The Hidden Connection: Custody Battles & Property Splits in Divorce

🎧 Listen to This Episode If You…

✨ Are in the middle of property and custody negotiations

⚖️ Have an ex who’s threatened to push for more custody unless you agree to property terms

🏡 Want to understand how family courts consider housing and children’s needs in property settlement

😟 Are worried about being pressured or manipulated during mediation

💡 Want practical strategies to protect your kids’ best interests and your financial future

 

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe.
📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.

The Hidden Connection: Custody Battles & Property Splits

Custody and property are supposed to be separate issues in divorce — but are they really? In this powerful episode, we discuss the hidden connection between parenting arrangements and property settlement that many people don’t realize until it’s too late.

We discuss how the Australian Family Court FCFCOA actually factors in who the primary carer is, the housing needs of children, and why having custody can impact the percentage you receive in a property split. More importantly, we explore what happens when your ex tries to use the kids as bargaining chips — and some strategies you can use to protect yourself and your children.

If you’ve ever felt pressured to trade property for custody or worried that your ex is using threats of “50/50 care” to get more of the financial pool, this episode is for you.

⏱️ Episode Timeline – What We Discuss:

[00:00] Introduction: Custody and Property – The Hidden Connection in Divorce
[01:31] Do Custody Arrangements Impact Property Settlement in Family Law?
[03:36] Why Housing Needs of Children Affect Property Division
[06:50] Can You Keep the Family Home for the Kids After Divorce?
[08:28] When Exes Use Custody as a Bargaining Chip in Property Negotiations
[11:00] What to Do if Your Ex Threatens 50/50 Custody to Get More Property
[13:11] Why Judges Care About Evidence, Chronologies, and Child-Focused Behavior
[16:07] Spotting Red Flags: Custody Demands Tied to Property or Child Support
[21:00] How Lawyers and Mediators Handle Custody-Property Tradeoffs
[25:38] When Exes Suddenly ‘Step Up’ Parenting for Strategic Reasons
[28:12] Negotiation Strategies: Staying Child-Focused While Protecting Property
[31:32] Best Interests of the Child: What Section 60CC of the Family Law Act Really Says
[39:00] Avoidant vs High-Conflict Exes: How Property Battles Play Out Differently
[44:00] Why Documentation and Chronologies Are Your Best Defense
[46:00] Final Thoughts: Staying Child-Focused and Resilient Through Divorce

Resources & Links

🚨 Support Services:

• • 1800 RESPECT (Family Violence Support – Australia)
    
    

  • Lifeline: 13 11 14 (Crisis Support – Australia)

  • 🎧 Related Episodes:

• Primary Carer Episode https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oZAEkj18NEcUfJPXP0FOT?si=9rZ-jNzwQfSYl0naMgUMnA

• Section 60cc Best Interests of the Children

https://classic.austlii.edu.au/au/legis/cth/consol_act/fla1975114/s60cc.html

 

• Mediation or Manipulation https://open.spotify.com/episode/4P1DjaMtXTq2sbel4qywew?si=ao8KrQ4PTZuusYrkmMZGUw

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses family violence, coercive control, and situations that may feel unsafe.
📌 Legal Disclaimer: This episode is for general information only and is not legal advice. Please seek your own legal support for your specific circumstances.