078 : Uniting the Military Community and Shattering Stereotypes with PadWives Assemble
The InDependent Spouse Podcast with Jess Sands
Release Date: 07/15/2025
The InDependent Spouse Podcast with Jess Sands
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info_outlineJoin Jess Sands in this inspiring episode of The InDependent Spouse as she welcomes the incredible duo behind the award-winning podcast, Pad Wives Assemble – Sophs and Kirsha!
Tune in as they dive into the realities of modern military life, discussing everything from building a supportive tri-service community to challenging outdated stereotypes about military spouses. Sophs and Kirsha share their journey of creating Pad Wives Assemble, born from a desire to provide a fun, safe, and inclusive space for armed forces families to connect and feel heard, with a few giggles along the way.
They open up about overcoming negative feedback, the power of positive messages from their listeners, and the daily ups and downs of military life. Discover the story behind their surprising UK Top Influencer Award win and why visibility for military families is so crucial in today's world.
Plus, get ready to be inspired by their incredible charitable initiatives! Sophs and Kirsha reveal their ongoing efforts to support veterans' mental health through Combat Stress and tease their exciting "Rationed and Ready: The Pad Wife Trials" YouTube series – a three-day immersive military-style challenge created by veterans, all for a great cause.
This episode is a testament to the resilience, strength, and incredible community spirit of military spouses. Whether you're navigating deployments, solo parenting, or simply looking for relatable stories and a good laugh, Sophs and Kirsha remind us that we are all in this together.
Key Takeaways:
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Building Community: The importance of creating inclusive spaces for all military spouses, regardless of service or rank, to share experiences and find support.
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Challenging Stereotypes: How open and honest conversations can break down misconceptions about military spouses and partners.
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The Power of Connection: The profound impact of shared stories and a friendly voice in combating loneliness and isolation in military life.
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Resilience in Action: Inspiring examples of military spouses turning personal challenges into thriving platforms and charitable endeavors.
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Giving Back: The dedication of Pad Wives Assemble to supporting veterans' mental health and other community initiatives.
About Pad Wives Assemble:
Pad Wives Assemble is an award-winning podcast created by Sophs and co-hosted by Kirsha, focusing on the realities of military life with a fun, honest, and inclusive approach for tri-service families. They are passionate about building community, challenging stigmas, and supporting charitable causes related to the armed forces.
Connect with Pad Wives Assemble: www.padwivesemble.co.uk
Events Mentioned:
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"Rationed and Ready: The Pad Wife Trials" - A six-part YouTube series coming soon, documenting a three-day military-style challenge for charity..
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Pad Wives Assemble Gala - An event featuring live performers, casino tables, raffles, and veterans sharing their stories, with voting proceeds going to Combat Stress. Tickets available on their website.
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Battle of the Forces - A boxing charity night in collaboration with veterans, aiming to become its own charity entity.
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Nuts Challenge Run - Fundraising for a veteran to open a jacket potato van that will employ other veterans.
About The InDependent Spouse Podcast:
Hosted by Jess Sands, The InDependent Spouse is your go-to podcast for inspiration and support in modern military life. Jess shares real stories of resilience and success from military partners, aiming to create a sense of belonging and remind listeners they are not alone.
Connect with The InDependent Spouse: www.milspo.co.uk/podcast
Free Business Startup Course: Available at www.milspo.co.uk/course