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info_outline"Bossy." "Rude." "Demanding." "Has an attitude."
If your autistic or ADHD child keeps getting these labels from teachers, family members, other parents or even yourself - this episode is for you.
As an AuDHD psychologist, I see this pattern and how it silences the voices of neurodivergent children. destroying children's voices every single day.
In this episode, I'll show you:
- What's REALLY happening when your neurodivergent child speaks directly
- Why YOUR nervous system reacts so strongly to their tone (and why that matters)
- The devastating long-term impact of constantly correcting tone
- The 4-Step approach that changes everything (with real examples you can use TODAY)
- How to repair when you get it wrong
This isn't about letting kids "be rude." It's about understanding the difference between directness and disrespect - and protecting your child's ability to advocate for themselves.
I'm excited to share this episode with you and share about an incredible workshop - "A Better 2026: A Gentle Reset for Overwhelmed Parents of Neurodivergent Children."
If you are ready to learn how to make 2026 lighter, you'll want to register right away! Can't wait to see you there:)
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About Holly Blanc Moses
Holly Blanc Moses is a neurodivergent psychologist, speaker, consultant, continuing education provider, and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV, and parent masterclasses.