Whether it’s your marriage, career, or personal growth, we’ll work together to keep you regulated, focused, and powerful as you create lasting transformation. Private coaching is by application or referral. to apply for a spot in 2025.
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Navigating the Holiday Vortex: Rest Your Way to the Life You Want
12/24/2024
Navigating the Holiday Vortex: Rest Your Way to the Life You Want
The week between Christmas and New Year’s—what I call the holiday vortex—is your secret weapon for creating a calm, focused, and successful start to 2025. In this episode, I’ll show you why rest is the most productive thing you can do and how using this unique time strategically can help you achieve more without burnout. You’ll learn how to break free from the productivity treadmill, rewire your nervous system, and step into the new year with clarity, confidence, and joy. If you’re an ambitious high achiever ready to thrive without exhaustion, this episode is for you. If you’re ready to take this work deeper—to create a life where you’re ambitious, happy, and thriving—here’s how we can work together: : If you are a high performer, high achiever and all that’s missing is the calm and enjoyment piece AND you have a good understanding of my work, either through working together, the podcast, or other personal development work, 1:1 coaching is for you. This is High-touch, personalized support designed to help you regulate your nervous system, build resilience, and achieve big goals without burnout. My clients don’t need me to teach them, they need me to COACH them in moving further, faster in the best way. : If this sounds like you, but you don’t have that advanced understanding of your nervous system or my work, Mastering Calm AF might be a better fit. This is A 12-week program that combines my self paced course, Regulated, with real-time coaching to help you regulate, align, and thrive. And if you’re not looking for 1:1 support, you can start with the self paced course where you learn to recognize your dysregulation patterns and create a plan to return to a regulated calm AF nervous system every time.
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Success and Ambition Without Burnout: How to Achieve and Thrive
12/18/2024
Success and Ambition Without Burnout: How to Achieve and Thrive
Can you be ambitious AND calm? Can you be a high performer without burning out? In this episode of Calm AF, I’m sharing the exact principles I teach my high-performance clients so they can keep striving, keep growing, and actually thrive—without burning out. Resources: : A step-by-step guide to mastering your nervous system, transforming how you respond to stress, and finding more calm and clarity in your daily life. : If you want to take what you learn in Regulated and ensure you don’t just learn but apply it, this 12-week program provides accountability, real-time support through Voxer access, and guidance to help you stay on track and navigate challenges as they arise. : Personalized, high-level support designed to meet you exactly where you are and guide you toward greater clarity, regulation, and alignment. Private mentorship will be a great fit for you if you have worked with me in the past or you have a healthy understanding my coaching style. This is by application only.
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Breaking the Overthinking Spiral: The Path to Aligned Action
12/11/2024
Breaking the Overthinking Spiral: The Path to Aligned Action
Overthinking feels productive—it’s like you’re preparing, analyzing, and planning for every possibility. But in reality, it’s a mental trap that keeps you stuck, drains your energy, and erodes your confidence. In this episode, we’re diving into why overthinking happens, how it sabotages your progress, and—most importantly—how to break free. You’ll hear the story of a high-achieving client who struggled with perfectionism and overthinking and learn the practical steps to shift from analysis paralysis to aligned action. What You’ll Learn: The surprising reason your brain defaults to overthinking—and why it feels so hard to stop. The real cost of overthinking, from lost momentum to shattered confidence. Simple, actionable steps to regulate your nervous system and start moving forward with clarity. If you’ve been stuck in a loop of second-guessing, hesitation, and mental gymnastics, this episode will give you the tools to take the next aligned step toward your goals. Resources Mentioned: : A self-paced online course to help you understand your nervous system and create a personalized Calm AF plan. Course launches 12/12. : A 3-month program with course content and personalized support from me. Access to course begins 12/12/24 with accountability and personalized support beginning 1/9/25 : High-level, tailored support for ambitious high performers who want to embody their drive AND enjoy their success.
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The Competitive Edge Nobody Talks About: Emotional Regulation
12/04/2024
The Competitive Edge Nobody Talks About: Emotional Regulation
Discover why emotional regulation is the ultimate competitive advantage in Episode 303 of Calm AF. In this episode, we explore how staying calm under pressure transforms your leadership, relationships, and personal growth. Learn why the calmest person in the room holds the most power, and how emotional regulation can help you build trust, process feedback effectively, and achieve faster, better results in every area of your life. What you’ll learn in this episode: Why fear-based leadership doesn’t work in the long run—and how calm leaders get bigger results. How emotional regulation helps you handle feedback without spiraling or snapping. The ripple effect of calm: How your energy impacts the people around you. Simple tools to build emotional regulation and stay grounded in high-pressure situations. If you’re ready to unlock the power of calm and use it as your secret weapon for success, tune in now.
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The Ripple Effect of Regulation
11/27/2024
The Ripple Effect of Regulation
In this episode, we’re diving into the power of a regulated presence and why it’s the most game-changing skill you can develop. You’ll learn: Why your peace doesn’t depend on controlling others. The difference between performative calm and true regulation. How staying regulated creates a ripple effect that impacts everyone around you. Plus, I’ll share practical tools to start regulating your nervous system today and explain why your nervous system will resist these changes—and how to override that resistance. If you’re ready to stop managing everyone else’s energy and start stepping into your own, tune in now.
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From Overwhelm to Calm: How to Stay Regulated in a Dysregulated World
11/20/2024
From Overwhelm to Calm: How to Stay Regulated in a Dysregulated World
Sometimes, the most powerful move you can make is to stop. In this episode, I’m sharing what I learned during a months-long pause from my usual routines, including how letting go of the old ways of working revealed a new, more aligned path forward. I’ll take you behind the scenes of why I had to cancel everything—except 1:1 client work—and how that shift transformed not only my business but also how I live and coach. This episode is an invitation to pause, recalibrate, and step into a new era of intentional, powerful living. Join the waitlist for Mastering Calm AF: Apply for 1:1 Coaching: Follow me on Instagram: Learn more on my website:
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300 Episodes: Embracing the Shift to What’s Next
06/26/2024
300 Episodes: Embracing the Shift to What’s Next
As we move forward, I want you to imagine how it feels to take everything we've learned from these 300 episodes and let it integrate within you. You don't need to carry the weight of constantly seeking more information. You are ready. You are equipped with all the tools and knowledge needed to move freely and lightly. Get ready for a big shift. Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join to pay in full ~ Join for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply to set up a 30 minute call.
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How Chronic Dysregulation Is Affecting Your Life, Part 2
06/19/2024
How Chronic Dysregulation Is Affecting Your Life, Part 2
Mood swings. Brain fog. Isolation, procrastination, hopelessness, anxiety. And those are just a few (more) of the ways chronic dysregulation is fucking up your life. ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join to pay in full ~ Join for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply to set up a 30 minute call.
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How Chronic Dysregulation Is Affecting Your Life
06/12/2024
How Chronic Dysregulation Is Affecting Your Life
I spent more time than normal in a state of dysregulation last week – and holy hell, do I feel it. Here are 5 ways frequent or chronic dysregulation physically manifests in our bodies. ~ To inquire about working with me in 2024, Not yet a member of Calm AF Life? ~ Join to pay in full ~ Join for payment plan ~ Or if you have questions before joining, simply to set up a 30 minute call.
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