The Emotional Toll of Sensory Sensitivities: What Autistic & ADHD Kids Feel That Adults Often Miss
Release Date: 12/11/2025
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info_outlinehttps://www.youtube.com/@autismadhdtvwithhollySensory experiences shape how neurodivergent kids feel, think, and show up in the world — and when those experiences are overwhelming, confusing, or dismissed, the emotional toll can be enormous.
In today’s rebroadcast, Holly Blanc Moses (AuDHD therapist, evaluator, and mom) gets deeply personal, sharing powerful stories from her own childhood and adulthood that reveal what sensory differences really feel like from the inside. From the “sock struggle” to being pushed into a pool, to finally standing under a waterfall at 50 years old—Holly opens the door to understanding sensory experiences in a way that is validating, compassionate, and unforgettable.
Whether you're a parent, therapist, or educator, this episode will help you see big reactions, meltdowns, refusals, or “sensitivities” through an entirely new lens:
✨ One rooted in sensory distress, not misbehavior.
✨ One grounded in emotional safety, not compliance.
✨ One that teaches us to believe kids—even when we don’t fully understand.
Because when we understand sensory needs, we understand the child.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
What sensory overload actually feels like for many autistic and ADHD individuals
Why sensory distress often leads to emotional dysregulation or meltdowns
How invalidation (“You’re being dramatic”) impacts long-term emotional wellbeing
Why believing kids’ sensory experiences improves trust, attachment, and regulation
Holly’s personal sensory stories (you may see your child or client in them!)
Who This Episode Is For:
✔ Parents of autistic & ADHD children
✔ Mental health therapists
✔ Educators, school staff, and support professionals
✔ Anyone who wants to better understand sensory differences and emotional regulation
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why does this tiny thing create such a big reaction?” — this episode will give you the clarity and compassion you’ve been searching for.
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About Holly Blanc Moses
Holly Blanc Moses is a neurodivergent psychologist, speaker, consultant, continuing education provider, and host of The Autism ADHD Podcast, Autism ADHD TV, and parent masterclasses.