Cut the Anchor: Why Your Most Powerful Resolution for 2026 Might Be a STOP List - Edge of the Napkin Series #18
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This time of year, something familiar happens. We turn the page on the calendar and feel the pull to do something different. We reach for a word like resolution and instinctively pair it with action. More discipline. More consistency. More output. More effort. Most resolutions are framed as additions — new habits, new systems, new rules we promise ourselves we’ll finally follow. But what if the most powerful move forward isn’t about what you start doing? What if real...
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People Come for the Work. They Stay for the Team. – Wintress Odom, CEO The Writers for Hire
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Wintress Odom is the Founder and CEO of The Writers For Hire, a company built on clarity, discipline, and consistently high-quality work. From the outside, it’s easy to assume the success came from systems, execution, and technical excellence alone. But on her paper napkin, Wintress wrote something deceptively simple: “People come for the work. They stay for the team.” That sentence didn’t come from a leadership book. It came from lived experience — from building a business, leading...
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Presence Over Presents: The Ultimate Gift You Can Give Yourself This Holiday
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The holidays come wrapped in familiar language. Slow down. Rest. Be present. Unplug. It sounds right. It even sounds desirable. And yet, for many leaders and entrepreneurs, it doesn’t always land. If anything, the holidays can quietly amplify a tension that’s been humming all year. Because while the world appears to be pausing, something inside you may still be moving. Measuring. Reviewing. Assessing. For years, that’s where I lived. When the...
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Turn the Other Cheek, Smile — and Mean It – David Miller
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There’s a particular kind of wisdom that doesn’t shout. It doesn’t posture. It doesn’t try to win the room. It shows up quietly, often after experience has taken its toll, and says: this way works better. That’s the kind of wisdom David Miller brought to this conversation. On his paper napkin, David wrote a deceptively simple line: “Turn the other cheek, smile :) and mean it!” At first glance, it sounds like something we’ve all heard before — maybe even dismissed. Too soft....
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Seeds Grow in the Soil: Why the Most Important Progress Is Invisible (Yet)
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There are seasons where doing the work feels strangely unrewarding. You’re showing up. You’re staying consistent. You’re doing what you said you would do. And yet — nothing obvious is happening. No external validation. No visible breakthrough. No clear sign that you’re “on track.” That’s usually when doubt starts whispering questions we don’t want to answer: Is this actually working? Am I wasting time? Shouldn’t I be further along by now? This Edge of the Napkin episode is about that exact season — the one...
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“Your Revenue Is Hiding in Plain Sight” — Sailynn Doyle on the 80/20 Shift That Changed Everything
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There’s a moment in every entrepreneur’s journey when the hustle stops feeling heroic and starts feeling heavy. For Sailynn Doyle — business systems strategist, former home-care franchise owner, and founder of Passion • Purpose • Posture — that moment came sitting alone in her car at 9 AM on a Tuesday, exhausted and crying before another 12-hour day. From the outside, she was a success story: a million-dollar business by year three. On the inside, she was drowning in the weight of the work. Endless demands. Constant interruptions. Team members who depended on her for every...
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Nothing to Prove. Everything to Be.
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There’s a moment in every leader’s life when they look around the “room” they’re in — not the physical room, but the emotional one, the psychological one, the internal one — and ask: “How much of who I am today was shaped by the right voices… and how much by the wrong ones?” For years, Govindh Jayaraman — founder of Paper Napkin Wisdom — sat in rooms filled with people who called themselves friends, collaborators, supporters. And many of them were exactly that. They challenged ideas. They sharpened thinking. They asked questions that helped build the...
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Dan Perry & Michael Serapiglia – “If You Get Lost, Enjoy the View Around You”
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Some stories begin with a business plan. Others begin with a feeling — a deep, lived truth that travel isn’t just about going somewhere, but about finally being somewhere without fear. That’s the story behind Toto Tours. When founder Dan Ware launched the company in 1990, LGBTQ+ travelers faced a world far less welcoming than it is today. Travel was often an act of courage. Safety wasn’t guaranteed. Connection wasn’t a given. And yet Dan believed something radical: that the world belonged to everyone, and that queer people deserved to explore it without shrinking,...
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Be the Man in Someone’s Corner
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There are times in life when wisdom doesn’t show up quietly. It doesn’t whisper. It doesn’t tap you gently on the shoulder. Sometimes it arrives like a jolt — like your heart recognizing something before your brain can process it. That’s how this episode began. If you’ve been following along, you know it’s been a hard season in our home. Stacey’s father — my father-in-law — has been moving through the final stages of his cancer journey. And while there is an entire conversation to be had about the health, the living, and the complexity of that experience… this...
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Noah Ellis — Do The Thing
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There’s a moment in every entrepreneur’s life when the universe stops whispering and starts shouting. A moment where the next level isn’t waiting behind brilliance or luck or timing — it’s sitting directly behind the one thing we don’t want to do. For Noah Ellis, founder of Ofland and a hospitality leader who’s spent his life building concepts, teams, and experiences, that moment became a clarity-inducing mantra so important that he didn’t just write it down… he tattooed on his body: Do the thing. Noah’s wisdom is the kind that doesn’t land with...
info_outlineWhen you meet Kevin Barnicle, you immediately sense his energy for challenging convention. He’s a seasoned entrepreneur, author, and business leader who has lived the entrepreneurial rollercoaster—leaving the security of corporate life, building companies from scratch, navigating competition with giants like Microsoft, and eventually selling his business. Along the way, Kevin built not just financial results but also a reputation for going against the grain.
His napkin is simple, direct, and deeply subversive:
“Look at what everyone else is doing, and do the opposite.”
That contrarian mindset has been Kevin’s compass since the beginning. While peers at his first job stayed put, clinging to the “safe” path, Kevin leaned into uncertainty. Everyone around him said don’t leave, yet he did—choosing risk, learning, and growth over predictability. That decision shaped his entrepreneurial DNA and continues to shape how he builds, leads, and invests today.
Why Doing the Opposite Works
Kevin’s wisdom doesn’t advocate rebellion for its own sake. It’s about pattern recognition. When the crowd rushes in one direction—whether in career moves, product design, or sales strategy—Kevin asks: What if the real opportunity lies in zigging where others zag?
He recalls moments when competition was fierce, deals were slipping, or the company hit a plateau. The instinct was to double down on what everyone else was already doing. Instead, Kevin went to the engineers, questioned assumptions, and tried the opposite approach. Time and again, that willingness to break from the herd opened doors competitors never saw.
As Kevin puts it: success isn’t just about copying someone else’s wheel; it’s about questioning whether you even need a wheel at all.
5 Key Takeaways from Kevin Barnicle
1. Don’t Follow the Herd
Most people stick to “safe” jobs or obvious strategies. The real growth often comes from stepping into the unknown.
👉 Take Action: Identify one area of your business where you’re doing what “everyone else” does. Ask: What would happen if I did the opposite?
2. Calculated Risk is Healthy
Kevin stresses that risk shouldn’t be reckless. But if you only play it safe, you’ll never break through.
👉 Take Action: Reframe failure as an experiment. Try one bold move this quarter that carries risk but also real learning potential.
3. Question Assumptions, Constantly
When things stall, don’t just grind harder. Step back and ask: What if our entire approach is wrong?
👉 Take Action: In your next team meeting, challenge everyone to propose an “opposite” idea to the current strategy.
4. Empower Others to Experiment
Kevin found that when leaders give permission to try—even if it fails—it builds stronger, more resilient teams.
👉 Take Action: Create space in your culture where people can test unconventional ideas without fear of blame.
5. Legacy is More Than Money
Kevin’s reflection goes beyond financial success. He speaks of humility, giving back, and sharing lessons learned. Doing the opposite isn’t just business strategy—it’s a way to live authentically.
👉 Take Action: Write down one contrarian decision you’ve made in your life. What did it teach you? How can you pass that lesson forward?
About Kevin Barnicle
Kevin Barnicle is an entrepreneur, investor, and author whose career spans technology, sales, and leadership. After starting at Dell, he launched his own company in a highly competitive space, grew it to millions in revenue, and successfully sold it. He continues to share his hard-earned lessons through writing and speaking, inspiring entrepreneurs to embrace risk, think differently, and lead boldly.
Final Thought
Kevin Barnicle’s napkin is a dare: don’t just follow. Don’t just blend in. Don’t just accept the rules. Instead, have the courage to step into the opposite lane—and see where it leads.
What about you? Take out a napkin, jot down the one place where you’ll “do the opposite,” and share it with the world using #PaperNapkinWisdom.