What is a Modern Husband? Find Out and Have a Happier Couple Life!

My greatest joy is discovering somebody I wasn’t aware of who's doing something uniquely meaningful.

That brings me to Brian Page. He is a Modern Husband. What does that even mean?

Brian Page spent his career improving lives through personal finance education and he has now founded a platform called ‘Modern Husbands’ to help couples navigate their home as a team.  

He and his wife have been married for over 20 years and have 3 kids. He says they’re an everyday dual income American family.

For the early part of their marriage, Brian was the one working out of the house and working long hours. His wife was home managing their life and taking care of their kids. Then one day things changed. His wife got a great job opportunity that paid more than he was making, and they made the decision to swap roles. Brian’s new job was much harder than he ever realized. When he and his wife switched working roles, he was seriously blown away by his new work responsibilities as a stay-at-home Dad!

He recently posted something on LinkedIn that caught my attention.

It was a list called ‘The Mental Load’.

In it Brian listed all the things that go on in somebody's day who's at home managing a family household. Wow - It really gives respect and insight to the day-to-day responsibilities of the stay-at-home spouse!

Brian said,

“For much of our marriage, I was the 60-80-hour-a-week breadwinner who did very little to manage the home. Early in our marriage, I probably would’ve rolled my eyes at a conversation about the mental load. You just don’t know what you don’t know, and that’s not necessarily anyone’s fault. “

“Many men rightfully feel defensive when we hear we need to do more at home. Most of us simply slip into doing certain tasks without understanding the invisible labor that goes with them.”

“I created a mental load list with just a few examples to provide some context of what it takes to run a home. However, as much as we would like our homes to be run by checklists, it’s just not that simple.”

“It’s been my experience that men desperately want to be great for their spouses. What often stands in the way is an understanding of the mental load that accompanies the tasks needed for a home to run, which is why I wrote this extensive post.”

Marriage is a partnership built on trust, love, and mutual respect.

Brian says he’s trying to show couples how to navigate life as a couple better.

I personally thought Brian’s ‘mental load’ list was LOUD and worth sharing for any stay-at-home parent who’s been frustrated trying to explain to their spouse what the heck they’ve been doing all day ‘at home’!

Find it on his website: ModernHusbands.com

BTW: Brian who spent 15 years as a personal finance and economics educator was recognized as a National Educator of the Year by the Milken Foundation and Ohio Department of Education. He was a CNN Money Hero, a CEE Forbes Award winner, and a former Working Group Member of the U.S. President's Advisory Council on Financial Capability.

He says, life and family change, and his priorities now are to support his wife's career ambitions and his children's needs

Enjoy meeting this modern husband Brian Page in this podcast of our live conversation on The Debbie Nigro Show.